Miscarriage ...

[Samara2908]

Long story short .. After an unexpected pregnancy last February at 9 weeks I miscarried I'd barely dealt with the emotions of falling pregnant before I had to deal with the grief that hit me .. What made it worse was I had a two week wait for this as I was being monitored due to my fetal pole not developing and my HCG levels not doubling . All the time I was being treat alongside women with their lovely big bumps happy and healthy and it was the same when I miscarried .. Having that extra scan two weeks on before my D&C again sat with a bunch of happy women with healthy growing babies ... It was killing me inside .

I have a petition going for the department of health on separate care for women suffering a miscarriage I can't speak for everyone but when I suffered my miscarriage last year having to be treat and sit alongside women having happy healthy pregnancies hurt me just that little bit more inside and I feel having a separate department would be a positive change , I would really appreciate anyone who signs and shares this ?? epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/67515

Op I am really sorry to hear about your mc and how you where treated. I too had a mc but my hospital were much more understanding and I never came across any pregnant ladies throughout my treatment including the stay in hospital. I understand that different trusts have different procedures so this may have been the case in our situations.

Maybe consider putting this in mc section too.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

Me too, had to go back for scans after no heartbeat and was always asked to wait in a separate area. Good luck.

I had a missed miscarriage last year. At the scan when they found out the hospital were fantastic and took me into a separate room to talk/cry/make decisions.

After having a medically induced MC at home I then had to go back for a checkup 2 weeks later. Sitting in the early pregnancy unit I was confronted by a woman who,despite me being open about why I was there, spent 40 mins moaning at me that she had 5 girls at home so felt she deserved to have a boy with pregnancy number 6!!!!!

Not the hospitals fault she was an insensitive fool but not sure we should have been seen during the same session etc.

I am really sorry for your loss and know it hurts like hell at the moment. It will get better and your time will come xx

same position here. in fact it's today I am going for a scan to confirm miscarriage. not looking forward to it

When I mc the mw spoke to me in the middle of a busy waiting room, suggested it was maybe just my period (despite the positive tests), took my blood, gave me a leaflet and sent me home. It was horrible.

I was offered the comforting words of "it's not so bad for you, you don't have any kids yet so you don't know what you've lost".

This was by a lady who was also miscarrying. At another appointment I was shown an early scan photo by a very young woman and her mum who both asked me how far along I was.

I'm glad not everyone seems to have had the awful experience I had , I was pretty much just given a leaflet and sent home aswell I was never offered any support or anything just told to decide what I wanted to do and phone them ! It seems dependant on the hospital being kept seperate so if anything I hope my petition will at least raise the issue of somewhat better support for women having a miscarriage , thankyou for all the comments and my heart goes out to all of you that also suffered a loss ??

Sorry to hear about your experiences Samara. When I went to the epu at UCLH about a suspected mmc and then later my erpc, I was in a waiting room surrounded by pregnant women. Tbh, I was so mired in my own misery and pretty preoccupied, so I didn't take too much notice of them. The only thing I would've changed was the incessant crappy maternity themed television, but that still infuriates me now I'm 19 weeks pregnant.

I assume you also know about mumsnet's big campaign to improve miscarriage care, which I believe covers things like this.

www.mumsnet.com/campaigns/miscarriage-care-campaign