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Has anyone else stopped having sex?

28 replies

Daisypops · 11/09/2006 21:33

Bit of a personal question I know, but I was just wondering. Everytime me and DP have tried its been too uncomfortable and I've bled slightly so its put me off. Am I been mean?!

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sweetkitty · 11/09/2006 21:38

No not really.

I have bad SPD when pregnant and DP said "if it hurts to turn over in bed then I'm not even suggesting anything else"

We did try a few times when I went overdue with DD2 but it wasn't that enjoyable.

Tommy · 11/09/2006 21:54

Well you're not the only meanie around then if you are!
I'm 17 weeks and I know the last time we had sex was when this baby was conceived.....

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Daisypops · 11/09/2006 21:55

LMAO! I keep telling DP I'll make up for it once bub is here! Eeeekkk!!!

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Booboobedoo · 12/09/2006 12:04

I'm 15 weeks, and ditto what Tommy said.

Largely due to the fact that I constantly have my head down the toilet.

Jiggy jiggy is not appealing with a bucket by the bed.

emzickle · 12/09/2006 12:09

DP and I haven't stopped - the antics have def calmed down a lot, but not stopped, Im 36 weeks, and we're still at it every other day or so...

it would be nice not to be woken up being poked in the back though

Iklboo · 12/09/2006 12:10

Daisypops - how far along are you? You may find you get really horny in a couple of month (I know I did) but sometimes all you want is a lovely cuddle

NatalieJane · 12/09/2006 12:12

In my first pregnancy, I couldn't get enough sex, I honestly can remember counting down the time till when DH would be home from work so I wouldn't have to wait any longer!! But this time (I am 29+3) if DH even tried to come near I would quite happily chop it off!

redz · 12/09/2006 12:47

Im still waiting for the stage to feel sexy and want sex! And im 39 weeks
Completely gone of sex dp gets it maybe once a month if he's lucky.
Do feel bad depriving him but keep reminding him its not forever.
And to think I used to be such a sexual person!
Wonder if I'll get that back?
The sight of a body that looks nothing like my old one doesnt help either.

burstingbug · 12/09/2006 12:55

We didn't have sex from the conception until about 4-5 weeks after ds1's birth, same again with ds2, he's now 3 weeks but I really don't fancy it atm, I sustained 2nd degrees tears with this birth, which kinda puts you off, and I'm far too tired from constantly breastfeeding ds2 and running around after ds1 who 18.5 mths!
But I do miss sex lots!

Flumpybumpy · 12/09/2006 13:06

I went through the 'got to have it now' phase from about 5mths to 7mths, then it just disappeared!! I found I really enjoyed it and trying out loads of different positions was fun, although we did spend most of the time laughing at the odd positions we had got ourselves into rather than getting down to any serious business .

I am due on Saturday and have suggested trying a bit of 'how's your Father' to get things moving but I don't think I actually have the strength or energy and the slightly grossed out look on DH's face makes me think it wont happen.

shhhh · 12/09/2006 13:55

I'm 20 weeks and due to mc history both dh & I are scared to actually have sex BUT we do enjoy the other things iykwim . Sorry if tmi .
Thing is it's usually me who starts it..god know where thats come from as before I could take sex or leave it.!

With dd it was the same although the last few weeks was a struggle and not the most fun. Did it for "medical" reasons only.! LOL.

CurrantBun · 12/09/2006 14:09

DH didn't seem that keen initially - he thought it would be a "bit weird" knowing there's bubs in there (I did tell him bubs wouldn't be able to see or hear us, LOL!) We haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks, and I'm now 16 weeks! TBH I was fed up with doing it so often and so routinely when we were TTC, but now I'm missing it.

Main problem we have is we tend to end up watching any old rubbish on TV, then by the time we head for bed it's too late for sex when we have to be up for work the next day! Must make more effort! And DH quite often comes to bed later than me now as I'm usually nodding off by 10:30-11:00 pm.

lubella · 12/09/2006 15:46

SO glad to hear I am not the only one off sex, was beginning to feel really bad about it. Hubby and I have done it once and I am 27 weeks. He dosen't feel particularly rampant towards me with me so sick and lethargic and feels funny about the baby inside!! for me it hasn't been a sexy time in the slightest..

Scoobydooooo · 12/09/2006 15:50

When pg with ds i could not get enough of it about 5 times a day/night. After ds was born about 4 times in a year

Then when pg with dd totally went off it & i think we had it about 4 times in the 9 months.

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Daisypops · 12/09/2006 16:05

Phew! I'm glad theres others that have gone off it or daren't do it. Like you Shhhh, me and DP do other things but I feel a bit guilty about the no sex rule. I'm just too scared I'll bleed and panic. DP seems to be ok with it which makes it a little better. Could just do with some hot lovin!!!

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PrettyCandles · 12/09/2006 16:09

First trimester - raunchy as hell (far more so than normally) but utterly incapable of doing anything about it, far too nauseous.
Second trimester - slightly less raunchy, but OTOH a lot less nauseous...fun!
Third trimester - you have got to be kidding! Not a hope. You can massage my back, and that's as far as it goes.

And, unfortunately, despite all the raunchiness, anything (nausea, SPD, twinges anywhere, lack of sleep) puts me off totally.

lubella · 12/09/2006 16:15

every now and then I do myself a favour that's about IT

wink

Flamesparrow · 12/09/2006 16:24

Lubella - feb 06 mums found that that was really good for late pregnancy insomnia!

PrettyCandles · 12/09/2006 16:25

You can still reach?

LadyTophamHatt · 12/09/2006 16:32

I'm 23 weeks and the thought fills me with horror.

I was about 5 weeks when we last "you know what-ed"

Elibean · 12/09/2006 16:39

Apart from a few lovely afternoons on holiday in July whilie dd was napping (bang in the middle of the second trimester) we haven't at all. I bled on and off for the whole of the first trimester (and felt very sick, couldn't bear smells including dh - who smells fine to me now, btw!). And since about 22 weeks I've been utterly knackered: dd has dropped her naps, and by evening we're both wanting to sleep!
Still, this is an improvement on first pregnancy when I was so scared of m/c (having had four) that we only did it once the whole way through..

lubella · 12/09/2006 16:46

It is very relaxing FlameSparrow I can see why it would help with insomnia, and yes I can still reach - only 27 weeks, will be very sad when I can no longer

xx

hollyhobbie · 12/09/2006 17:51

DH keeps asking when it is that I'm meant to get to the rampant stage... (it never happened with my 1st pregnancy though, so I haven't got my -or his!- hopes up)

maazaa · 12/09/2006 17:52

Not much going on for us! DH doesn't like idea of it as he thinks he'll nudge the baby with his beast!!!! Teee heeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!! I can't be arsed, so it's fine!!!

squishy · 12/09/2006 18:16

DH would love to as he thinks I look very sexy being pg (eek, I think I look like the side of a house, and feel like one!) but at 33 weeks, I've been waiting all along for the raunchy stage and it never arrived! Managed it a few times, but not particularly comfortable or relaxing!!