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Don't you just love it when people are asking you if you are having twins?

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AbsoluteCarine · 06/07/2014 23:44

No, there is just the one in there, move along.
I know I'm big but I'm only just having one baby (could be a giant one though!)

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LucyB1 · 07/07/2014 08:26

Agree. Very irritating. ConfusedConfused

BelleOfTheBoys · 07/07/2014 08:50

When I was 6weeks pg with ds2 my MIL said to me 'goodness, Belle, that's a huge belly. I reckon it's twins' Shock

Scan at 12 weeks 'you're definitely having twins. You're HUGE'

Singleton pregnancy. Cue mil going on to anyone who would listen for the next 6 months that she'd been 'certain' I was having twins as I was so 'MASSIVE'. (I wasn't. And I had HG again so actually lost some weight).

This resulted in everyone who saw me who knew my mil going "so, is it twins or what, then?"

Took it all in good humour but it was a bit like, thanks very much now do fuck off Grin

Oh the joys, eh.

squizita · 07/07/2014 09:29

Irritating but not as bad as "so small? In my country you'd be in hospital!".

One just hurts your vanity. The other can be terrifying and guilt inducing.

Oh, and I have had both... which tells me they clearly don't know what they're talking about! Grin
I've also had "you MUST be carrying a boy because it's all out front" "No, all the women in my family carry this way, girl or boy, and it's a girl" "No, only boys"... Hmm

neversleepagain · 07/07/2014 09:55

When I was massively pregnant with twins not one single person asked me if it was twins!

I did get a lot of "going to pop any day now" from 25 weeks Confused

LJBanana · 07/07/2014 09:59

Followed by 'are you sure?' When you tell them it's just one!

Obviously their x ray eyes are far more reliable than the scans!

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AbsoluteCarine · 07/07/2014 10:09

I guess being told baby is small is even worse.

All to be taken with humour of course but I can see how someone could be offended or worried by such comments.

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squizita · 07/07/2014 10:24

Carine but I am not carrying small! It just made me worry for nothing. The next day I got a stupid 'big bump' comment.
I've also been told I "wasn't showing last week" which is nonsense I'm 30 weeks and have been very obvious for 10 weeks or so.

The thing is what people say seems to have little to do with actual size.

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AbsoluteCarine · 07/07/2014 10:39

People should really refrain from making comments really. Everyone is different.

My bump is quite big but I am no longer convinced I am going to give birth to Godzilla. What will be will be.

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Gen35 · 07/07/2014 11:11

People should be more careful, I was enormous with dc1, was terrified she'd be > 10 lb and she didn't even tip 7. It was a lot of fluid. Second time round I'm much less worried that I'll be attempting to push out an enormous baby!

Pregnantagain7 · 07/07/2014 11:33

I the past 24hrs I've had two "ooooh you look like you're ready to drop" comments. To which I replied " I hope not I've got three months left"
Cue shocked faces and omg really, wow you're big aren't you!
I smiled sweetly and said no I'm just very good at growing babies :)
Now fuck off and die Grin

weebairn · 07/07/2014 11:48

I have had both comments; much more of the small than the large one. I think I prefer the small one… but I am not much of a worrier (and am very fortunate that I've not had anything to worry about) and evidently a bit vain too Grin

My mum said to me yesterday (she hadn't seen me in a few weeks): "what a lovely, neat bump you have, you look so pretty" - yeah, she can visit any time! The constant commentary at work is getting a bit tiring though, big bump, small bump, gosh you have a bump. Yes you do, have a bump, when pregnant, most of the time. 28 weeks here.

weebairn · 07/07/2014 11:48

I feel enormous whatever people say.

SugarPlumpFairy3 · 07/07/2014 11:55

It's irritating the other way too! When I was 36 weeks pg with my twins, a lady in a shop was asking about my pregnancy. I told her I was expecting twins and she didn't believe me! She even had the cheek to ask if I'd had a scan recently to check they were growing properly Hmm.

They were born the following week weighing 6lb 2 and 7lb 7!

People should just not comment either way. Or speak to ANY pg woman Grin.

weebairn · 07/07/2014 11:56

(I had a smallish (6 lb) but very healthy baby last time born a few days after term without complications so I guess that helps with the worrying. I do think the small comment can be very insensitive and I can absolutely see why people worry - hope I didnt sound dismissive.)

weebairn · 07/07/2014 11:57

SugarPlump the ONLY correct comment is "you look lovely!" Even if someone looks like they're dying… Grin That is the ONLY thing I say to pregnant women!

ps. Good size twins!!!

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AbsoluteCarine · 07/07/2014 12:12

Very true SugarPlump!

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MummytoMog · 07/07/2014 12:29

Or they could ask if you wanted some chocolate. That works for me. I mostly get massive comments to the point where I asked the midwife what she thought last week. Fundal height spot on, baby feels a smidge on the small side (lots of fluid). So take that rude people.

squizita · 07/07/2014 13:43

Ooh Mummy I once got a "be careful, you shouldn't eat for two" comment when eating some sweet sweet delicious chocolate cake. I gave her such a look it could've burned her in her boots! Grin NEVER take chocolate or cake from a pregnant woman or give the slightest hint you might, it's like getting in between a fearsome bear and its cub!

weebairn · 07/07/2014 14:27

squizita my toddler takes my food all the time and it's all I can do not to shriek at her "MUMMY NEEDS THAT!" Grin Grin

FloweryBoots · 07/07/2014 15:48

Weebairn. YES. Why does the world not realise this???? I remember in my last pregnancy feeling rough as a dog at work (horrid nausea right up to labour) and knowing full well I looked as bad as a I felt when an oh so lovely caretaker was in the lift with me and said that I looked 'glowing'. Bless him he knew I was having a tough time and he bloody well made my day.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 07/07/2014 16:16

It's a miracle if I get through a conversation with anyone these days without walking away either offended, upset or wrecked with worry.

People need to learn to back off with their comments!! Aarrrggg

BeckaH123 · 07/07/2014 16:20

Yep, I keep getting asked if it's twins. Then yesterday, I saw a friend I haven't seen since I fell pregnant. He not only didn't notice my "huge" bump, he also forgot I was pregnant at all and didn't know why I couldn't drink! Weird since I am so massive apparently... Hmm

candi404 · 07/07/2014 19:02

Haha pregnantagain! I'm definitely going to use that... I'm just very good at growing a baby!

allduffedup · 07/07/2014 23:27

32w here. Was out shopping for curtains today, and the shop assistant said "you're not trying to get this done before the baby arrives are you?". Erm, yes, I am. Do I look like I'm about to imminently give birth? Because otherwise a pregnant lady is perfectly capable of buying some curtains...

KitKat1985 · 08/07/2014 10:12

Yep, I've had loads of 'is it twins' comments, or just 'you look huge'. Interestingly according to my last 2 midwife appointments my fundal height is spot on, so not sure if I really am that huge or that people just aren't used to seeing pregnant women around anymore? But yes, I'm truly fed up of the comments now.

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