hv coming over is it really necessary?

[frankiebuns]

i went to the drs a couple of days ago and my ds hv came up to me and said i need to come and see you at home as your are having another baby, does she really have to its just going to be the same as it was with ds plus i hate her guts! shes a condescending hypocrit and doesnt mind telling me what she thinks! she has ben usuless with my son, my son has jhs, dyspraxia and spd (sensory perception disorder) and all 3 times i have been to her about things she poo poos it tells me its all in my head and gets me to see a physchiatrist and mental health team, when dr has put us staright to padetartrician and he has been diagnoed straight away! she told me with ds that he needed a dummy and i was a bad mother not to give him one, i was given one as a child and i know how hard it is to wean them off them, my ds bf is 4 and still has one permently in his mouth! i will do the necessaryones but not going every week but does she really need to come round we are in the middle of moving the house is a tip and i know she will criticise me even more

It's a new initiative to try to get to know mothers. In part to try to detect more perinatal depression I believe.

If you don't want to see her you don't have to, it's not mandatory. Or you could ask to see a different one.

unfortuantly shes the only one at our drs, she has a side kick but shes the cheif and she likes to do the initial meets, with my sons 12 week check she rushed it as apparently i wasnt supposed to be there although drs sent me a letter and didnt tell me about hip problem until the dr came in and i was nearly out the door she said his hips dnt line up they are odd thanks for that ! i did have slight post natal depression last time i broke down at drs as my c section scar had become seriously infected and she told me if i carry on like this she would have to get social services involved and they will take my baby away

Wow - she sounds a great advert for the profession. Can you speak to your GP and explain your concerns - accepting that it might be a clash of personalities - so you could see the other HV.

I will asi know her days she works so I can not see her! But dnt want her here

Complain about her and request another. Even if she's the only local one they wouldn't force you to see her.... Good luck

You can decline to see her. DO you like the rest of the practice? Dr? Nurse? Would you consider changing practice to get a new HV?