i know i need to get a grip but...

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... I'm 25 weeks with dc2 and everything Is just starting to grind me down.

My husband works til gone midnight most nights either at home or goes to his business partner's. Last night he went out to work and took the only set of keys (toddler hid the other ones good and proper, the fob alone costs about 100 to replace) but I can't sleep unless the chain is across and so I waited up to let him in. This happens a lot and I'm starting to get to the point where I can't function off say 5 hours sleep. My toddler often wakes at 6am.

I am tired constantly, boiling hot, functioning on interrupted sleep cause if the baby so much as twitches a toe I wake up, the house is a tip because my son is at that throwing cotton buds all over the floor, putting cups and plates in the washing machine, putting full toilet rolls down the toilet sort of age.

I know I'm blessed and I'm really really happy but I am just so tired. I am stressed at how much my husband works and that he is so unavailable to me. He just rang me fro a different city to see how I was and I just lied and said I was fine because what is the point of saying anything? He's a 2 hour train journey away.

Sorry for the massive rant. I think i'm hormonal.

Can he not let himself in? Is the chain issue an anxiety one (I also have security anxiety) - in which case have you spoken to your MW as it's impacting on your health! If anxiety is preventing sleep it IS their duty to help you!!

I am a massively anxious person which doesn't help. I think it's more that we don't actually know where we lost the other set of keys so if someone else has them they could just let themselves in if the chain isn't on. But I do suffer terribly from anxiety and depression.

I left a message with my health visitor a couple of weels ago because she told me to if I was struggling. I dont think she got the message though because she never got back. My midwife has been changed too so I can't ring or text her if I need to. Mot even sure of her name. I saw a consultant the other day and she was horrible (not my normal one) so I was a bit about telling her my problems!

It really sound like the situation needs to change. You can't function on that little sleep.
Firstly, I'd change the lock. Dd2 once lost her keys and after a couple of days searching we accepted we weren't going to find them, they could have been left anywhere and so DH changed the locks. I'm not an anxious person around security but would not have felt comfortable sleeping with DH out in that situation.
I understand about your DH working all hours - mine is a workaholic and will keep going all night if left to it. I find it difficult to approach it when it gets too out of hand (midnight is out of hand in my book) but it sounds like you need to. I will generally arrange a one off early night together in advance as a special request and then use that time to discuss it as there's no point trying to discuss things whilst he has his work head on.
I hope you can get some more support soon as it sounds like you need (and deserve) it.

Thanks ladies. I think your right fairypants . I will get the locks changed ASAP so I can rest a bit more. I'm trying to function on the same amount of sleep as him but our roles are so different plus I'm pregnant. I'll have a word when he gets home tell him i'm struggling a bit. It's just getting me down :(