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early induction/c section due to mental health

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s4m4nth4 · 30/06/2014 16:34

Hi has anyone been induced or had a c section early on mental health grounds? Im 34 weeks and I feel unable to cope anymore I already see a psychiatrist, hypnotherapist and a maternal well being counsellor. I really can't stress how bad I am. I feel really down and hopeless all the time, I barely sleep, I cant concentrate on things and I'm constantly in hysterical tears. I really can't last any longer.
I also feel resentment towards people who are happy like I used to be. I just wish I was dead so it would all go away. I feel like crawling into bed most days and never getting up again. I had started to pick up but it hasn't lasted long. Can anyone help? :'(

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s4m4nth4 · 30/06/2014 16:58

I should also point out this isnt some pregnancy blues I have panic attacks, anxiety and depression

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ditavonteesed · 30/06/2014 17:01

I have no idea but I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are feeling this way :( and send you some loving vibes.

CoolCat2014 · 30/06/2014 17:03

I've no experience of that as this is my first, but had severe depression in the past. Just hope you feel better and are able to work out the best option for you & baby. X

MagpieMama · 30/06/2014 17:22

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time OP. I don't know about whether you can be induced early (though the docs will want to wait until 37 weeks if they can).
Are you on any medication? Can it be increased/adjusted?
Is pregnancy itself making you feel worse?
I'd suggest speaking to your psychiatrist and the perinatal mental health team. They should all be working together to support you. Have you been offered a birth planning meeting with the mental health midwife?

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s4m4nth4 · 01/07/2014 13:48

Ive already tried loads of different medications. They either don't work or make me feel worse. I feel so helpless. I cant take anymore. I just want to run away. I'm due to see the psychiatrist today but I don't really see what else he can do. I'm a total mess :(

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Lalalax3 · 01/07/2014 13:51

I have no advice but a great deal of sympathy and concern for you. Hang in there, the sun always comes out eventually.

MigGril · 01/07/2014 13:59

I don't have personal expense but a friend who was induced at 38 weeks due to serve anxiety. she did take medication while pregnant to.

Do seek more help as I think your still a bit early for them to induce, they can help you. Good luck.

Andcake · 01/07/2014 14:07

poor you - you need to get all the support you can get - have you dc already - if not I think you are going to need lots of support with newborn (mental and physical) as it is a tricky time i found it more tricky than pregnancy. what does dp/dh do to help - can he do more.

MagpieMama · 01/07/2014 22:11

How did it go with your psychiatrist?
Have you spoken to the specialist mental health midwife about a birth planning meeting?
Hope you're doing okay

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s4m4nth4 · 02/07/2014 10:39

Hi all the psychiatrist has referred me onto the next level of care now. There's been talk of me being admitted into a mother and baby unit (something I don't want as I already have a 5 year old to consider)
I'm really struggling to cope with all this I just want someone to knock me out until the baby's ready to come.
I haven't got a specialist midwife. I didn't even know someone like that existed
I can't even talk to my partner about it as I fear he'll worry about me and think I won't be able to cope with the baby.
I feel really trapped and like I'm being forced to cope with something I know I can't cope with. 6 weeks is a really long time when you're feeling poorly. The minutes, hours and days are long. It just feels like everyone thinks that I've already done 34 weeks so another 6 weeks isn't going to hurt me. I just know I can't do it

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MagpieMama · 02/07/2014 10:59

I don't know about where you're based OP but my maternity hospital had a midwife in charge of vulnerable women and children and her team includes a specialist mental health midwife. They organised a birth planning meeting which covered everything from my antenatal care, to how, where and when I'd give birth and all the support in place after DS was born.
It sounds like you're getting the best support from your psychiatrist so keep talking to them. Is there anyone who could take care of your other child if you went into a mother and baby unit? DH maybe? Your parents?

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s4m4nth4 · 02/07/2014 11:31

I'll have to look into it. I didn't even know you could get help like that.
There's plenty of people to look after him I would just feel really guilty and the thought of being admitted into a sort of 'mental hospital' really puts me off. It's kind of embarrassing for me personally. And I don't really understand what they could do. I'd still be suffering just in a different place? And surely all they can do is talk to me?

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MagpieMama · 02/07/2014 12:52

It can be a bit scary being in hospital, but in my experience, when I'm the kind of ill that needs hospital, it only gets a lot scarier outside of it.
They'll be able to give you 24/7 monitoring and support, it sounds like it might be safer for you and baby.
Have a chat with your midwife to see if they have specialist mental health services at your maternity hospital, as I said, I found it really helpful.

Gen35 · 02/07/2014 13:19

Take it day by day. You don't have to necessarily think it's 6 more weeks, plenty of babies can naturally come early. Every day you can get through your baby is going to do better and better in the long run. I think the unit is a good idea because you are obviously terribly unwell and it can't be true that everything has already been tried, being around a group of people that specialise in this area has to be good. Good luck!

My5boysandme · 02/07/2014 15:09

I have been induced 3 times at 37 weeks due to mental health problems. I have bipolar which is managed by medication, however when I'm pregnant the hormones cause things to go haywire. My medication doesn't control the lows.

Been induced at 37 weeks, as soon as baby is born its like a switch and I feel better than ever. It really baffles everyone.

Speak to your consultant and midwives, ask your psychiatrist to recommend this course of action. I always felt knowing I only had to get to 37 weeks and not 40-42 really helped me get through those last few weeks.

MerryMarigold · 02/07/2014 15:13

I was also going to suggest 37 weeks. Just because the baby does still have some developing to do. I had twins at 37 weeks, and they did have more problems feeding than my 40 week baby but they have been fine since a couple of months old. I think long-term having a baby or child with developmental issues will be much harder so maybe not now, but 3 weeks more? Is that do-able?

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s4m4nth4 · 04/07/2014 00:40

Hi I've had a total mental breakdown the last couple of days. I feel extremely unwell. I'm going for an assessment for a mother and baby unit in a weeks time and they may admit me which is something I don't want as I fear about social services afterwards. I'm also going for some monitoring tomorrow morning at the hospital for some reassurance as I'm really unwell. I'm actually scared at how this pregnancy is affecting me. My maternal well being supporter said I'm the worst case she's ever seen. They've also moved my consultant interview to next week so that I can discuss delivery. I have 5 weeks left so I'm hoping she'll knock a couple of weeks off at least as I don't feel strong enough to get through the next 24 hours never mind the next 5 weeks

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s4m4nth4 · 04/07/2014 00:43

I just feel like everyone involved knows what needs to be done but no one's willing to do it. Its frustrating and it feels like no one's listening to me

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MagpieMama · 04/07/2014 00:58

It sounds like things are moving slowly but at least they're moving. Time must feel like it's going excruciatingly slow but try some distraction techniques and rest as
much as you can.
Try not to think too far ahead (easier said than done I know) as you'll just find more and more to worry about and most of it is beyond your immediate control. Focus on what you can do now and take all the support that is offered to you.

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s4m4nth4 · 06/07/2014 12:59

I just feel so alone. My partner isn't very supportive of my decision ask to have the baby earlier. He's totally against it. We had a massive argument about it the other night. I don't know what to do anymore I can see his point that a baby shouldn't come until its ready and I might be putting the baby at risk but I just feel like I cant cope another 5 weeks. I feel so alone :-(

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MagpieMama · 06/07/2014 19:56

Well you've got a couple of appointments coming up in the week with people who will listen to you and support you. You can also keep talking on here if it helps, I'm happy to listen.
I know you're really suffering but it must be hard on your DH too, do you have anyone that can support you as a family?

My5boysandme · 07/07/2014 20:54

I honestly do know how you feel, and I'm here to talk if you need to.

Please try not to think of it as 5 weeks still to go. You have 2 weeks until you can be classed as full term. Every day that passes gets you closer to this date.

MagpieMama · 08/07/2014 18:05

How are you getting on OP?

ILoveCoreyHaim · 08/07/2014 18:47

I begged twice to be induced due to my mental health and mobility issues, both times they refused and i ended up going overdue. This was 5 years ago though

ILoveCoreyHaim · 08/07/2014 18:51

Also as soon as i gave birth i felt better instantly. I was practically skipping around the maternity ward. I didnt suffer from post natal depression either

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