38 weeks- probably normal but feel silly :(

[blondiebonce]

2 weeks before due date and I'm so bored/lonely/irritable and impatient. We're all ready for baby in terms of preparation so now my days are spent overthinking and twiddling my thumbs.
I'm the first out of my main friendship group to be having a baby and find it difficult to relate with them now. I mean I like hearing what they're up to and how well they're doing. But I've got to a stage where I just want to talk to someone really openly about how I'm feeling and because it's all pretty different they don't know what to say or respond with. I know it's unreasonable to expect people to but I just want a good old moan/worry/discussion about what's about to happen and I don't really have anyone. I mean I have a few mummy friends but not that I know so as to offload.
My partner is out working hard and has said lately he wants a bit more him time when he's home. He walks in after a long day and I bombard him a bit because I've been home alone all day going a bit stir crazy :( I think it's finally hitting him as well about how much everything is going to change because he's been a bit quieter and wanting more of his own time to just breath and probably think.
I know I should be making the most of my time to do this but I've been on maternity for a little while now and there's only so many long baths, books, tv and films I can take. Sleep isn't much of an option either.

Sorry for the massive vent...just a young soon to be first time mum going a bit crazy here! Any advice would be gratefully received!

Oh and I was hoping going to the local NCT day of classes and tour of the ward etc would help to let me meet people and reassure me so everything wasn't so new but I was overlooked and by the time I spoke to my midwife about when I would get my letter it was too late to sort something out.

Hi blondie!

How exciting..anytime now you'll meet your little one.

Is there a local NCT bumps and babes session near you? They are brilliant for meeting other mums to be and making friends.

My DD is 6 weeks today and I'd go insane if wasn't for my nct mates. I too find it hard to relate to my other friends who either haven't had kids yet or had them years ago. I know what kind of look I'd get if I mentioned green baby poop!

And of course right here is a great place to chat to others...can you join an antenatal group? X

Have a look around for some other local antenatal classes, I know there's more than just the hospital and NCT in my area. The Childrens Centre do bump groups and a few other private providers. It's a lot easier to meeting people once baby is here as there are so many groups to go to so don't worry too much yet.

I can see why your boyfriend feels overwhelmed when he gets back from work but on the flip side if you have been home alone all day then yes of course you want to chat and interact with him.

It's life changing times for you both you'll have to take each day as it comes. You both need time to come to terms with it. It's very difficult for the bloke involved as he's not growing the baby, feeling it move, aching and ill etc. I don't think they process it all until much nearer the end or even when baby arrives.

Ask around in your local area if there is a local Bumps & Babies type group. They are like parent and toddler groups but for pregnant ladies and small babies. Informal groups which are mainly about women getting together and having a chat over a drink.

Thank you for all your replies guys I'm going to start looking for groups I can go to when she's here like you've suggested. I'd never heard of Bumps and Babies! I'm actually really looking forward to having a new social life!! I've been lurking on here a lot to pick up tips on parenting and think just need to buck up and get more involved.

Spoke to DP and we came to a great compromise that he'd have a few hours to himself today for football etc but the rest of it we've gone out and done some nice coupley things.

Counting down the days!

I'm 26 weeks and can sympathise with what you are saying, I feel like my friends don't really understand and genuinely don't get it when I talk about the strains/un-fun sides of pregnancy. On the other hand people who've had babies or are pregnant are amazing to talk to and make me feel human again! Mumsnet is also a godsend.

As the others said try NCT, mum and baby groups etc etc.

Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I'm v jealous you get to meet your little one soon!