Feeling Fat and Repulsive. (TMI)

[Mango92]

Today, was an unusual day because for the first time in months I actually let DP near me without wanting to slap him.
We tried getting intimate and at first all was going well and then, we just kinda lost it... or rather, he did.
As if I didn't feel crap enough, now my already dwindling sex life has screeched to a halt.

He says its "awkward" and my bump is a little off putting because he knows that our baby is in there, and I can understand what he means.
I just didn't think I would feel so hurt about something like this.
I just want to feel attractive again but I'm only getting fatter and the increasing number of stretch marks doesn't help.

Now I'm even more paranoid that the loose skin after childbirth will gross him out and this continues.
Kind worried I will never be appealing to him again.

Oh bless you! I'm feeling very similar in that I feel awful about myself.
Luckily (?!) dh still wants to shag all the time. I just feel gross about myself.
I bet your dh is just finding bump is putting him off rather than you.
Don't be hard on yourself either, it's a big job carrying a baby for 9 months, labour then looking after a newborn.
Be kind to yourself and see if you can't spend a bit of time on yourself to make you feel nicer

Oh I've spent the weekend feeling the same... just lumbering around. I'm only 26 weeks :( Mostly I'm gutted that my pants all seem tight - the next size up in pants is to a number I NEVER wanted to get to.

In my first pregnancy my ex was like this. It did nothing to my already very low pregnancy self-esteem. I had stretch marks all over my tummy and felt horrible and massive. Speak to him and tell him how its made you feel. Then maybe think of positions that are more comfortable for you both. Spooning is a good one to try!!
Ditto ginger, I think from what you say its the bump he is finding weird rather than you.

Just feels like we hit the third trimester and everything went down hill.
And to top it all off, the return of morning sickness lol. This pregnancy thing is no fun at all.

Oh bless you. Like other posters have said, hes probably struggling with your bump. I'm carrying up front so we have had some major issues finding positions that are comfortable. I also hated the touch of my OH for a large portion of pregnancy for no apparant reason (blame the hormones)

Sit down and discuss things. My boyfriend said hes never seen me so sexy but he's worried he'll hurt me/baby (hes a big set lad) and there was me thinking I was a big fat whale!!!

I'm determined to continue to be sexually active to the end of pregnancy, it just takes a bit of honesty and creativity lol

Agree with above, but would add that you can be intimate without having sex too. Things like massage (being careful around your bump, obviously!) and a lot of the other things people consider just foreplay can be really satisfying by themselves if you take your time over it and pay attention to one another. If he's really uncomfortable with sex, that might be worth a try? It might help him to feel less inhibited and you to feel a bit more confident in yourself and your relationship

This is definitely not your fault. And I very much doubt it is anything to do with YOU that your DP finds unattractive, it more likely to be 'the bump' and the fact there's a baby inside. Definitely sit down and talk to him, and in the mean time do things to make you feel better. Have a nice bath, exfoliate and moisturise your whole body. Use a deep conditioning mask on your hair and paint your nails.

My (now ex) DP finished with as soon as I found out I was pregnant after 5 years together and my self-esteem (which had previously been quite high, as in I would happily wear a bikini in holiday photos or dance on a table without feeling self-conscious) plummeted but making sure I took care of myself on the outside improved how I felt inside. Best of luck