So new to this!! Motherly advice needed!

[Katyl22]

Hi everyone, please help me! I'm 24 and just found out I am 1-2 weeks pregnant (clearblue digital). My partner is 28 and we were in a loving relationship until I told him I was pregnant, even though we knew we had taken risks and discussed this possible outcome! He has completely freaked out and won't talk to me, he had an unwanted pregnancy 5 years ago and has just started a new job and has no savings so now HE needs time to get HIS head around this... So I'm facing the prospect of doing this alone and while doing a pgce. Can anyone give me any tips and/or advice? I'm glad I found out so early because I can adjust my lifestyle straight away and do everything I can to support my pregnancy (taking pregnacare already) but I'm also so scared of something going wrong. I really don't want to lose my baby! I'm even scared of doing more of tests in case it was a false positive. Any help and advice on pregnancy, motherhood, all of it would be so gratefully received. I'm feeling very alone! Thanks ??

Hello there, congratulations on your pregnancy I am sorry to hear your partner has taken the news badly - could it have been a shock to him and he needs some time to come to terms with it do you think?

You cannot get a false positive so if you have done a test, then you are definitely pregnant, and so there is no need to do any more tests.

Congratulations Op and sorry to hear about your partners reaction. Firstly have you contacted your GP to get an appointment with a midwife (MW). Te first appointment is called a booking in appointment and normally takes place between 6 and 10 weeks. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do other than take your vitamins prior to the booking in appointment.

Outside your partner does anyone else know so they can provide some emotional support?

Thank you both for your congratulations :) he is very shocked and he needs time, but from his reaction I think he is definitely going to walk away. I know I can do this on my own, it's just not how I imagined :(
A couple of people know but I live alone.. I have an appointment with my GP Monday.
My sisters both had to go through IVF and one had an eptopic pregnancy so I feel very blessed to have conceived but so paranoid.. I'm worried that finding out this early means more can go wrong :(

I was paranoid too so I do understand. At least the fact that you have found out early means that you can start taking your pregnacare earlier and also that you have longer to come to terms with things yourself. You might have a few twinges and some aching early on - this is normal and is just due to hormonal changes or things stretching and adjusting.

It sounds like it is not what you were hoping for with respect to your partner but you sound very strong and sensible. As you have an appointment with your GP on Monday, it might be worth making a list of any questions you have to ask - I used to find that once I got in there I would forget something I had meant to ask, which can be very frustrating.

Thank you so much for your help.. I will definitely make a list of questions for my GP! other than that I will just pray for a healthy baby :)

Congratulations to you . Sorry to hear you're having to go through anxiety at what should be a happy time.

Agree with everything the other Mumsnetters are saying - also worth taking a pen and paper to the GP surgery so you can write down any information they give to you. It can be a lot to take in - especially if you've already got other things preying on your mind. Good luck x

Aww must be hard for you I was 21 when I had my first baby and my partner was the same he just started going out all the time etc and blamed it on not being ready, I'm now 24 and were having baby number 2 he's even said with this one how we going to cope etc?

We've had out ups and downs but everything worked out in the end.

Hope your pregnancy goes well and your partner starts supporting you xx