constant guilt trip

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Why do we give ourselves such a guilt trip about everything? I know I need to get a grip. Hear me out.

I have had a relatively easy pregnancy so far. I'm 22 weeks with dc2. But the tiredness I've experienced is like nothing ive ever had before. From about 5 weeks. On a rare day like today where it really gets the better of me... cbeebies goes on, jammies stay on, lunch is something I can rustle up in under a minute and then tea is just an oven pizza or something.

Ffs I KNOW that this is normal and there's nothing to feel guilty about!!! And I KNOW it's not like this every day but I just make myself feel like shit about it. I'd have considered this a pretty normal day (ok maybe itv2 instead of cbeebies) when I was a student and not given a damn!! Is it just a parenting thing, this guilt?

Same here - have a 3 yr old and am 36 weeks now and am just done. I'm knackered all the time and hot too and I'm just mentally mentally and physically drained all the time now.

Today I managed to hang out washing and cut the grass but here I am watching Iron Man with my boy, after having had an hours nap and I've just got mega guilt.

Every day I feel guilty about something, mostly not entertaining my boy enough despite numerous walks, playing in the Garden, jigsaws, baking cakes, wtf is wrong with me.

Mat leave was much easier first time round when it was just me to worry about!

I've just had my first 2 sick days at 25 weeks pregnant and I feel sick with guilt. I work tough shifts on my feet and have a huge exam coming up I study for constantly in any free time and have a toddler who doesn't always sleep. I have been crying most of the weekend I feel so bad about it. I feel awful. I went to a doctor yesterday who was adamant I am exhausted and need a rest and I still feel awful about it.

I don't feel "legitimately" pregnant until 3rd trimester. I also feel guilty for having a bump which isn't even big or anything. I feel like every other pregnant girl sails through pregnancy without putting on any weight and finds work a breeze and isn't tired till 37 weeks. I think there is something wrong with me andI hope to god it passes soon.

Awww ladies you have NOTHING to feel guilty about. It's ridiculous that we do it to ourselves. Only you know what you're capable of when you're pregnant and no one can physically be in your body to prove you wrong. (i'm aware that sounded a bit dodgy haha)

I had loads of energy yesterday so took DS to the park, got him an ice cream did loads of colouring and cooked something he loves for tea.. so that I wouldn't feel guilty if I felt knackered today. BUT I'M DOING IT ANYWAY. he doesn't even look bored! What is wrong with me??!!!

My husband is doing all the hoovering etc' to save my achey back.

I come back from work, and immediately feel shit because I feel a crap wife. Then I feel worse because he only did it to make me smile bless him.

He's a keeper!

Mine just makes sarcy comments about how I never put the Hoover away.

THAT'S BECAUSE I USE IT SO FUCKING OFTEN.

and breathe.

Mine's genuinely thinks that the hoover is a place to hang his jacket. When I suggest that he stop that (before I kill him obvs) he says there is not enough space on the hooks for his one. So I suggest getting a new hook for the cupboard and he says 'No no we don't need that, we just need to thin out our jackets'. I have done this in the past and he continues to hang his jacket there and we go round in circles again.

I may kill him. No guilt-tripping about it. :D

Haha amazing popcorn

Yeah funnily enough I don't tend to get guilt where the husband is involved.