Positive after mc but paranoid about everything

[confettiwoman]

We had some fantastic news last week, I did 3 tests and all three were positive, so 9 months of ttc after mc last year me and dh are over the moon.
However I'm now paranoid about every twinge and symptom, I'm googling everything from what to eat, to if its safe to go for a swim due to the chemicals in the pool. Its starting to take over my life and I'm starting to become a hermit afraid to go out.
I'm scared I'll trigger something that'll cause another mc.

Congratulations on your BFPs! I'm very new to all of this, so also googling everything possible! sending lost of positive vibes your way x

Nothing (bar illegal drugs etc) you can do will trigger a loss, try not to worry! :)

The pregnant after miscarriage thread is very useful, we are all at various stages of the crazy scary journey so do feel free to join!

Its great to be able to say "I know this sounds mental but..." And everyone to know how it feels!

PS. Google thinks everything is deadly. Stick with NHS, NCT and Mumsnet... More common sense rules on food etc.

Congratulations to you both :) it took me and hubby a year before we could start trying again after mc. I found myself in exactly same position, then when. Y symptoms dissapeared at around 10wks, id convinced myself of a mmc -.- and at our 12wk scan there was our 14wk lil man bouncing away on the screen! This might sound bad, but i couldnt let myself get excited again, as i didnt want as much heartache if the same thing was to happen! And when i had my cramping early on again i just convinced myself it was happening again(did my poor mums head in with all the worrying lol) but she didnt mind really, she wenzt through it when she was younger, only she was 4months gone. So she knew exactly how i felt. Id say to myself whatever happens, happens and im strong enough to get through this. I found this helped me alot and stopped me worrying half as much as i would of if id of let my head take over lol you could try this, i understand completly how hard these next few weeks are going to be. I didnt feel relaxed until after our 20wks scan. Now i. 35 wks an goig. To see our lil man again today :D x

One way I'm find of dealing with the paranoia anxiety of pregnancy is talking it out. For example this week I have been getting tightening across my tummy. Google has suggested it could be early labour ( at 13 weeks) or it could be ligaments stretching. I have needless to say been working myself up about this a fair bit. I eventually cracked and said to my partner I'm getting this thing. We talked through it. When it was happening etc and after speaking to a rational calm adult it is pretty clear it's actual just the ligaments stretching and nothing worse.

I would say if google etc is stressing you out step away from it. maybe buy a reputable book or two from qualified people Shelia Kitzinger is good and English so knows the system set up here and just take food advice from NHS

confetti I totally understand how you are feeling. We have just got a bfp after ivf, we miscarried after fertility treatment last year so whilst I'm totally ecstatic, happy, excited and thankful there's a part of me that's worried sick!
We get a scan at about 6 weeks, instead of this being a happy occasion, I'm dreading it. This is when they burst my bubble last time. It's hard but I'm trying to stay positive and hope that I can't be that unlucky twice!!

Good luck x

What Hazchem said. I have a book by Prof Lesley Regan, she made her career preventing miscarriage (and still works both teaching HCP and treating patients with pregnancy issues) therefore her advice is very trustworthy but definitely not scary or OTT. It's called "Your pregnancy week by week".

What Hazchem said. I have a book by Prof Lesley Regan, she made her career preventing miscarriage (and still works both teaching HCP and treating patients with pregnancy issues) therefore her advice is very trustworthy but definitely not scary or OTT. It's called "Your pregnancy week by week".

Thanks guys (well, gals!). The bit about being strong enough if it happens again has hit home. I am going to get through this no matter what happens :-)
We're telling both sets of parents this weekend because last time we didnt get round to telling them (we were going to wait until 12 wks) but i mc at 9 weeks so the first they heard about the preg was that it was over.
Tbh my mil was a lot more understanding than my own mum as mil had over 10 mc b4 my dh came along.
I guess i just need to be safe and not take any risks and see what the future hols.
x