41 weeks - other people stressing me out!

[aroha77]

Hi,
I'm a week overdue but was feeling ok, just think it'll happen when it's meant to and better to be relaxed about it, but have spent today with my family and now feeling really stressed about it all and can't sleep.
Everyone was wanting to discuss which day it might happen etc etc and my sister who's a Dr has quite strong opinions on the benefits of going for an induction as soon as possible. Ended up feeling like they were forgetting it's my body/baby we're talking about because it got into an argument about the theoretical pros/cons of different options etc.
Wish I could just go back to feeling chilled out and looking forward to meeting my baby!
Any tips on ignoring this sort of stuff plus the 'have you had it yet?' texts?!

Oh dear I have no real advice but didn't want to read and run...I also expect I will be the same in a few weeks. I guess all you can do is nod, talk to dh about how frustrating it is and if any particular family member continues get him to intervene and explain you don't find their advice helpful at the moment! Hope it's not much longer for your sanity sake!

Know how you feel aroha am 41+1 too

If you can manage it just smile and nod. Other people's opinions become truly annoying in the latter stages of pregnancy.

I went to 42 weeks last time... thinking seriously of going into hiding after 41 weeks with time.. if I make it that far!! I too was fine with the waiting, but the well meant comments were difficult to deal with. No great tips I'm afraid, you are very vulnerable at that stage of preganancy so every comment hits hard.

Hope you baby comes soon but in its own time and you feel relaxed again.

Oh poor you. I went a week over with dc2 and got heartily sick of all the questions and comments.
Add to that my mum ringing me saying how stressed SHE was because she didn't know when they could go on holiday.... And ringing me in the evening to ask if I was having him that night as dad wanted to know if he could drink.... Funnily we didn't ask them to look after our other dc when we had dc3!

It's hard, just try to ignore them, keep calm and trust baby will come when they're ready! Ds2 came 7 days late in the end.

Good luck

I went 11days over and feel your pain! Especially the parents saying they are stressed out by it!!
I replied to text messages with something that didn't mention bump or baby. If they were rude enough to ask again I just told them I hadn't
Forgotten I was having a baby and would let them know. All further texts were ignored.

Too late now, but I refused to tell anyone my due date by DC3. Worked a treat!

lol at answering I hadn't forgotten I was having a baby!
Great idea to not tell the due date, I'm 14 weeks with dc4, I think I might be very vague about the due date.

Works a treat. You have to be a bit firm about not disclosing as some people think they have a right to know. But I was vague enough that some people thought after ds was born that I had been early when I eas nearly two weeks late!

*was two weeks. ..

Thanks everyone! Had a better day today because we were distracted by our birthday (I'm a twin)and it was a surprisingly sunny day which was nice and relaxing so I managed to avoid any more induction debates!

Maybe just start calming saying I am not over due. Which is correct overdue is past 42 weeks. It however sucks having the day come and go. I recommend movies as in at the movies you have to turn your phone off it's dark and nobody looks at you like you water might break on them.

DVD shops less good. I remember saying"'I'm 9 1/2 months pregnant I don;t want to choose another DVD." when the clerk suggested it would be a better deal to get three.

This time round I'm telling people before christmas (baby should be at least a week old by christmas day) so nobody hassles me.

Any news aroha? Hope you don't mind a fellow overdue mums better asking rather than family members?!

Thanks for asking :)
Just got back from hospital cos waters had broken, got an induction booked for tomorrow but really hoping things might kick off by themselves now!
How are you doing? Xx

Nothing happening for me here no signs or anything, I guess I'll have to be induced
Ooh let's hope so, let me know how you get on today- good luck x

Good luck! I went 13 days over (induced) with DC2. The last week was hard because of others' expectations. I ignored my mobile and refused to respond to texts. I got DH to check vmails for me. I just refused to acknowledge other peoples' issues with my baby's arrival, and felt much better for it!

I'm due today with DC3 and feeling like I'm going over by quite a way as feel too comfortable to be imminent. I've told parents the due date, but everybody else has been told 'the baby will be here by the end of June'. The downside is, I don't have the barrage of sweet 'thinking of you' texts I had last time at this stage but the upside should be that there is no external pressure in a few days when nothing has happened!

know what you mean evertonmint, on top of all the other emotions I hate being bugged and people seem to want to know every last detail down to time/dates, its stressful enough trying to remain positive without others interferring!

I've learnt my lesson for next time with telling everyone the exact date!
No action overnight and the period pains i had have pretty much gone so guess I will probably end up being induced!

Oh I do feel for you, it's almost nice when you go overdue because you know it is a maximum of two weeks plus, you don't feel the pressure with having baby by due date, although it being out of your control. Try to just ignore and you know what your pregnant you are within your darn right to turn around and say how you feel. I got so fed up with just the mums round the school same questions all the piggin' time, every bloodie day! hang on in there you're doing wonderfully!

When will they induce you aroha? Have they said? I too thought something was happening earlier bit it came to nothing, fully expecting to be induced too, need to get my heard round it & just accept it I think

Oops sorry about the spellings-fat fingers!

They have just said to ring tomorrow morning and find out what time to come in. I guess at least it'll probably fairly quick (will have to go straight onto drip) but am a bit worried about the pain - was hoping to use hypnobirthing techniques but wonder if it's harder when induced.
I've been on a long walk today and got really bad period-like pains now so something might be happening!
Do you know when you'll be induced if you are?

Oh wow hope it comes to something keep me posted Am waiting for a date from them at the mo....

Sorry for late reply! Went into labour 10pm Thurs night and had her 7.20am. She's a cutie, worth 9 moths of feeling sick!

How are you doing? Xx

Congratulations!