miscarriage :/

[ThirdtimeMummy21]

Hi I recently found out I was pregnant on 5/21/14 and everything looked fine. But then I woke up on 6/6/14 in blood went to the hospital and they said the baby was measuring at only 6 weeks im supposed to be 8 weeks and that the baby had a irregular heartbeat.So I went to my obgyn the same day and they said the babys heartbeat has stopped beating. And that I was gunna go home and miscarry. I was wondering if this has happened to anyone else? And how long you waited to try again? Thanks

Thirdtime I'm so sorry to hear your news. :-( I've had a miscarriage before and know how devastating it can be. I think the general advice is to give yourself a couple of months for you periods to return to normal, but it does depend, for example if its your first miscarriage. There is a whole topic for miscarriage who may be more up to date with current advice and will be able to support you in the coming days and weeks. Will be thinking of you! x

Thank you that means alot a part of me wants to try right away but then im scared it was my third pregnancy but first miscarriage idk I just have alot of mix feelings THANK YOU ?

Your emotions will be all over the place for a while, which is potentially another good reason to wait a little while. Some sites say that if you've had one miscarriage your chances of having a second decrease slightly, so you've got every chance of going on to have another without any problems. I've had 2 since my miscarriage and am expecting my 3rd!
Talk to the miscarriage thread, a friend of mine who has recently miscarried was offered tablets to help the process along, rather than dragging it out naturally. It may be worth finding out what others are being offered and going back to your gp or hospital. xx

I go to see my ob on monday to see if ibr passed the baby and or if im still in the process im letting my body do it natural last night I was having labor like contractions and lots of blood so im hoping ive passed it now. It was very painful

Sorry to hear this has happened chuck, its not nice i know. For me it was over and done with in tWo weeks from the moment i started bleeding to when i lil babies :( i was quite shocked at how quickly my body recovered from it all. My periods returned as normal aswell. But for me and hubby the emotional side of things it took a year to start trying again. Some people feel they want to keep trying but we just couldnt do with the heartache. Plus we had a very horrible start to the year with mc and hubby parents splitting, then the rest of the shit just followed so we had an eventfull and crapppy year. My advice would be give yourself time rarther than trying straight away again, cus when you do fall preggers again, the anxiety mc leaves you with is horrible >.< i couldnt let myself enjoy the first and 2nd trimester with this one as i was just thinking its gonna happen again. Id convinced myself i couldnt have babies aswell as it was my kidneys that caused it and im still suffering now with them but lil man is very strong and sticking his elbiws and legs out daily :/ got his superglue bottle and isnt going anywhere lol :) x

Hi there, sorry you are going through this, it's a difficult time for sure. I mc'd on Boxing Day last year, was 6 weeks then. We decided to start trying again asap. I never actually had my period after but fell pg again before it came back. I am now 21 weeks and very happy that we did not wait. It's a different experience for everyone though so if you feel that you need to wait a bit before trying again then do that. It will all come right in the end.

Hi Op. I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I mc in March 2013. We were devastated. We started ttc straight away and I found out I was pregnant again in early May 2013. Our DD was born NYE.

My Consultant Obstetrician said there was no medical reason for us to start ttc straight aware. He said the only reason the advise to wait a couple of months is because it makes it easier for them to date the pregnancy.

Sorry to hear this. My first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage. The heart had stopped at around 5/6 weeks but didn't discover it until the 12 week scan. At 14 weeks I had the evacuation procedure as my body still hadn't dealt with it. We were advised to wait until I had had a period "for dating reasons" but I ignored that and luckily became pregnant straight away. I now have a lovely 2 year old.

Do what you think is right for you. It's a difficult time and long waiting game, even if everything goes well. Look after yourself.

Sorry for your loss.

As others have said there is no right or wrong answer for when you should start trying again, everyone's different and you'll know when you are ready. I had an early MC in Feb and another in April, after each one we started trying again straight away. It wasn't even really a conscious decision, my body took over and made it clear it was ready! I didn't have a period before getting pregnant again after my April MC and am now 9 weeks (though as a PP said, that date is an estimate without an LMP date to go on)

If your MC turns out to be uncomplicated then from what I can gather there is no physical reason to wait. There is even some evidence to suggest that women are at their most fertile in the months immediately following MC, so you should be fine to start trying again as soon as you feel emotionally ready.

Wishing you all the best, and when you do find yourself pregnant again the ladies on the posifrickentivity thread are wonderful and will support you through any anxiety you may feel.