Worrying but feel silly- need reassurance ...

[Daisypops]

I'm a massive worrier and even though I had my 21 week scan on Friday and everything is fine I'm thinking of what could go wrong at this stage. Can anyone provide me with some reassurance. I'm a bit down today, on my own as DP's friend is visiting from down south and I'm tired so everything seems worse. I've had a headache since yesterday teatime and bub isn't as active today. Am I been daft?

[elliepippamummy]

No I am the same am 21 weeks havent got scan till 13th sept and although I feel baby move now and again still worry about everything think its prfectly normal pregnancy paranoia. Although I don't remember being like this when pg with DD butmaybe I'm just forgetful. Im going to have a long relaxing bath read my book and go to bed to chill out.

Hope you feel better tomorrow xx

[divastrop]

i was the same with dd2,i felt her move at 16 weeks for the first time then i was worried sick every day if i didnt feel her.i read loads about it on the net(babycentre was a good site)it said that u only need worry if u dont feel ur baby move every day after 28(i think) weeks.i certainly remember only feeling her move once every 2 or 3 days till about 24/25 weeks.and somebody suggested having a bath,it relaxes you and often wakes the baby up so ur more likely to feel him/her move than when ur on the go and dont really notice the movements.

[mustrunmore]

i was very much like that with ds1. The best thing I thought was that every day was a day closer to it all being ok Plus if you think of it statistically, you're fine.
Headaches are normal.
And even babies have good and bad days. you dont wriggle as much every day, so why should baby?

[Charleesunnysunsun]

i think your 100% normal Daisypops! Im pregnant with my second but constantly woory about it! As long as your feeling 10 movements a day all should be fine that waht i was told but im 29 weeks so i don't know if its the same at 21.

Your just being a normal mom feeling protective and worried about your baby i can honestly say you are normal and everything will be fine!

[liquidclocks]

Totally normal Daisypops especially if you're a natural worrier anyway. I've been worrying with this one (nearly 37 wks) since the beginning and I'm sure I will continue to do so once he's born!

If you do feel it's overwhelming at all though and affecting how you function then talk to your midwife, pre-natal depression is just as common as post-natal depression but there's plenty that can be doneabout it.

[DumbledoresGirl]

Don't worry about the movements at 21 weeks. They are still small enough to be in any position at this age and the baby could be lying and kicking backwards in which case you would not be feeling the movements as much (if at all?)

My best recommendation for getting a baby to kick (and I have had 4 and used to worry all the time too!) is to have a relaxing bath and balance a cup of something you are drinking on your bump! The baby often kicks to push the cup away and also seems to kick more (or perhaps you just notice the movements more?) when you are relaxed.

[carrotcake]

I am 21 weeks pregnant with my third and this is the most active of my babies, it moves constantly. However, I still worry that something terrible will be wrong. At the moment, as I have an infection, I'm convinced it will start premature labour every time my stomach cramps, that I'll get salmonella even though the chicken was so cooked it was like string etc, I guess what I'm saying is that if you're a worrier, there is always something to worry about. Last pregnancy was much less movement, some babies just have lots of quiet periods. My partner works away a lot too and I tend to sit there worrying when I'm on my own. Do you get much time to relax, wind down etc? I like to watch films when I need to take my mind off things, one that I can still think about when going to bed, or a good book?

[Daisypops]

Thanks everyone. I have worried throughout my pregnancy so far, roll on when I can enjoy it! The 21 week scan helped but because I'm such a worrier if theres nothing to worry about I'll just think of something! Its seems like having a bath is a popular suggestion to get bub moving, although I think I keep feeling her wriggling! Its nice to have reassurance from you all. Thank you. xxxx

[Daisypops]

I'm still not feeling bub move that much. Would you go see midwife or doctor for reassurance? My next MW appointment is next wednesday.

[DumbledoresGirl]

Poor you daisypops. Have you tried the relaxing bath? music? any other form of relaxation?

I might be wrong here but I feel that at 21 weeks, you are still too early on to feel regular sure movements every day. When I was pg with ds1 (over 10 years ago now) I remember my notes contained a kick chart that I was supposed to fill in every day to monitor his movements, but it was only from 28 weeks onwards as before that movements weren't considered to be regular enough to be monitored. With my subsequent babies there were no kick charts at all!

Are you saying that the movements have definitely decreased in the last week or so? Or do you just feel that you are not feeling as many as you should? If you really are worried, of course get in contact with your M/W. Probably it will take 2 minutes for her to find your baby's heartbeat and for you to be reassured. If that is what you need right now, don't be afraid to ask for it.

[Sredni]

I'm 21 weeks and also have this panic - mine will be quiet for a couple of days and then go a bit mental - usually after gaviscon or diet coke or something with sugar in it (eg orange juice, kitkat). I think he also knows when I'm bored at work (a lot) because he always kicks off then. If it's stressing you out go to the midwife, but at this stage some people haven't felt anything yet, so don't panic.

[Daisypops]

Bub was quite active on saturday but yesterday and today seems to have quitened down. Maybe I'm panicking (sp?) over nothing. Only had my scan on friday and all was fine so feel daft going to docs.