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AIBU Finding out gender next week but family not happy with OUR choice

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MrsMonkeyBear · 30/05/2014 19:00

Next Thursday, DH and I are going for our 20 week scan and if possible we want to find out what we are having. The issue is some of his family don't want us to do it (my family are much on the "it's your choice" train.)

DH's aunt is having a hissy fit that her opinion doesn't count, which it doesn't. His mum isn't happy either but understands it's our choice and is fine with us knowing and knows we will be letting everyone know.

The main issue is, I have friends and family all over the world and don't have everyone's phone numbers, and would like to make announcement on social media (if we find out that is). The above mentioned aunt is having a complete meltdown about this as she said it would ruin it for her!!! I've tried doing the whole being polite and giving her the eff you look, but it hasn't worked. She is sending me messages almost every day telling me that we are going to disappoint the whole family and we are the only ones to have done it. I'm trying to rise above it but preggo rage is starting to set in and I'm starting to want nothing to do with her or as one of my favourite movie quotes says "Dobby never meant to kill! Dobby only meant to maim, or seriously injure!"

This is not the first thing we have clashed about when it comes to the baby, but I'm not going to go into all of it, let's just say she managed to announce my pregnancy to half the world before I did, funnily enough with social media and her inability to use it properly.

Am I being unreasonable by ignoring her and doing what DH and I want or should I take her feelings into consideration and try to please everyone?

Please help and sorry for the rambling!!

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Amy106 · 01/06/2014 21:58

YANBU at all. This is not pregnancy by committee. It is up to you and dh to decide how and when you wish to share information with others. Congratulations and best wishes! Thanks

LBNM19 · 01/06/2014 23:03

The aunt sounds like she's crackers, my aunts would never ever say anything like that to me. Do what you want x

alwaysblonde · 02/06/2014 11:22

She needs to get a life, clearly. What a saddo .

MrsMonkeyBear · 02/06/2014 18:11

Hi ladies,

Wee update, MIL put Aunty Crazy Cakes in her place and told her off. It was quite funny to watch as she was iffing and butting like a 5 year old. Her excuse was she was trying to protect MILs feeling as she didn't want to know. As mentioned in original post MIL may not want to know but understands it's our choice.

Anyway just 3 more sleeps until the big day, nerves are kicking in now but trying to stay focused on the good parts that Thursday will bring!

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