Does anyone else's house look like a crack den?

[Donkle]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and have basically been house redundant for the past two weeks. My husband is really trying but is working all hours at the moment, so it's impossible for him to do it all.

My house looks like wolves live here, I actually lost my dog in the chaos clutter of the dining room this morning. There's so many pots in my kitchen it looks like a student digs, my bedroom is awash with clothes, cups and a classy bowl to catch night time vomits.

My husbands pubic hair has taken up residence in the bath, it's like chewbacca shaved in there. My clothes are never clean, I actually blew my nose on my parka yesterday in a hormonal fit of tears.

I haven't had the energy to wash my hair in a week and there isn't enough dry shampoo IN THE WORLD to make it look less like the white witch from Robin Hood prince of thieves. Make up is a thing of the past. Anything that requires my arms to move up and down is pure exhaustion.

I feel so guilty, I'm usually obsessed with my houses presentation and at least brushing my hair and wearing clean clothes.

Anyone else a hobo in the first trimester? Or have I descended into some gross pit of despair?

Someone send me a house maid and some shampoo

My house looked like this until I was 6 months' pregnant and finally got over the sickness! And again when DS was born

It was only ever clean when DM and MIL visited. But I'm also into house presentation and thing being neat that the mess nearly drove me nuts. Thinking of getting a cleaner just for this reason!

At 8 weeks my husband did all the housework - my house would have been the same as yours at that point if it wasnt for DH. Being military, he is very good at cleaning.
However, now in 3rd tri. Working full time, dealing with SPD, and on my own as DH is on tour of duty. My house does sound very similar to yours!
Worst of it is I have the inlaws visiting this weekend and hate that I dont have time/energy to clean. And no, MIL will not clean - she will only judge.
Dont feel guilty, it will get better.

Oh my Donkle, we have a lot in common!

Re. the hair: I am ashamed to say, I am the same. I'm usually so fussy about my appearance. I do shampoo and condition but it is not enough for my frizzy hair (which has turned VERY dry lately for some reason!). However, I don't have the energy to do a proper treatment. I look like a scarecrow.

As for the house... No comment... I manage to stay on top of real big mess by cleaning in little bursts. My husband is wonderful and does far more than his fair share of the housework (all of it actually). I'm told it gets better!

My husband has never been one for housework but he certainly is now I'm pregnant! He had to do everything in the first weeks as I was so sick and weak. He's still doing most the dishes, and the washing as I don't like carrying stuff up and downstairs in case I fall, and also I have a terrifying powerful heavy Hoover so he does that! Luckily I have a neat freak Mum who comes to visit and does stuff for me, and my dad cleaned my windows :)

My husband also did everything in the first trimester. I almost stopped wearing make up because I couldn't lift my arms (just the non-negotiable tinted moisturiser and mascara so I looked passable as a human being). Often I would get home, collapse and realise around 9pm we hadn't eaten. It was a horrible time.
Second trimester and my house now looks like a warehouse for Kiddicare. Every time we go shopping I pick something up to try and spread the cost - nappies, baby gros etc. But we're still assembling the baby's room so we have no where to put any of it. There's just stuff everywhere...
Might as well get used to it I guess!

Oh god yes. 11 weeks pregnant with permanent nausea and exhaustion, working full time and also juggling a whirlwind 21 month old and a pukey cat. And a dh who does as much as he can but works long hours.

On half term at the minute and have no energy pick up the constant trail of destruction toys so my house literally always looks like a tornado has just passed through. I'm also finding showering in the mornings a real challenge as it makes me want to vomit more.

Nearing 6 weeks here. The tiredness seems to have kicked in yesterday. Just in time for moving house today

I've told DH as I am working full time and will now have a bigger house that we are getting a cleaner. He's shit at housework and living in a pit upsets me.

My fund will cover an hour a week and probably save our marriage!

My house always looks a bit like a crack den. Well, crack den for 6 days, then tidy for one when I look around and am a bit embarrassed... then almost immediately, crack den again.

We've moved house in the last few months though, and aren't unpacking because we're going to start an extension in 3 weeks. This means boxes EVERYWHERE, and also means that when you suddenly desperately need something that's 'in a box somewhere', things get shovelled around and left out etc. We started with nice orderly piles of boxes in various sensible choice rooms, since we've started stripping wallpaper and pulling off skirtings though, boxes are everywhere.

Oh bloody hell YEAH.

Sadly I'm 25 week lol! Not even sick n tired, just a bit achey.

DH has learned the mysteries of housework ... Things are looking up! He's better than me lol!

Relax and embrace it. My LO is 19 months now and my house still looks like that but with a vast array of brightly coloured plastic items also thrown into the mix :)

OMG - yes! I fear the unexpected visitor - I have nightmares about it. The tireness has meant that my evenings are spent relaxing and going to bed by 8:30... so no chance to do the tidying. I'm very much into presentation - and yes it is all a bit crack den at the moment. I must admit - the thought of getting a cleaner sounds like a good idea - but really I still have to PUT stuff away and find homes for all the things that keep arriving. My husband thinks I have an internet shopping habit and that is the cause of the crack den home... :( And why oh why - when you clean the kitchen floor one day, the very next day it looks like you have never cleaned it!

So looking forward to the 2nd Trimester energy burst. :)

I solved the problem by getting cleaners. I couldn't bear living in a shit tip, didn't feel like doing the cleaning and so told DH I was getting cleaners. Best thing ever!

So relieved, I thought it was only me.
My formally organised home looks like an explosion in steptoe's yard.
Hair is living in a plait, and my face feels like it may change shape when I finally dare to exfoliate.
Hoping for an end to the vomiting, the exhaustion, and the whole can't-be-aresed-ness of it all...

Praise The Lord it's not just me, I actually put some make up on for going to the doctors yesterday and my darling mother told me to take it off because I didn't look ill anymore.

Every time I answer the door to someone I see their eyes meet mine in a mixture of shock, disgust and embarrassment. My face looks like someone drew on a boiled egg and placed a tatty wig badly on top of it.

It's probably a blessing in disguise that I'm too tired for sex, it would destroy my marriage.

All the bollocks about Mother Earth parents and how attractive and sensual women felt when they were pregnany is sickening. Those women can suck my egg face and come clean my disgusting crap shack.

Going to try two hours tomorrow in four half hour bursts, it's the only way I'll get focused for going back to work on Monday.

Where to start.....

Donkle, just suck my egg face

We have boxes everywhere!!!

I have started to look just like a giant egg, never mind the face.

People go "ooh you're glowing"... yeah 'glow' made of smelly water aka sweat all the time every day.

I've just attempted my 'spurts' of house work, which after an hour have resulted in me exhausted slumped in - not on - the sofa.

Plus side, husbands pubes are no more and I got so thirsty I was able to stomach a whole glass of water for the first time in days. Hoorah!

Downside - house still looks like a total shit hole.

How am I going to go back to work tomorrow?!?

Between me been a student ds who's 11 months and dp who works long hours definitely living in a crack den here. It's pissing ne off something rotten. The only sort of symptom I have of been pregnant is been tired ?? and really cba with anything.

I'm wondering if I covered myself with sticky back plastic could DH roll me round like a giant ball shaped lint remover? Just took 5 minutes to struggle into a pair of tights, bending over is not a strong point as the floor strewn with little piles of books, CDs, shoes, bags etc' demonstrates. Mind you so are the shelves and tables so...?

Considering begging/paying my mother to do it. Reckon I could seal the deal with a bag of M&S Yum Yums, some Percy Pigs and a bottle of Chablis. Stooping to oppressing/bribing OAPs - a new depth.

Jersey I would hire a cleaner but, just like you, it'd mean tidying :( Plus I'm not really sure we can afford it? We are trying to repay DH's student overdraft like mad.

squizita I have a weird mental picture now haha. I second bribing your mum! I'd ask mine to help but she lives abroad!!

Pre-pregnancy my house was beautiful and so clean it glistened.
It has been as you describe above since and I'm 24 weeks.
My OH tries in his own way but I have to instruct him to do anything more than clear up the worst. If I try to do it myself, I am so exhausted I end up having to go sick off work. I clearly can only cope with the bare minimum whilst pregnant.
Two weeks ago, everything was so messy I cried to my mum who came down to help - I've inherited her gene for the love of tidiness so luckily I had her total sympathy.
I'd love to pay for a cleaner and a gardener, but I know it would just be eating into my maternity leave - as we are having to use our savings to pay the bills etc whilst I'm on mat leave so when the savings run out, I've got to go back to work full time.