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sickness and work

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DrewsWife · 29/05/2014 16:11

called in sick today and boss was furious. i told him it was impossible and that i just wasnt well enought to start work at 7-1am.
i am exhausted. cant sleep as cannot get comfy, yesterday and day before i was running a temperature and that i also have diziness and and i apologised.

i am 10+2. no nausea just intense exhaustion. he is disappointed in my attitude and that its the 3rd time i have been off. corrected him as its actually the 2nd time. and the first time i went in and worked for 2 hours before giving in.

he says he doubts i am fit enough to do the job and thinks i need a letter from my doctor to confirm that i can continue in my role. im a call handler and take orders over the phone. and when i get back he will be having a little chat with me.

arggghhhhhh. im going between anger and intense rage. im lying in bed with a monster headache now and can only take paracetamol.

am i going to lose my job?? Confused Confused Confused

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dk75 · 29/05/2014 16:36

Hi!!
Sorry you feel so terrible. Does your boss know that you are pregnant? I would be tempted to tell him if not as he will then need to be very careful saying these things if he does know.

Pregnancy related illness does not count towards your sickness record either - and he cannot discipline your for pregnancy related time off. It may be worth going to see doctors and get sick note. If you cannot fulfil your role because of sickness then they will have to find you an alternative role or suspend you on full pay.

Hope this helps a bit
xx

sara87 · 29/05/2014 16:44

hey. ohh i went through the same thing earlier in my pregnancy. however then i wrote an application and informed my boss about my condition. He was very VERY cooperative after that! phew! i also got to avail my annual leaves for a month, facing the envious glances of my fellow male colleagues who never got to. we have a small set up and loads of work. Hence my boss was concerned at the begining. I would advise tou to talk to him or qrite an application, along with a doctor's letter on the same lines. Would help. All the very best! :-) just don't fret...you know what has more priority now, right?

Hedgehead · 29/05/2014 17:14

In my experience, weeks 9 and 10 were the absolute worst. I was physically and emotionally a mess. It feels awful now, but it's going to get better.

I really think you need to get a Doctor's note...

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DrewsWife · 29/05/2014 17:58

yes he knows i am. he is famously rude and i am quite sick of it. i worked last week through massive tummy pains. lots of ligament stretching. and last week he announced that due to a girl going on holiday i will need to go back to 5 nights a week. Angry im tired and hormonal and teary cant sleep and just want over this trimester.

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nutellacake · 29/05/2014 18:06

Big hugs op! I know exactly what you are going through. I was exactly the same and I had to take 3 months off work.

My gp was really supportive - I told her I was nauseous (wasn't actually vomiting that much compared to some people) and that it was so bad it was affecting my work. She was totally cool about it - asked how long I would like to be signed off work and wrote me an 'unfit to work' note, adding that it is pregnancy related. Ask your gp!

As far as I know, you can't be sacked for any pregnancy related issue.

nutellacake · 29/05/2014 18:10

Are you a union member by the way? They are brilliant when it comes on handling things like this. Even if you are not - there must be a union rep somewhere in the workplace. Tell them about your boss. His attitude is really not in keeping with most workplaces' equality, anti-discrimination and health and safety policies. Look at it this way - if anything were to happen to you whilst at work (dizzy spell, falling over) and you came in to work because your boss was an arse and said you had to, then they will be in a massive breach of a number of policies and you can take them to a tribunal. He should know that. All the more reason to tell a union rep that this stuff is going on.

Ugh,'people like that make me so mad!!!

RAFWife12 · 29/05/2014 18:11

They cannot discriminate against you in any way due to pregnancy! Keep a record of anything he says in case of future problems. If you cant work, you cant work. Discuss with your GP to get signed off if you need to. You need to take care of yourself and that little person growing inside you!

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DrewsWife · 29/05/2014 18:19

thanks Ladies. i appreciate all your input.

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dk75 · 29/05/2014 18:47

I would definitely get a sick note. As others have said you and the baby are the most important things to worry about. Also put it in writing that you are pregnant and let HR have a copy too if there is a HR dept. He cannot then pretend that he did not know you were pregnant if he continues to be an arse.
Good luck! Hope you start to fell better soon.
xxx

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