I feel huge at 20 weeks

[splendide]

I'm just nearly 20 weeks and suddenly really showing. I thought I would love to have a bump (and I do love it in private) but I am shocked at how self conscious I feel now.

A few people have said I am very big for how far along I am and now I feel a bit freaky. I think because I'm so short there isn't really anywhere for it all to spread to. My secretary (who hasn't seen me for a week) just did a sort of gasp and said "OMG you're suddenly massive". There goes her bonus (joking -sort of). She also told me her kick boxing instructor didn't show at all until 7 months.

Is there anyone else at about the same stage who is properly showing? I might just refuse to leave the house from now on.

Oh my bump is enormous and I know (this is dc2) that it's a lot of fluid and it'll all come off again by a few months post partum. I'm 22.5 wks and since 18 wks I've looked obviously pg. try and ignore the silly comments, there is a baby in there and you shouldn't feel bad about that! Maybe time to buy a few more nice maternity clothes to give yourself a boost?

A few people have said I am very big for how far along I am

Tell them that you are incubating an entire human being and to piss off. Do NOT let them get to you, this is another form of body fascism.

I would go all ice queen on your secretary and tell her you don't appreciate personal comments. Or you'll have to listen to it for another 20 weeks.

I wouldn't worry, im 24weeks and im massive, granted I was overweight when I conceived this time but with all of mine ive been big, im only 5ft2 and agree the shorter you are the more you seem to show and earlier. I carry a lot of amniotic fluid and my babies were all around 9lb so when people say "oh is it twins??" I want to stab them in the eye tbh!!

Thanks, I feel a bit better. I might go and buy a nice dress at lunchtime to try to cheer up. I am 5'2" as well fishead and also a bit overweight. I have put on 9lbs so far which I thought was okish.

I am obviously just going to have to deal with it, I just really resent that even while I'm pregnant my body isn't right and people want to tell me.

People make stupid comments. I am entirely average size but everyone loves to play doctor and say I'm big or small. If I don't agree they'll just cite some friend of a friend who's a nurse etc and can be very patronising.

Ps yep I showed for sure at 20 weeks! But was being told at 14 I was weird not showing... Whatever you look like you get comments.

People should refrain from commenting. I have put on around 10lb and am 16weeks. Don't look pregnant yet getting some weight comments from people who I now have a good measure of. It's just bloody rude

I just really resent that even while I'm pregnant my body isn't right and people want to tell me

Sadly it is that especially while pregnant people feel able to stick their oar in. It is just bafflingly rude. Can you imagine another situation in which someone would feel able to comment on a coworker's body? especially his or her boss???

sounds about right splendie, ive put on 15lbs

I've had looks of shock from some people when I tell them how many weeks I am as they think I look huge but others on the same day who have commented that my bump looks compact and neat. You just can't win! I'm just going to roll my eyes next time lol.

It's all rubbish isn't it? We really ought to only care what our S.O. thinks :) mine has a policy of always maintaining that he hasn't noticed any weight gain at all :)

I was exactly the same, also 5'2" & gained a stone by 12 weeks! I remember the midwife telling me at the booking appointment that most people gained no weight or lost weight by that point. I wore spanx (not too tight ones) to try & smooth out my new curves til 16 weeks. I was a size 8-10 before & by time I was 20 weeks def looked close to giving birth. Rude people (always women, mainly other mums) frequently told me they just sized up in clothes or were 'lucky' not to gain weight like me! One very old haggard woman at the checkout, one day, asked if I was having a horse!! My best friend went around the world travelling & by time she got back I was 8 months ish & her comments included "omg you look like you have eaten a whole person!). Bit my tongue but in my head told these people what I thought of them too!! I think it's a shame people feel need to comment on others figures while pregnant. That said I think at 20 weeks it's better to show off your bump in tighter clothes than leave people wondering if you are just chunky! Ignore it, don't worry too much about your size & just enjoy watching that beautiful bump develop, say goodbye to your toes & take pictures of your belly button in all it's different states!! Oh & 5 months on after my 2nd baby I'm back in my skinny jeans and way thinner than many who called me Massive!

Ah thanks it's nice to know it isn't just me. It was just weirdly unexpected I think!

I wanted to be pregnant for ages so when I saw expectant women I always just thought "awww lovely, how lucky". It would never have occurred to me to interrogate them about their due date and then give them a little run down of what I thought about their body!

People will always comment on the size of your bump, whatever your size. Ignore them.

People often commented that my bump looked rather small. In fact, it measured average size but looked smaller due to me being 5'11''. And I am sure I had put on more than 9 lbs by 20 weeks- that actually sounds like quite a modest weight gain.

I'm 17 weeks and last week two people told me I was "huge" and asked if I was sure I wasn't expecting twins!

Wanted to thump them. I feel like saying what do you expect me to look like?? On the flip side there is a girl in work who's a week ahead of me and I heard people saying "Oh Anna looks further along than you!" And she got all defensive and said "Oh in other clothes you can really see it"

So perhaps there's no perfect size!

People are plonkers ignore them. I'm 14 weeks pregnant and massive. Regularly get asked if it's twins etc. just ignore them.