Extreme sickness at 7 weeks

[charl87111]

Hi,

Ive never posted before but after miscarrying once before at 5 weeks, this is my second attempt and I'm looking for a bit of advice. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant, and within the last week Ive been suffering from extreme nausea. It is not particularly in the morning, but all day long. I have not yet been physically sick, but I am nauseous to the point where I either feel like I will be, or I wretch uncontrollably. Its not even coming in waves, its a constant feeling from the moment I wake, worsening in the evenings and at bedtime. Food is a complete no no, there is nothing I want. I am not complaining as this is a welcome time in my life, but moreso wondering how normal it is. I know sickness is more than common for most women during pregnancy, and is often even a good sign, but obviously I am finding it very difficult to hide at work, my other half doesnt understand and It is really starting to get me down, to the point of tears. Should I ask my midwife, or shall I hold out for it to pass. Thanks in advance...

Charlotte

Hi Charlotte,

I'm 8 weeks and for the past 2 weeks have been so incredibly ill, I have put eaten hardly anything and for some of the days wasn't even to keep water down.

My naseua is constant and I have been violently sick a few times to the point of bruised ribs. I'm also completely exhausted, I'm a teacher on half term at the moment and basically spending all day in bed or on the sofa. The other day I tidied the front room and was so tired fell asleep for five hours straight lol.

I have posted about feeling absolutely awful and my symptoms getting the best of me, I feel depressed and isolated despite my DH wonderful support. I did however tell my manager and the head as it just took the edge off because the naseua is basically unbearable, there'd be no harm in you telling your manager - as I say it'll take the edge off your poor performance. I am so happy to be pregnant but at the moment am just stuck in limbo due to my exhausting and soul destroying sickness.

As soon as I started getting really sick I bought my husband a husband guide to pregnancy book and read him out each weekly symtpoms. You need his support and I hope he bucks up soon, mine isn't constantly enthusiastic and actually burst out laughing today when I had a hormonal pull over I'm gonna be sick episode then cried like a she wolf for an hour.... They are just men.

None of the conventional crap has worked for me, ginger makes me wretch and my food preferences change everyday. You have my total and utter sympathy. My midwife refused to take my blood today and I kept dry wretching during our appointment.

Speak to your midwife and she can check if you've gone into ketosis and the doctor can prescribe anti sickness meds. After two weeks of total misery I'm just planning on ploughing through then piling on all my lost weight when I can actually stomach anything.

Try a nice warm bath, keep a bowl for spitting excess saliva into, try and think about other things, sleep when you can, don't do any housework, whatever you can stomach eat, keep hydrated and remember you're not alone. It's so awful I know, but it will get better.

Sending lots of anti sickness vibes

Sam x

Hi I had awful sickness all the way through pregnancy all I can really say Is drink lots of water it wasn't until about 14 weeks that I figured out that if I was well hydrated it's made it much more bare able. I carried a 2lt bottle of evian everywhere with me, I never really found much I could eat and keep down bland stuff is good salt and vinegar crisps citrus fruit.

If you are failing to cope (which I did massively! ) go to your gp your midwife can't write a prescription for anything! And if the medication doesn't work go back there lots of different ones they can try I wasn't told this until a consultant appointment by which time I'd lots 12kg mostly hcp are pretty lacks about morning sickness but when it's bad it can be truly crippling especially when all you want is to be happy & instead you feel like you're dying!

Thank you so much Sam,

Im glad I am not alone! I am in the same predicament, the absolute joy of being pregnant, but also the utter hatred of this sickness ruining it for me. I am exactly the same in the sense I cannot bear to eat a thing. Even just the thought of food at this point increases the nausea. I have a bottle of water by me at all times, but even that involves force feeding.

As I say, Im yet to be physically sick but Im convinced it is only a matter of time. But at this point in time, Im beginning to wonder whether, as disgusting as it sounds, that it would be some sort of relief as opposed to this constant nausea. I am avoiding telling my manager as I am waiting to break the news after 12 weeks, but my colleagues are already picking up on it and I think unless there is a drastic improvement I will be left with no choice but to tell him. I work 9-10 hour days as an assistant manager, and it is safe to say that by the end of it, I am ready to curl up and die.

Pregnancy books might be the way to go with the OH. He is excited, and great in that sense, but I think when I tell him I feel sick he doesn't quite grasp to what extent. Especially when he goes on to ask me what is for dinner.. to say I was horrified doesn't come close. The first thing that came to mind was 'where do they sell those masks they wear in the nail bars?'. After taking up my whole two days off to muster up the motivation to do the house work, I got as far as the kitchen and gave up. In a way I feel like I don't want to go to pot in terms of being a fiancée and a domestic goddess.

Thank you so much for the advice. The spitting bowl is a great idea as the vile taste it leaves in my mouth is rather unpleasant. I will speak to the midwife tomorrow, although I am almost sure she will send me away. And hopefully the small amount of weight I have lost, and the nutrients I am not getting at the moment, I will have plenty of time to make up for. And on that note, that nice warm bath sounds like a great idea..

God, what a moan I am. Sorry for the rant, and thanks again.

Charlotte x

Thankyou dollybird. Thats exactly how I feel... my happiness is being completely overwhelmed by crippling nausea. Perhaps the GP is the way to go then.

x

That's some excellent advice there. I was vomiting numerous times a day but could manage to keep some liquids and some food down so never went down the road of anti sickness tablets although they are available. I couldn't eat anything beyond cereal and noodles and white bread. And yes, it's practically impossible to hide from people, but I told my managers at work so they could support me even if no one else knew. Unfortunately it's something most pregnant women go through, the first trimester is tough and the sickness can be intense. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong. And I agree that a lot of 'remedies' like ginger etc are just crap to keep you occupied until you realise that nothing will stop it! Eating carby foods helped me, also chewing gum just kept bad tastes out my mouth a helped me not think about food. At 14 weeks I was so much better and stopped vomiting and now at 28 I'm pretty much back to eating normally with a few things that still turn me off. Just rest as much as you can, don't try and do the same things you did, be a recluse if you have to, it's only for a few weeks and you need to conserve strength and relax. Stay strong!

Oh and I agree, cooking is the last thing you want to do! I used to love it and my poor husband kept buying nice foods that I'd just refuse to eat or look at! I also rather meanly didn't let him cook a lot of stuff for the smells. He put on about as much weight as I lost in those two months because of all the takeaways he had to get!

I wouldn't advise it Charlotte but my vomiting started after a coughing fit made me not able to control my wretches, after being sick I feel still ill but comparable miles better for about half and hour. If you feel like you're going to be, maybe entertain it and not make yourself more stomach knotted by fighting it.

It's after I'm sick that I eat. That's the only time. It wouldn't be the worst thing, the worst is the nausea and saliva - don't be scared of it. Some people say as soon as they've started they've not stopped, but if I really try I can control mine when at work.

I also wanted to wait till 12 weeks but they're probably already speculating about you, telling your manager might nip it in the bud. You can make some excuse up together. You're not going to jinx it sweetheart x

Let me know how you get on as we'll probably be due around the same time so running parallel with each other!

Sam x

Thanks Redling. I think your right in terms of don't think about food. With the sickness I do wonder if a lot of it is in the mind.. the more I think about feeling ill, the worse I become. I keep telling myself its only for a matter of weeks but my coping strategies are really being tested to the limit. The one thing I do force myself to have is shredded wheat in the morning to go with my vitamin. Although I poke and prod it until it is a matter of mush. The only other thing I can stomach is fruity ice lollies. they take my mind of my stomach upset I was only sat here eating one earlier thinking 'please can this lolly last forever'. Thanks for all the support!

I think you're right Sam, I will never force myself to vomit, but up till now If ive felt like I am going to be physically, sick Ive knotted up as you say. Even that half an hour sounds like bliss to me right now. I wouldn't say I have a phobia of being sick, but if I can help it, I will do do all extent. Time to give in I think.

Yes you're right, Im going to give myself till the end of the week and see if anything looks like improving, otherwise I will think having the conversation with him next week. As you say, I might be grateful for the bit of understanding and support within work.

Yes definitely! My estimated GP due date is Mid January, as you say, we will be running fairly parallel. Would be nice to compare horrible sickness, lol.

Charlotte x