feeling unprepared at 35 weeks and ill :-(

[Monkeybrain10]

Just after some advice on things to prioritise please?
Am 35&half weeks. Still at work for couple of weeks but feeling like crap with cold & chest infection plus sciatica. (took today off as leave to get stuff done but instead in bed ill!)
I am totally disorganised re: the baby. We moved house a couple of weeks ago..which was a nightmare...rental fell through last minute so everything in storage...don't know where anything is. Now in another rental til 4 weeks after baby is due (no idea what we do then!?)

Just had a row with dp over him texting whilst driving. So he's gone off in a strop...so once again, no baby stuff is getting sorted...i'm in bed just feeling like crap and can't be bothered if he can't...but actually panicking as haven't got hospital bag sorted or anywhere for baby to sleep. (hard when all ourstuff is in storage and rental is so small we don't really have room for anything anyhow!). And i don't even know how to change a nappy :-S

I'm just feeling sorry for myself tbh but feel like dp is burying his head in the sand so i feel like if i don't organise everything (and pay for it all) nothing Will get done....which with being ill at the moment means nothing is!

Also suddenly i only have 2 dresses that fit..all my t shirts are now too short so no comfy clothes left...we live in the country so i can't just pop to the shops and getting from my car to work is painful..on crutches but it's a near vertical hill! Urgh ...any advice on priorities much appreciated as i am suddenly feeling really overwhelmed :-( thanks.

Apologies for the moan..i realise there are people in much worse positions than me...just need a rant really as feeling so frustrated and worried!

Ok - IMO there are a couple of things that aren't a major concern

1. Your mat clothes - just alternate the 2 dresses (and perhaps some clothes of your DPs / big PJs when at home) - you don't have long left and can't be working too much longer so will be fine.
2. You will learn, how to change nappy etc in hospital so don't worry about that.

I think you need to address things in order of time priority

1. Hospital bag - order what you need online today - then you don't have to worry about getting to shops.
2. Essentials for baby at home - somewhere to sleep (cheap moses basket with some bedding, order on line), some basic clothes, perhaps some muslin cloths, nappies, wipes etc (supermarket shop online), car seat, pram or sling?, steriliser & bottles just in case. An allocated chest of drawers or wardrobe would be useful to actually put all the babies things in so they are easy to find/sort.
3. Where are you going to live next?

Thanks mutley, that's a real help.
Don't have the internet in the rental (doing this via mobile network so a bit unpredictable...as if to prove a point i've tried to post this response about 15 times!!) which is also making things hard...have to travel to family or library to order stuff online. It's all so ridiculous...we put our flat on the market a year ago as we felt it was too small to have a baby in and Have ended up in a temporary rental which is even smaller just as baby is due!

Do you get paid if signed off sick? Cos I was v ill ar the end of my pregnancy and being signed off really helped. Took me weeks to feel better (and then I gave birth and hurt for other reasons!)

Tiny babies dont need a lot. Just somewhere to sleep, clothes, nappies, something to eat (so feeding bra or bottle stuff. No need for feeding clothes just wear a strappy top and t-shirt - pull strappy top down and lift tshirt up) and some means of transport.

Can a friend or family member do an online shop for you?

Thanks sizzles. I think I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Not helped by dp throwing a strop and disappearing for the day when i'm feeling so rubbish! I just need to be organised so i can order stuff online at family's house. Have told dp that he has to do supermarket shop and have texted him a list! Dr says she's happy to sign me off but i'll hopefully feel better after the bank hol. Thanks for advice and support!

Don't worry about the size of your flat, babies really don't need much space and don't care how tidy the house is.

What are your family/friends like? Is there anyone you could ask to order stuff online for you and trust them to make sensible decisions? If things are tight at the moment then I would say the bare minimum of things like bedding, sleep suits etc is 3 of each.
You don't need to worry about buying brand nappies, just go for the supermarket own brand and you'll be able to get double what you would for things like pampers.

You don't need much for your hospital bag. For now you could just put in a couple of baggy tops, pj bottoms, big pants, nappies, spare tooth brush and tooth paste. Just imagine you are packing for a short weekend break but with a couple of baby grows thrown in for good measure!

As for your DP...well I'm not sure what to advise on that one. Having a baby is scary but it sounds as if he's avoiding even the thought of it. That'll have to change soon and he won't have much choice on that matter!

Thanks all for good advice. Dp came home with shopping (minus the chocolate biscuits...boo!). He's still in a mood but at least we have food! :-)

I had hyperemesis right through all my pregnancies.
I was so down about not being able to prepare anything - I could barely move without throwing up.
Really, for the first 6 weeks, you can get by with disposable nappies and babygros. As long as you have towels and bedding, food,water, light and heat you will be ok. If you breast feed life will be easier.

With DS2 I lived in 3 different houses from 34 weeks pregnant until he was 12 weeks old. There was no online shopping (no computers) back then. That was fun with a 2 year old to cope with as well.

You will be ok. Just focus on getting the absolute basics and then you can get other things as and when you need them.

Thank u!