BFP and freaked out!

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So, I got a BFP on Monday after a few months of trying and to be honestly I am feeling totally freaked out by the whole thing!

This was very much a planned pregnancy but its still taken me a bit by shock (stupid I know). I have so much planned for the summer (beach holiday, a festival, lots of outdoor fun with family and friends) and I can't help but feel a bit disappointed that I'm not going to be able to enjoy these things as much as I might have (this must sound so shallow - I'm so sorry).

I've been with my husband for a while and a part of me is also concerned about all the lifestyle changes that this will mean for us - we of course discussed them but now its actually a reality, its terrifying! I don't cope well with change!

I'm sorry if I sound like I'm moaning but it kinda feels better getting it all out - I have been all over the place this week - massively excited one minute and sh**ting it the next. It's going to be a long time til January methinks! Please tell me it gets easier because I'm not coping very well just now!

I was the same when I found out I was pregnant with my first, but you can still do all the things you would before just differently & it's still enjoyable! & once you have your baby you will forget about all those things anyway :) our lifestyle didn't change massively, our son was just apart of everything too x

Congratulations and it's totally normal to be freaking out - I think the people who don't have a bit of a panic are the weird ones!

Congratulations.

You've probably spent most of your life avoiding getting pg, and now you are, you're freaking. I was the same.

Congratulations :)

I agree, it's totally normal to freak out. I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old, no plans for any more and planned on getting a coil fitted. I've been waiting for an appointment to come through when the drs rang me, they can't go ahead and make the appointment as my urine test came back positive...gobsmacked wasn't the word!! I've been on the pill, so wasn't worried about lack of period, but going on my dates I'm about 9 weeks. We're really freaking out right now lol

Congratulations.
Our little one was planned but its still so scary when that bfp appears.
You'll slowly get your head round it.
It is a big lifestyle change and its hard work but as soon as you see your own child smile it makes all the tough bits disappear.
Hope you have a really happy pregnancy

I was the same with my first. And second. And third

They were all very much planned and very much wanted but I remember that shock and the fear well.

Perfectly normal IME, and you will be ok. Have a really happy healthy pregnancy. Congratulations!

Congratulations!

I felt exactly the same - I have rugby tickets bought for Twickenham, a weekend beer and cider festival (!) and a 2-week holiday island hopping in Greece, at which point i will be 6 months pregnant and looking like a whale. Not the beer-swilling by the pool in my size 10 bikini I had in mind when we booked it!

We were also TTC but had no idea it would happen so quickly, so I think it is always a shock. I'm already hating the lack of booze and it's only been 2 weeks since by BFP but I know it will all be worthwhile in the end, and I can still have lots of fun in the meantime (just will be able to remember it all the next day now!)

Frances x

I feel exactly the same, I could have written your post! I got mine on Monday and we're due to go to New York & Barbados in two weeks so at the moment I'm worried about having morning sickness for the duration of my last child free holiday, in addition to all the usual worries about potential MC, is this cramping normal, what do I do about work etc etc

But from the above post I'm reassured that this is normal, if you consider how much of a huge thing this is, its no surprise people freak a little bit.

have you told your families yet? We're going to wait a while until its sunk in- I'd feel a bit like a fraud otherwise!

January here we come! :)

Ah, thanks guys, this has made me feel much better. I just felt so selfish for feeling the way I did. First world problems, eh?!

We haven't told anyone - I'm only 5+4 and think its a bit early yet. I have an old uni friend coming to stay this weekend so I'll need to tell her - I only see her a couple of times a year and it's always a really boozy affair - she'll guess instantly so i'd rather get in there first!

I was at a gig last night - drove, drank juice, remembered it all and feel tickety-boo today - there might be benefits to this after all (although a beer and cider festival sounds like a different matter - that would be TOUGH!).

I'm still freaking out but it will be better I think as time goes on and I get used to the idea (and once I have a bump/symptoms - at the moment it doesn't feel real). DH is also having a paret-to-be meltdown so he's not much help either!

Here's to the lifestyle changes! Eeeek!

xxx

Ps - the sounds like an amazing holiday seasidedolly - NY and Barbados? Well jel!

xxx

nesspot If you want to join there is a New Year, New Baby thread in Antenatal clubs here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2079127-January-2015-New-Year-New-Baby-New-Thread-2

It's quite a nice place to go and discuss how we are all feeling as we are all going through the same stuff at the same time (and it really makes you realise you are not alone!) x