Is it too late or should I do it all over again?

[mumtoone1]

My son recently turned 12. He is our only child.

Up until recently I've always said I didn't want or need another and now all of a sudden my biological clock is ticking and all I can think about is babies.

I had my son young, so this is the time when all my friends are having kids (30).

My fears have always been the age gap, or the cost however we are both in good jobs and although we currently own a 2 bedroomed cottage could easily afford a 3 bedroom.

Another fear is going through it all again. we make jokes that it won't be long till he's off and we can tour the world and enjoy our freedom and I suppose having our son young mean't we would have some quality time together as a couple in our later years.

is 12 or by the time the potential baby comes 13 years too big an age gap?

I'm so confused.....

Nah, just go for it if you both want to!

There's 13 years between my mums oldest and youngest. It's not a big age gap at all. Just think of the free babysitting when they are older!!!

My sister has a 15yo ds, a 12yo dd and a 9mo ds!

The baby is absolutely adored by his sibling (and parents of course!) and although he wasn't planned she is so glad he came along.

Go for it if it's what you both want.

If you can afford it and are willing for the hard work go for it! I had a couple friends when I was a kid who had siblings 12+ years older, and they seemed to all get on fine, think they were almost more like a close aunt/uncle!

My little brother is 13 years younger than me :) go for it!

I am expecting dc3 when my other dds will be 16 and 11. I've always wanted more but DH only came round to it in the last year. Like you, we had started talking about 'when they move out' but we have easily changed how we think.

The worries are different to those when ppl have a close age gap so instead of sibling rivalry we are worrying about how to keep a close relationship between them when dd1 goes to uni (dc3 will be 2). Both my kids are delighted to be gaining a sibling. We are more adventurous as parents now (exotic holidays and eating out etc) and expect that will carry on as we now effectively have 4 ppl caring for 1 baby.
Personally, I don't think 12/13 years is too much of an age difference but its more whether you want the change in lifestyle that it entails.