Newbie here (be gentle) and early reassurance scan/paranoia!!

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Hi everyone! hello

I'm completely new to the site so I'm hoping I'm doing this right ... I'm 5 weeks 3 days pregnant according to my lmp. This is my first pregnancy and we discovered I was pregnant at 10dpo so feels like we've known for ages!! I was expecting the GP to 'confirm' it in some way with bloods perhaps but he just said 'Yes, it sounds like you're pregnant'. I've got my first appointment with the midwife at home at 8 weeks. I'm hugely paranoid that I'm not actually pregnant and it's all in my head (despite poas 14 times with BFP's) or that something is going to go wrong. Is this just normal for a first pregnancy or am I mad?!

I've booked in to have an 'early reassurance' scan privately at the local hospital at the cost of 75. I'll be 7 weeks 1 day by then and I just want the reassurance that little bean is in the right place and that I am actually expecting - sounds mad doesn't it? We're so ready for this baby and I'm desperate to let myself get excited but I'm just finding it so hard to believe I'm pregnant from a little line on a stick without actually seeing anything. I've also done a bit of research and I think we should be able to see the heartbeat by 7 weeks - has anyone else had an early scan and had this? That would be absolutely amazing and I'm hoping it will help me to relax a bit ...

I've felt quite sicky this week, really fatigued and my boobs are killing. I have twins and triplets (eek!) in my family and so I'm wanting the early scan to confirm that there's just the one little bean! :-D

Firstly congratulations !! I felt the exact same as you untill my early scan! I had one at 6+5 and I have attached a picture so you know what sort of thing to expect but yep heartbeat was there ! It still doesn't feel overly real but .. It is !! Enjoy it and I ogle your pregnancy goes well :)

Congratulations! Yep everything you said sounds totally normal! Until feeling movements about a week or two ago I was pretty convinced I'd made it all up, despite having 2 scans. I had one at 8 weeks which was a great reassurance, just be aware that that early on, if things were slightly later than you thought, it might look very different on a scan between one week and the next (like, being able to see a heartbeat and not). Good luck!

Thanks ladies! Firstpregnancy2014 your scan is so cute! It's so clear, do you mind me asking if they could pick the image up externally or internally? I'm really hoping they can pick up a heartbeat, I think it really will give me some (temporary) piece of mind!

I think the unreality of pregnancy is really common. I'm almost 12 weeks this time and still have moments of oh shit what if my period is just late. However my boobs, the sick feeling and the tiredness and tears are pointing me in the right direction. I can also feel the difference in my tummy area.

Are you generally an anxious person? It might be worth getting some help with relaxing, or mindfulness work. Pregnancy can be quite full of worry and fear and everyone will want to share horror stories. Having some skills to manage how you feel and keep your anxiety levels ok might be helpful.

Congratulations!

I was so surprised that my Dr / Mw took my word for it that I was pregnant and didn't retest. I had symptoms, but they weren't overly strong, and I was convinced I was imagining my pregnancy. On my way to the 12 wk scan I kept telling my mum and OH that I was sure "there was nothing in there". I've since heard so many pregnant women say this!

All was well at the 12 week scan - in fact, we discovered not one baby but two (quite the wonderful surprise!).

Anyway, it's totally normal to feel worried - all sorts of anxieties will pop up during your pregnancy you just have to be mindful of which anxieties are based on something serious (ie a symptom / issue you shouldn't ignore) and which are just your mind in over-drive. What might help is feeling that it's ok to feel a bit worried - it's normal to be a little anxious. But be reassured that medical support here is wonderful, you're never that far away from a MW or hospital, that MN is a fantastic source of support, advice and entertainment.

Congratulations again!

Hi,

I'm around 10 weeks and feeling totally the same! We found out really early, and I'm sure I've done about a million tests just to make sure I'm not imagining it. It feels so strange that the GP/ midwife just take your word for it without running any tests themselves!

Now, we have a dating scan on June 2nd. I sort of wish we'd done an earlier scan privately just to be sure, but now I'd feel silly doing that with only a few days until the NHS one. Still, I'd like to know everything is OK in there! Feeling a bit crappy, sick, tired and taking a couple of days each week to work from home (GUILT), but keep wondering if that's all psychological...

Anyway, sure you'll be completely fine, and we're all in this together- best of luck!

Thanks everyone. I am a born worrier but fortunately I don't suffer with full blown anxiety. I think we're just so excited that I'm scared of jinxing it in some way by allowing by excitment to come out? We're both desperate to tell our parents as we know if something was to go wrong, we'd want their support. All being well, we're hoping to tell them after our first scan next weekend when I'll be seven weeks. I've had to tell my work already due to appointments and they pretty much guessed anyway (it's no big secret that we've always wanted a family, we married last year and have recently moved in to a bigger house!)