Why do people feel the need to comment?!

[mandbaby]

Aaaarghhhh!

I'm 22 weeks pregnant with DC3. We don't know the sex but already have two boys. I'm naturally and luckily very slim (size 8-10) and have always had very neat bumps. I've been showing for about 7 weeks but up until now have kept it well disguised wearing normal, loose clothing. Today, I've warn a jersey dress which clings to me and it's VERY obvious I'm pregnant.

Cue comments from colleagues:
"oooh, you're much bigger than last time" (No I'm not, it's just the first time you've seen my bump because I've kept it hidden until now! In fact, many colleagues weren't even aware I was pregnant until today!)
"It's definitely another boy, your bump is all at the front"

Who made these people bloody experts?! Surely it's possible to have an "up front" bump and it be a girl. Do any of you really buy that boy/girl bollocks? I think it's rubbish and your bump is entirely to do with your own body shape, age and eating habits.

Rant over. goes off to scream into a pillow

I think a lot of people suffer from foot in mouth disease as they struggle to find something to say to a pregnant woman but some comments are way out of order. I am 14 weeks with DC2 and bracing myself for the comments as I am starting to show and have put on a lot more weight than with DS.
When I was pregnant with DS, we went on holiday and the B&B owner saw it fit to tell me that my bump was too small and that he was certain I was going to have a small baby! In what stupid head is that an acceptable thing to say to an expectant mother?? Urgh...

A so called friend said I looked 'mumsy', Im 24 weeks and Im not mumsy- however she did look like she had been dragged through a hedge which is totally normal for her so ill take the comment with a bucket of salt! I asked her what she meant as Im dressing normally and she said you know pregnant, glowing....well that's not mumsy is it! silly cow. My dh was mortified on my behalf.

I consoled myself with the fact that my mum saw her a year ago and described her as a bag lady due to how she dressed/did her hair.

Yes, as alita7 said above, my main bugbear is the assertive gender guesses. "oh it's definitely a suchandsuch"

Oh really! Well who gave you fooking x-ray vision?!

It's not commentary that I hate (though I'm sure that will come!) but the looks! I'm only 14+3 with DC1 and maybe just starting to show, though possibly still a bit of bloat. But it's like everyone who knows, which isn't that many people, has forgotten I have a face! As soon as I see someone, the eyes zoom straight for my belly and stick there. Yesterday evening at our skittles match (yes, that passes for entertainment here in the Forest) two teenage girls started DISCUSSING whether I was 'just fat' or 'actually looking pregnant'!!!!

No words to describe how The Rage hit me at that point.

Though my grandmother, who is lovely but at that stage of elderliness where she thinks it's ok to be rude because she's earned the right by living so long, announced to my DP that I should 'have no trouble whelping, look at the width of those hips!' Gee, thanks Nanna...

I went overdue with both boys (both arriving the morning of the day I was to be induced) and I was completely fed up of 'have you had him yet?'

This started about a month before the due date right up until I had them. So about 6 weeks of being asked the same bloody question about 5 times a day. As well as text and Facebook. And then a few dopey twazzocks would doublecheck the same thing with DP or DMil. In case it had slipped my mind I had had the baby and just forgotten about it.

With DS2 it was especially irritating as he was sat on my sciatic nerve and I had to deal with toddler DS1 whilst finding it hard to even roll over in bed.

Haha, it was the same with DS1, everyone said a girl, couldn't be further from him. I just laugh and tell them to take bets. I Like when they commented on how big I got though, always seen them commenting on it as a sort of sign baby was growing well

What I don't understand is I've had one complete stranger in the pub tell me it's definitely a boy and one close friend is completely certain it's a boy.
Dp and I think it's a girl, not only because of intuition but because of the nub theory, the bicarbonate of soda test and the side of implantation (and incidentally the chinese calender test too but that's probably bs!). Now I'm aware that these thing's aren't going to be 100% accurate, maybe not even 50%, and it may well be a boy, BUT at least my thoughts are based on something, I told these two people that actually according to those theories it looks like it's a girl but we will see, and they both still said something along the lines of , oh no, you'll see, definitely a boy...! What idiots! I bet the friend will still be certain after the 20 week scan!

This was just shared on our November baby thread and I thought it was too good not to share with all of you

Possibly might help get the message across to the gropers...?

Goodness i remember it too. Drove me insane. Why people think just cos you are pregnant they can comment on the shape of your body constantly!

I wish people would think before they open their gobs!!
Take MIL for instance, every time I see her she says "ooh you've popped out" or "you've grown" when sometimes it's less than 24 hours since I've seen her last and I look the bloody same!
I've also had people telling me I'm "much bigger than last time" (I'm not and have bump photos to prove it) and it's definitely a boy due to bump shape etc when I clearly saw on at least 3 separate scans the baby is definitely a girl!! Gives me the rage

My mum tried to ease my loss anxiety by telling me how big, feisty and in some cases multiple all the first kids in my family tend to be!
Bonny would have been one thing. This was like 10lb baby after 10lb baby! And of course they all pushed them out then went back to the field.
...but she added lurid birth stories and nuggets like 'you'll have to decide whether to tear or be cut, they're always huge. Vontuse or forceps? And mention no students doing stitches...'
Cheers for that. I know these things often do happen but you're making little bean sound like Godzilla!

Someone at work stepped aside to let me past her in the corridor. Someone else commented that she moved for "the wide load coming through". Nice.

I was sitting at the busstop in town the other day, just had a ribena i bought from shop and it woke lil man up in me tum, and i kid you not this old woman just blatently comes out with quite loudly "oh...whys your belly moving like that?!".....i wasnt even looking her way! I replied "mabey its beacuse there is a baby in there growing!!!" These two young girls looked quite shicked as its pretty obvious im pregnant! Not as if my belly isnt massive lol i wouldnt of minded if she had manners and spoke a bit more respective of me but she just shocked me lol and to say it as loud as she did baring in mind there is constantly busses and taxis going up and down so its a noisy street. Some people do not have any respect these days -.-....

It's is so annoying. I was told I looked 17 weeks pregnant when I was only 14 weeks. Who do people think they are f*ing sonographers?! Grrrr x