stressing......

[yummymummy03122010]

I found out i was pregnant last thursday. We have been together 2 years. I have had 3 miscariges and frankly im absolutly teffified im going to lose this one. And i want this baby so badly. Every time i got to the toilet i check im not bleeding. I cant go on like this for the next 12 weeks and i cannot deal with losing another one. How can i get through the next 12 weeks an still stay sane? :(

Hugs. Horrible horrible situation for you. It's normal to be worried and check for blood and worry over every slight twinge. I think everyone does it. But you have even more reason to be hyper alert and sensitive. There's a thread on here for women who are pregnant after miscarriage to offer support and help. Don't know how to link I'm afraid but fairly obvious which one it is and high on the board.
Can you go and see your gp and ask about an early scan? Unfortunately, early miscarriages are very common and there's often not anything you can do about them. Having 3 is less common though - have you had investigations to try to see if there's a reason? Your gp might be able to get a 7 ish week scan for you given your history. Which might help a bit with the worry. Fingers crossed for you and your teeny one.

It is scary even without previous miscarriages i found work and keeping myself busy took my mind off these kind of thoughts.

If you've had three MCs in a row (sorry, you don't mention whether you have any children, but I'm assuming not), you should be able to get an early scan/further investigation. Do you know why you miscarried previously - was it ever investigated? Either way, I'd see your GP asap and explain your concerns.

I feel for you. I had 2 early mcs, and felt horribly anxious when I got pregnant for the third time. Now I'm pregnant at 17+1 and feeling much better about it with every passing week. For the first few weeks of this pregnancy, I was pretty much all over the place - felt alternately excited/stressed/anxious and flat/depressed/denial - I actually got my first negative appraisal at work because I was just so distracted.

Like darksideofthemoon88 says, you should check if you have any medical cause for recurrent mcs (if you haven't already). Other than that, there's not a lot more that you can do. Do things that relax you. Congratulate yourself with every passing day... time will pass...

I have one boy whos nearly four. But since him i havnt had a succesfull pregnancy. Ive been to gp and they have not done any investigations as they said its completely normal! :( which has not helped in anyway. Also went to gp today to express my concerns and he wasnt very helpful at all! Just told me to man up and get on with it! Im still so early only about 2 weeks. And i know anything can happen. But i suppse there is nothing i can do but wait and stay strong. Taking each day as it comes. Just crossing all my fingers toes arms ect haha that its succesful!

See another doctor. Or better still, a midwife. What you've been told is wrong and unacceptable, three miscarriages is good enough reason for further investigation and extra care. You can't be expected to soldier on for the next few weeks, the midwife should at the least refer you to EPU for early scans.

Even if nothing has been found, you are entitled to extra scans etc! Don't let them fob you off.

There's a thread for women pregnant after mc here on the pregnancy board, lots of advice and support!

I'd try and see a nice female GP and take your partner along with you - sometimes it's easy to be fobbed off when you're already upset, and having someone else there to stick up for you might help.

Thanks for all your support and advice. I really appreciate it. Im going to see another doctor to see whether they can help.