Hi, sorry if this is long winded...
Me and my boyfriend have a baby due in November. We live at his parents house still as I am at uni with a part time job (finishing uni next month) and he doesn't earn enough to have anywhere near enough money to move out as he's on minimum wage. I really get on with his parents, however since living with them I'm finding it pretty difficult... They are quite 'traditional' christians and they're quite homophobic, and his dad is quite racist. I've been brought up in a family that taught me to treat everybody equally and have respect for them whether they're gay/straight/black/white/fat/thin etc etc.
Whenever the comments regarding these issues are made, I tend to bite my tongue and ignore it, but last night he made a very homophobic comment and I walked out and left - I went over to my dads house and had a huge cry and rant to him. The homophobic comments really are something that I can't stand as it's a subject that's very close to my heart - my brother came out as gay a few years ago to us. He found it very very difficult and has suffered a lot of anxiety and depression due to it, and only a few weeks ago did he get the courage to tell my grandparents! I find it all very sad because of course we are his family and will support him with through everything. But now I understand why he has had so many issues relating to it - because of the ignorant people around like this!
Anyway, I had to come back last night as I left everything here. My boyfriend said he had spoken to them and said they can't just make comments like that and they need to think about what they say etc. But he still said they're entitles to their opinion, which of course they are but not if it is f ignorant, uneducated and highly offensive!!
I said that I didn't want to live there anymore and would rather either move back to my dads or scrape the money together somehow to find somewhere cheap to rent. He had a huge strop and started saying how I didn't love him because if I did I'd put up with this 'small' issue and it'd be fine. I don't find the fact that I don't feel comfortable living here and don't want my baby to be brought up around such behaviour a 'small issue'!
It's not just this that makes me want to move out, but loads of other things too. We don't get any privacy at all - they just burst into the room all the time without knocking etc.
I really don't know what to do, and any advice would be appreciated :( I might be being ridiculous so please give me a slap if I am!
The whole thing has just really upset me...