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Pregnancy scare - questioning myself

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SacredHeart · 15/05/2014 15:33

Hi everyone,

I don't know if this is the right place to post but I wanted to hear some opinions and didn't know where to go.

I'm nearly 30 and have been with my husband 7 years (married 2). We've always been a kooky, fun couple and kids have never been in our plan. I have friends with kids and totally respect and see how being parents completely fills them but for me, it's just not something I could see myself doing.

I am on the pill and during my pill free week I didn't bleed. I kind of brushed it off but it was playing on my mind so finally took a test. It was negative and while part of me is relieved, part of me feels a little bit sad.

Now I don't know what to think. Don't get me wrong, I'm not suddenly thinking all I want to be is mother but I had been running through my head what the options would be...I've never had a scare before and before getting married, buying my house etc. I think it would have been "disaster" but the more I tried to prepare for the worst the more I thought "it could work. It would be hard and our lives would change a lot but it could work".

My question is;

is this normal? Is this me beginning down the "I want a baby" road? How do I even discuss this with my husband without him feeling betrayed or lied to (we have always been big "childfree by choice" people).

Or is this just a storm in a uterus tea-cup? Help me MNers!

OP posts:
Alice1983 · 15/05/2014 18:59

I was the same as you, in fact most people are shocked about my pregnancy including myself. Its happened and I am quite excited now, at the same time I realise how much my life will change. If you want it, speak to your partner, he is not being lied to if you are honest. You dont have to say I want a baby now...you can just say..this is how it feels...see how he feels x

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