First midwife app and scan on my own

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Hi,
My lovely husband will be out of town when I go to my first midwife appointment and a week later when I go for the 12 week scan. My lovely mum has offered to come with me, but I don't know if that's necessary? Are these appointments something that people need hand holding through?
I'm a bit on the old side to be carting my mum around everywhere with me (at 33 I can handle most situations by myself). But on the other hand we now get on really well. She is probably my best friend sad I know
So I was wondering if the ladies here took, or are planning to take, anyone that isn't their partner?

I say take your mum to the scan. She really appreciate being involved and it will be nice for you to share such a lovey moment with someone if your dh can't be there.
My dh couldn't be at a scan I had with ds1 at 10 weeks (due to a bleed) and my mum travelled 300 miles to be there, she didn't want me being alone if it was bad news.
I'm 24 weeks pregnant with ds2 and dh is army, he can't make most midwife appointments but that's not the end of the world.
Take your mum and enjoy sharing the moment with her!
And congratulations

I'm 36 but have a bit of a dodgy medical history and lots of anxiety around doctors and hospitals and in a country where I don't speak the language so not ashamed to say I need company and support during my appointments. My mum wants to be at my scans and we get on well too. Im even considering booking an extra private one for when she comes to visit. I would want company if dh couldn't make any appointments absolutely.

You wont need her for the initial appointment but would be good to have her with you for the scan in case god forbid something were wrong. It would be nice not to have to deal with that on your own. x

You don't necessarily need him at the mw appointment as long as you know both your medical histories. They will take blood, your BP and test your urine and spend quite a long time talking to you.

The scan, I'm not meaning to worry you but if they found something wrong would you prefer your mum to be there for support? There's nothing wrong with having her there if that's what you want.

I've been to all appointments on my own so far with DP working away. Luckily I've had a fairly easy pregnancy though with no major worries so I've not needed that support as much.

You don't need anyone but yourself at the scans but it is nice to have someone there with you, so if your mum is happy to then go for it! I'm sure she will love it :)

I'm going through the whole pregnancy alone, including labour unless someone offers to be my birthing partner. I don't think many partners attend me appts anyway.

Booking in with the midwife is incredibly dull form-filling so as long as you know about any major health issues on both sides of your family (particularly hereditary conditions) there is really no need for anyone else to be there.

12 week scan on the other hand is (hopefully) a really magical experience you'll remember for the rest of your life but (unlikely but possible) potentially really horrible and traumatic if you got bad news. Either way someone you care about to hold your hand will be definitely be appreciated. Personally I'd ideally want my DH there if at all possible, even if another close friend or relative were available.

My mum came with me to 12 week scan with DS and iv had a few extra growth scans this time round at 22 and 28 weeks - both of which mum has come with me - she loves them lol.
My DH is in the Military so often misses appointments :(.
With regards to your booking appointment I wouldn't bother. Not much happens & they are not exciting for you or anyone else

Grand - thanks all for sharing your experiences. I've asked my mum to come with me for the scan (which she was very pleased about) and I'll do the midwife on my own.

I think the reason my mum is so keen is that when she had me and my sisters it wasn't the 'done thing' to have anyone accompany you though scans etc. my dad managed to raise three girls without really changing a nappy.

You don't really need anyone to come to your midwife appointment but take your mum or a close friend to the scan.

my mum has been to both my 12 week scans, the first one I was bloody glad she was there as I had an mmc and the second she came just in case, even though dp was there, it was all positive this time but I'm glad she was there to see baby moving and get excited with us :)
If you are unlucky enough to have bad news, which I will cross my fingers you don't, you will need someone to support you. If all is well then having someone to share the excitement with will also be lovely :)

My mum came to one scan with DH (we had just lost my dad, and it was a nice thing to help her be a part of), and then with dc2 she came alone as DH couldn't make it. It's good to have someone there, just in case you do get any bad news - we had a bit of a scare at one 12 week scan, and though all turned out fine I would have been a wreck if alone!

My partner hasn't come to any midwife appointments (no point really, they're very rushed and impersonal).

He came to the scan though. I definitely wouldn't want to do that alone. I'm 33 and would have taken my mum if he couldn't have been there. If it's bad news you'll need her there, if it's good news you'll want her there. I was walking on air for days after my scan! I don't think I could have driven myself home even!!!

Every time I've been for a scan there's always been at least one mum with her daughter there so d

Oops, pressed too soon! Don't worry, it's nothing new for them.

Hope it all goes well for you :)

Midwife appointment boring, scan exciting and useful to have company for all the hanging around. I took my mum to the 12 week scan as DH was in work. She was pleased to be included.