I know this has been done before......

[ohdearsillyme]

but think i might be pregnant.

had unprotected sex and what i thought was the wrong time of month and now period due and no sign yet.However have pmt from hell and the most tender breasts imaginable.
Dh doesn't want me to test yet until i'm late and also until he's home from work.
Won't be a disaster if i am but not what we'd thought of.Already have 2 kids who drive us to distraction.
so what do you reckon? is af going to kick in later?

That's how I ended up preggers with this one. Had a scare and then turned into a broody maniac. I got preggers on the first attempt and it has taken me 6 months to get used to the idea. I had 2 or 3 bfns before I got my positive but it didn't matter as I knew I was preggers. Good luck with what ever happens!

af started in the night. woke up with real period pains and feeling grotty.
i still don't know how i really feel about having another one.would have loved it to be positive but as it was negative ,all the reasons for not having another one are still there.we've no money,not enough space, i got pnd last time and dh scared it will happen again which is fair enough.
Had a talk about it last night and dh said he was a bit sad too, because if i had been it would worked and we'd have been happy and there are lots of positive things about having a baby.But he still can't bring himself round to the idea of actually trying to get pregnant with another.
sigh.
i don't know what we'll do now.

sit down and have a chat with him.
draw up a list of pros and cons for having another child.
if you both feel that having another would be a blessing not a disaster, then go for it.
as you have had pnd before, the health professionals will be on the lookout for it this time.

i just keep thinking that while we might regret not having more children, we will never regret having more children iyswim.
however i know he is right about all the practical things.
it's only with hindsight that i realise i did have pnd.when i spoke to my hv at the time, she just said anyone would be low with all the probs we were having.( ds2 had some health probs which were minor really but upsetting)so i was never treated.but as dh says crying for the first 12 months of ds's life isn't normal!( exaggerating but ykwim!)
sorry to yatter on.no point going on and on like this.

the fact that you were both a little dissapointed means you need to discuss the possibility that you might like another child.
fwiw, i had severe pnd after ds2 largely due to a miserable pregnancy and a traumatic birth, i did not have pnd with my next baby though.
if we all waited until it was the "perfect" time to have another child, no one would get pregnant..