Surprise pregnancy and soooooo tired

[iamrubyfinch]

Hello - this is my first post on Mumsnet! I found out I was pregnant with my first child a couple of weeks ago and I think I'm about 10 weeks. I just cannot believe how exhausted I feel. Daily life is a complete chore. I can't concentrate at work. I feel like I've had a sense of humour failure and am unable to converse with people properly. This was a surprise pregnancy, so I'm still getting my head around it all, but feeling so awful all the time is not helping at all. I feel like I'm such a bore to be around, I'm sure my boyfriend must think I've turned into a whole new person - for the worse. I haven't told people yet, so I can't talk to my friends about how I'm feeling. On top of all this, my mum had 5 miscarriages so I'm worried about that too. Any advice? Thank you x

Congrats! But I know what you are going through, mine was a surprise pregnancy too, I had one week of feeling ok and then wham, felt like shit. The knackeredness is absolutely awful. Are you sure on your dates? The exhaustion does start to wear off after the first trimester and if you don't have any sickness or similar then you should start to feel better quite soon.

But it is a headfuck, isn't it, when it is completely unplanned? It took me weeks and weeks to get my head around it. Didn't help that I had HG and turned into a complete hermit for the next six months and spent the whole time ranting at DP. The pregnancy making me feel so awful really didn't win me over, to be honest...

Just rest, and be honest with your boyfriend. Early pregnancy can be bloody miserable but most people I know said 9-10 weeks was the absolute worst. Just tell him that and apologise if you want to. I'm sure you'll be feeling better really soon and can start enjoy the pregnancy.

Thank you @thurlow - it's good to know I'm not the only one. I'm not sure on the dates, but I guess they'll be able to confirm that at the first scan which is in a couple of weeks. I'm definitely going to take the advice to rest - NO plans at all for the weekend, bliss! How far along are you?

Oh, three years past that date, my unplanned pregnancy is snoring upstairs I thought I was nearly 10w when I found out, rushed through the dating scan and... and teeny tiny 8 week baby was on the monitor. Rather embarrassing all around!

I did find the scans helped though. Before that I just felt ill, as if I had really bad flu or glandular fever or something. Seeing the scan did at least help me start to believe there was actually a baby.

Haha, a little snoring three year old - cute!

You've hit the nail on the head - I think despite two positive pregnancy tests and feeling the way I do, I still find it hard to believe that there's a baby inside me! Just counting down the days until the scan now.

Firstly congratulations

The tiredness will pass, plenty of water and eat as well as you can.
I had was continuously tired 8-12 weeks, i was sleeping over 12 hours at a time which was hard with my job and was found several times fast asleep in a corner, then had this new lease of life until around 35 weeks where sleep becomes impossible.
I too had a surprise pregnancy, she is now 3.
Once you've been scanned you'll begin to relax and start to enjoy it

Thank you @notamonkeysuncle - and nice to know Im not the only one who could be round snoozing in a corner! It's good to know the tiredness should pass soon, I don't think I can cope feeling like this for much longer.

*found, not round!