does anyone feel this way?

[deborah86]

Hi guys, just wondering if anyones been the same as me. I have been having terrible ms and dizziness for the last 4 weeks. I am now 10week along. I cant stop crying. I constantly feel like I'm not coping with this pregnancy, at all. I feel terrible! like I've had the worst hangover lasting 4 weeks, and counting. I feel like I should be happy but because of how im feeling im just not enjoying the thought of having my first baby. It took us a while to conceive with a few visits to see fertility specialist. so its been a long time coming. I just wanna know if anyone feels the same? And is it gonna start feeling better?

I have been there! All I can say is hang in there, once the sickness settles down hopefully you can start to feel more positive. Although for me it was a small window, as then SPD hit! I still have times when I feel totally overwhelmed (27+4 weeks) and like I can't cope.
Once you see the scan, that might help. Also, I find baby shopping helps too as I feel I am doing something practical to prepare for the baby's arrival. Then there's the kicks - when you start to feel those it does make things seem better.
It's ok to not enjoy every minute of pregnancy. I felt awful about the fact I wasn't enjoying it, and that made me feel even worse. Then I spoke to some of my colleagues and almost every single one told me they didn't enjoy pregnancy either and it felt like a huge weight off my shoulders. Definitely talk to someone supportive about it.

Op, I hate being pregnant.
I feel bad for saying that as I want this baby more than anything and I can't wait for it to be born but I don't do pregnancy well at all and I basically feel miserable the whole way through.
Don't feel guilty, there's loads of us who don't enjoy it, not everyone 'blooms'.
Hope you feel better soon and congrats

I had that in the first trimester, it does get better! But might be worth going to your Gp as they can give you tablets for the sickness and a note off work if you need it (I had a week off, and it made the world of difference. Hang in there and rest as much as you can x

Ive already been giving anti sickness tablets (they only take the edge off) and been signed off of work the last 2 weeks. My manager is not happy at all. I work in retail only 4 of us work in our shop. When i phoned to tell her i was signed off shes said got high blood pressure from me taking time off and her doctor said she can have a stroke/heart attack any day now because of it. So that hasnt helped either. I just hope it doesn't last too long. All my friends who have been pregnant have all had good experiences and so im jealous of them

Don't let your manager guilt trip you, you need to put you first. If she has health issues that's a separate issue. If you go back too soon you eill long term be off for longer! I haven't enjoyed this pregnancy- still sick and spd at 31 weeks. I recently changed medication that has helped so might be worth a try? Your health and baby is more important than work though X

What is wrong with your boss??? I was rough up until about 17 weeks but felt completely fine and normal since (23 weeks now), I think it's normal to feel like you can't cope but I can promise you it will get better xxx

Hi OP the first 3 months were awful for me, I found it really hard - I felt ill, tired, pissed off, angry and emotional. I'm on week 16 now and I feel so much better - it won't last forever

Op I might be wrong but I was under the impression if you're signed off you car actually go back to work (happy to be corrected) due to insurance or something? So your boss can whistle, it's not your problem and don't let her make you feel it is.

I felt like that too! Now I'm 13 +4 and feeling much better though I still feel queasy and off most food most of the time. But I'm clinging on to the hope that in a few weeks I'll be glowing :p

I've been there, I felt like I had the worst hangover for the first 15 weeks on this baby and even longer on the second. Being pregnant is not fun but it does get better, the middle part is normally easier I am 24 weeks and feel fine most of the time. But it is always worth it when baby comes along. Try not to let you boss get to you, you are entitled to take time off if you are sick. focus on yourself and rest when you can.

Arrrhh OP I was so you three weeks ago! The difference three weeks has made is amazing. Yes I'm still tired and feel bit sick but week ten is definitely the worst. Also like someone has mentioned after the scan you will feel so much more reassured and it does make it easier to cope when you can see a little baby it makes it more real. Good luck to you hope you feel better soon.

I'm feeling the same! Was only telling my DP yesterday that I must have been so naive when it comes to pregnancy, as I thought it'd be a walk in the park!
I feel like I've got a nasty bug, but instead of feeling better as the days go on, I'm feeling worse. I can't stand up for long, and keep having to drink water throughout the day (I usually don't drink a lot at all, maybe a litre a day if I'm lucky).
From what I've read, in most cases, it'll all go during the second semester, but I can sympathise that it seems too far away (I'm 7+5).
And, I know it's hard, but don't worry about your manager, your body/baby is most important to you. If she's havig a tough time, then it's her own problem, she shouldn't be guilt tripping you too.
We just gotta hang in there! It'll be worth it in the end :)

I defiantly felt like that around then. It will pass. X

I really feel for you. Early pregnancy is so so hard, and I for one had no idea it would be!

Rest up, look after yourself and fingers crossed it will ease up by the second trimester (mine went overnight at 13 weeks ish, I'm now 18 weeks and MUCH happier!)

i felt completely antisocial and didnt wants to leave the house or do anything for the first 16 week or so. i was so worried that i'd feel that way throughout, but it has cleared up significantly. hormones will do a number on you !

I felt like I was waking up with a hangover every morning from about 5 to 12 weeks. I didn't have a lot of sickness, I just felt tired, antisocial and a bit down to be honest. We were over the moon to be pregnant so I was confused why I was feeling so negative about everything. After the 12 wk scan that lifted a bit and now I'm 26 wks and feel great so trust me it passes:-)

Totally normal OP my little boy is now 18 days old and I'm lovely being a mum, I love him so much. Pregnancy tho I do not miss AT ALL I had sickness from 5 weeks right up till 30 it did calm down at 20 weeks but felt sick even tho I'd stop being sick. Morning sickness were the hell did they get that from I had it all freaking day and night lol

Hang in there it does get better and once your baby is here you will look back at how quick being pregnant went.

I hope you feel better soon and remember the sickness will calm down

Pregnancy is a means to an end really, rather then a state to enjoy every second of, and you can feel pretty rotten for various reasons during it, it doesn't mean you are bad or somehow less wanting of the baby! I've not loved being pregnant, I'm probably in the best bit now for me at 25 weeks, but even then after a few days in a row at work and aching back and tired I feel thoroughly pissed off and miserable. Sickness is the worst as well, it takes everything out of you when you have very little energy anyway. You will get through it and I hope you feel better soon! And your boss sounds horrible, just remember your health and baby are more important than your job in the long run so don't feel bad for prioritising them!

Come a join us on the December thread. We are all grumbling about ails and it helps to grumble together. Some girls are terribly sick. I feel knackered. Like I run a marathon all the time. But we are all united.

So glad you posted this - I also feel AWEFUL. Like others have said - like the worst hangover of ALL TIME. No one bloody mentioned this before I go pregnant, or if they did I didn't pay attention. I cant understand how people have more than one child - who would do this again? I try to remember not to project the present into the future - perhaps tomorrow it will be better.......
Which vitamin tablets are you taking? I recently changed mine (i.e. two nights ago) from boots own to the pregnacare ones and have felt a bit better. Worth a go maybe?
If your at 10 weeks you must have your midwife appointment coming up - I'd def mention how you feel then.
(Had to leave the December thread for a while - people kept posting about how bad they were feeling in great great detail, which if like me you are feeling really rotten, makes you feel worse. Waiting till the 12 week mark to go back so people are onto discussing stuff other than the intricacies of their sick (they seem like a really nice bunch tho so if you can stomach the detail def try there too)
Stuff your manager! def not your problem - sounds passive aggressive to me.