neurotic 1st pregnancy. ....

[buggerboooo]

hello!

I have just found out that im pregnant. really excited, we have been trying for 2.5years!

I have got a real achey stomach, feels sort of heavy just under my navel. it has been like this on and off for a few hours. I am terrified that I am going to go to the toilet and find blood

I don't know what I should do to try and make sure the worst doesn't happen

I am only 5-6weeks.

please make me feel better x

Congratulations! I hope everything goes well for you. Random aches and pains and cramps are normal in pregnancy. Usually they're totally benign and just implantation/stretching type pains. That doesn't stop any of us worrying about each twinge though, so you're not alone. In terms if things that you can do - not a lot really, other than the sensible obvious things (folate, upping hygiene a bit, not eating/drinking restricted foods. See the NHS website for this info, not google. You'd never eat anything if you took advice from there).
Sadly some pregnancies do go the wrong way, but it's usually down to chromosomal abnormalities and there's nothing you can do about it. It's not your fault and there's not really anything you can do.
Take care of yourself. Make sure you're brief on the mainstream dos and don't sand try to enjoy it.

thank you.

I know there is nothing I can do about it, I am just so worried that it may have died.
would you be able to see anything on a scan at this stage?

Probably very little at this stage. Or too little to be reassuring. Usual early pregnancy scans are nearer the 7 week mark to see a heart beat. But every day you don't bleed is one day closer to a good outcome. And the chances of anything going wrong without bleeding are pretty small.
It's sooooo common to feel the way you do. I certainly did and I'm sure many others sympathise too. Incredibly frustrating not knowing, let alone not being able to do anything about it.
Be reassured that not bleeding is good and try to distract yourself (much much easier said than done).

Bugerboo i was like this too. We were trying for a year. I had a total neurotic break down on week 5. Then i realised what will be will be, i have no control over it except for doing the best to taking my folic acid and keep myself healthy (which is not working atm since all i can eat is fruit, chips and crisps). You probably need to step away from mumsnet/google for a few days, content yourself that today you are pregnant, and take each day one at a time. I did that, and cured my craziness. What will be will be, that's life and for now you are pregnant and that is fantastic. Congratulations

BTW in my neurotic phase I was convinced I would just go and get an early private scan but then read that this can also cause worries because sometimes its too early to see a heartbeat. So i thought it was best to wait as I could not cope with having just another reason to believe that this pg was never going to happen really. I am now way more content. If it helps, it seems your fears are just totally normal and that is only just another sign that you are pregnant!!

In my experience a lot of long-term ttcers feel like this. The early weeks pass so slowly, with no indication of what is going on in there. If you want an early scan, try to wait a bit if you can. You might be able to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks but you might not, so it might not provide any reassurance at all.

When I got my BFP I was in the middle of what I thought were the worst period pains ever! Low abdo cramping and backache. It lasted till about 7 weeks I think. I too thought I was going to find blood when I went to the toilet. I did have some bleeding at 8 weeks - went in for a scan and everything was fine. I'm now 27+4.
All that to say - its totally normal to worry (especially as you have been trying so long), but all you can do is try to look after yourself the best you can. Even if you do find blood, it doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong. 5 weeks is definitely too early to see anything. 6 weeks you may see a heartbeat, but may not. 7 weeks onwards you should be able to see something positive.
Hoping for a healthy 9 months for you!

thank you so much.

it is horrible, I have no idea what is happening in there. I am terrified each time I go to the toilet! !

I went to the doctor today and she had a poke, everything felt fine.

it just seems such a loooooong wait for 7 -12 weeks to even check I am still pregnant, and nothing has gone wrong!!

I just want to do a pregnancy test every day to reassure myself- but then I dont think even that would work because it can take time for the hormones to drop if I have lost it. doesn't it?!

my god I sound completely mad, I feel like I am going mad!!!

you sound utterly normal, be it your first of fifth pregnancy, after one month or ten years

do whatever it is that helps you get through the days

hey buggerboo, I am exactly the same, 5 weeks today, has taken 2 years and several failed rounds of fertility treatment to get here hence my fear that something else will go wrong! I really just want to get to 12 weeks and for it to feel real, even my parents dont want to get excited given my past! x

aww j200!! congratulations! I have not had fertility treatment but I know just what you mean.

it almost like I have lied about being pregnant- I dont look or feel it. I dont feel sick and my boobs dont even hurt!! I just feel like I am just getting my period (AGAIN!!) but before it comes I am disalusioning (sp?!) myself that I am pregnant.

I have to keep looking at the tests to make sure im not completely mad! I do realise I sound completely bonkers!

It's definitely not just you @buggerboo - I'm about 10 weeks and paranoid about every twinge. Then when I didn't have cramps for a few days I got worried too! But I'm trying my hardest not to worry too much, in the belief that what will be will be. I'm hoping I feel better after the first scan in a couple of weeks if everything goes to plan x