house move stress and meltdown....some hand holding please

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I'm lying here in bed trying to calm down and stop crying. The removal men are coming tomorrow around midday and there is so much to do still I can't even think straight. Am 36 weeks pregnant and I can't take this at all I am so worked up and stressed.

We don't have to be out by tomorrow so if we have to do some trips with the remainder in the car we can do that. I don't know why I can't see this rationally and calm myself down but I feel so hysterically upset about it all. DP has been at the new house all day which we have been refurbishing and he has been trying to finish everything off. So its not like he is relaxjng...but I've been here all day trying to pack and I just couldn't do it all on my own. I just feel defeated and overwhelmed and can't think straight.

It felt good to write this down.

Maybe I shouldn't have put this in pregnanvy board...but its that which is making me feel like this and I really need to keep my blood pressure down.

I'm 36 weeks and was in tears today because having trudged round sainsbury's I couldn't put it all away in the cupboards. Just too tired and uncomfy. So the thought of trying to pack to move house..... hats off to you.
As you say, it doesn't all have to be done by tomorrow so pat yourself on the back for having done anything at all and try to sleep well. Sweet, non-achy/suffocating/reflux/needing a pee/bizzare dreams.

Thank you so much. I know you're right. I need to get a grip. Even just putting it all down started to calm me...pregnancy hormones plus inability to do what you know you could otherwise do is just a frustrating combination

It's horrid. I've done it when pregnant and it wasn't fun, I was all over the place and not at my best! But ultimately it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. And it will happen and it will get done. At some point you have to let go and just take it as it comes. It doesn't matter if you DP has a few trips in the car.

Have you got much help, or is it just you and DP? I'm pretty sure removal men are very used to people not quite being packed up - they will help!

Huge sympathies op. I posted recently saying I felt totally overwhelmed (36 weeks too!) as we're midway through some major building work and our house is upside down and in a complete muddle. A few other posters said they were doing similar moving things and were finding it particularly stressful too. So you're not alone!

Perhaps at this stage in pregnancy it's important to have a stable "nest" - and we're melting down because we haven't got one!

Good luck- I would say try not to fret but know that would be futile! Go with it, it'll be over soon (says I, twitching every time I see the pile of storage boxes in the hall and the leaking ceiling in the upstairs bathroom) xx

I'm 32+5 and have to find a new place as well as give a months notice and find the money for a deposit before my baby gets here. It's got me pretty hysterical when I've been thinking about it and I just can't face it. Been hinting at the husband to just take over because it will cause me a break down

Thanks so much for replies. I managed to fall asleep then woke at 4am to the sound of dp attempting to pack the kitchen. Couldn't get back to sleep for a while but am not feeling so stressed today. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this but equally I feel bad for the everyone else. I'm trying to just focus today on the fact that within a week it will all be moved over and that then I can sleep all day whole Ds is at preschool....

We moved during my last pregnancy but this move has been so much more difficult at 8 months instead of 5.5. I'm definitely never moving again!

Thanks for the moral support.

And it is definitely about the nest. One reason this has all taken so long is that when we got the keys we had a proper look around the house and I freaked out at the 20 years of other people's grime in the bathroom and decided there was no way I could bring a newborn here. 2 weeks later and considerably poorer I now have a bathroom fit to be my nest. I shudder at the state it was in before...

And mrssaucepan you are right. It will happen and it will get done. This shall be my mantra. Grandparents are helping in the form of childcare...

Just to add some support. It's easy to get overwhelmed, we moved house at the end of my first pregnancy and I found the whole thing so stressful even though DH took care of everything. In the end, I went into hospital for induction living at one house and spent 5 days in hospital (EMCS) and was discharged to new address! Poor DH had to do the entire thing by himself but the stress was totally worth it as moving with a newborn would've been much harder! You will get through it and can start making your new home ready for baby :)