Bereavement in pregnancy

[Mistyautumn]

Sorry not sure where else to post this and need some support.

Just found out about an hour ago that my dad has died. I am incredibly upset as it was largely unexpected but am also really scared about what effect this may have on my baby. Am 20+3

Sorry don't know where else to vent and DH isn't home for a few hours x

Your baby will be just fine. Just focus on looking after yourself as well as your family x

Misty I'm so sorry. Your baby should be fine - I will sound daft but try to stay as calm as you can right now. You must eat and drink if you can try a . Can anyone be with you until DH gets home?

I'm very sorry for your loss.

i hope you get a hug from someone in RL soon - and theres one from me [hugs]

As long as you look after yourself, your baby will be fine.

So sorry for your loss, have you got anyone you could ask round for a cup of tea?

Some friends are on their way thanks guys. Just don't know what to do with myself. Used to being able to do something in these situations but my parents were in New Zealand when it happened so I can't even rush home or do something useful x

Glad you have some company OP

Who is your mum with? Sounds like a terrible shock, must be very hard being so far apart right now.

Bless you. There are no words for how awful that must be. The best you can do for your baby is to look after yourself and let others look after you. If it helps at all, my best friend's mum died when she was about 30 weeks pregnant. The little one concerned is now 13 and taking GCSEs several years early, considered gifted in several subjects and is a really lovely bright young lady (we have no idea where she gets it all from!!). Take the time you need to do what you need.

So sorry for your loss! Losing a parent is devastating at any time but just make sure you look after yourself xx

I'm so sorry to hear this OP

I was 3 months pregnant when my Mum died and it had no effect at all on my DS.

sorry for your loss. take care of yourself.

So sorry - baby will b fine, but please look after yourself.

I'm so sorry. I lost my Dad, very unexpectedly, when I was 7 months pregnant with my first baby. The baby was fine and I ended up naming him after my Dad. And knowing the baby was coming gave me strength to get through those horrible days of grief. He was my reason for living and looking after myself. Take care of yourself, it's so hard I know.

So sorry for your loss, I know words won't make the pain go away, but give yourself time, get some friends around you and focus on looking after yourself. Baby is going to be fine.

I agree, your baby will be absolutely fine. Be kind to yourself and do whatever you can to get through this difficult time.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and know exactly how you feel. My dad died when I was 15 weeks pregnant with DD1 (not unexpected, his terminal illness was one reason we were keen to start a family as soon as possible). Your baby will be absolutely fine (though I recognise that worry too), and a source of strength and hope to you and your grieving family. It was the strangest feeling, being so desperately sad, and yet having the happiest of things going on at the same time, but ultimately I think being pregnant helped me (and my mum) through that awful time.

I'm so sorry OP, I recently lost a cousin and I felt like the amount of crying I did would be really bad for the baby.

Remember to take care of yourself as others have said. Lots of TLC and hugs cause you're in shock right now xxx