Feel like a fraud

[Lula2515]

Had my dating scan a couple of weeks ago and am currently 13+5. But I just don't feel pregnant. DP's family come up to me and congratulate me and I just feel like a fraud. People keep asking me if I'm excited and I try and pretend but really I feel like "excited about what?!"
I know I sound completely nutty and I want to be as excited and pleased as people think I should be but I don't know what to do. I'm going to have to start practising an excited face!

It can take a while for it to sink in. I've only just started getting a proper bump in the last few weeks and now feeling a lot of movement so it feels ver real now. I'm 28 weeks. I didn't have many symptoms early on so can understand not feeling pregnant at your stage, most days I just felt like my normal self just bit tired. Don't be hard on yourself and try and enjoy the attention people will give you :)

Hey Lula - I had an early scan at 6 weeks and was so underwhelmed it wasn't funny...my comment to the nurse of "is that it?" didn't exactly go down that well either, but at that point in time it was literally just a flicker.
I did get more excited when I heard its heart beat for the first time, but now (currently 11+4) I'm just like you - i don't actually FEEL pregnant and sometimes even forget... I mean I know I am - I'm eating like a horse and feel knackered, but my head doesn't tell me I'm pregnant...does that make sense?!
I'm hoping Scotmum is right and it will come...

I think that sounds all perfectly normal. Imagining what it will be like and what it will actually be like when baby arrives are two very different things IMHO. Don't feel you have to be excited, feel free to say you are still letting it sink in - it's such a big life change.

My DH couldn't get excited until our DD was born (and he absolutely dotes on her now) and now we are having our second later this year (I must be due around you in November). I had my scan the other day and I now look quite pregnant (joy of second baby!) but it's not sunken in for me either. I know I'll be excited once the baby is here and my DD gets to meet her sibling and probably try and feed it sultanas and make it drink from her water bottle like she does with her dolly

Oh, I should add, I once dropped the bombshell at our antenatal classes that I didn't even like babies really .

I'm a changed woman now

I think that that is why we are given 9 months.

HMR that's really made me laugh - there is hope!

I'm 17+5 and my mum said something the other day, I think she was saying how excited she was. I got a sudden burst of stress thinking 'oh no, she'll be so disappointed if nothing is really there'.

And I've had lots of scans, so I know there is something on the screen - I'm just not able to link it to being inside me. I can't wait to feel movement as I think that will change things and make it feel more real.

I totally understand what your saying! 12 week scan, it still didn't feel real. But when I got my 20 week scan it proper sunk in. I'm now 24+4 and have quite a bump and can feel him kicking about. Such an awesome feeling and mega excited to meet him in August xx

I was like this, but more nervous. Couldn't believe I would ever get a bump. Little bump and movement every day.
Now I just have to get the labour + baby nerves out of the way!

Thanks ladies! You've made me feel much better! Yeah I'm hoping when I get to the feeling movement stage that it might sink in a bit!
HMR you made me laugh!
Xxxxx

I'm 27 weeks and it still doesn't seem real sometimes!
I've had 3 scans (early one at 8 weeks due to bleeding), heard the heartbeat, feeling the kicks, got the bump, I've had almost every symptom going. Yet I still sometimes feel its all a little bit surreal.
At all the scans I struggled to associate what I saw on the screen with the fact that was inside me.
It's such a major thing, it is going to take time to sink in. I also think that if it's your first (as mine is) you have no real idea of what is going to happen that coming to terms with it does take time.
Don't worry about it! It'll feel more real as time goes on.

36 weeks, still don't really believe that the lumpy wriggly thing inside me will very shortly be a baby. Me? That lucky? Nah. Just don't see it happening really. Despite the nursery and the scans and the nocturnal gymnastics.

It is my first.. And I had a miscarriage last year which probably doesn't help with believing it'll happen. Thanks guys! X

Hey Lula,

I'm now 32+1 with my first, I also had a miscarriage at 13 weeks almost exactly a year before getting pregnant with this one. It wasn't until the 20 week scan that it started to feel real, until that point I was just waiting for something to go wrong and I just couldn't get excited or believe I was actually going to have a baby.

So, give yourself time it'll feel real soon enough but it does take a bit ofgetting used to.