AIBU smug friend comments

[squizita]

Due to medical reasons, I'm having my 1st child after most of my friends. I'm a boring old 30something and most of my (parent) friends say I'm too serious, always worried when its OK to go "aaah little booties" in the shops.

Except one friend. Ever since I got successfully pregnant (I.e. past 1st trimester for 1st time) she's been a bit weird/smug. Like she wants me to be a shallow fool coming down with a bump! Examples that really get on my wick:
-SHE will tell a joke e.g. "Oh a girl! You'll have to dress her in tutus EVERY day haha! Tutus on the list with nappies!" And I'll laugh along "haha yeah tutus." And she'll suddenly act like I seriously said her joke, tell me there's more to raising a girl, they're not a doll etc. (1) I'm a child development professional not a compltet idiot (2) SHE made the joke, I just laughed along.

• She constantly tells me I will be fat and badly dressed and never wear make up when I have my baby. In a way that hints I'm a shallow bad mum or fantasist if I so much as hint I would try not to. TBH this offends me on behalf of all my other mum friends... They all look very nice. Or does she think I'm the rogue secret tramp?

Is it just me? Anyone else get the "you'll be a mess" naysayers? Just preggo rage?

Squizita stalks out and self I administers slap and ...

but generally first timers are quite annoying and a bit clueless. it sounds like your friend is taking it all very very personally tho. and there will be a reason for that

As I described, this all comes from her... so there's nothing for her to 'take' personally! I'm absolutely NOT one of those people who goes "oh I'll breastfeed while saving whales and making perfect organic dinners and it will be a breeze" anyway (which I guess are the annoying ones?). I don't even go 'oooh cute clothes' when experienced mums are there as they'll probably be thinking "will get covered in sh*t love, buy plain ones on special offer."

She is not responding to anything I say (because I don't say anything to her about it).
I also have loads of other friends with small kids and as I mentioned their advice to me all 'matches' each other, but hers is much harsher, if you see what I mean?

oh totally, i think i was moving away from your situation and talking a bit more generally, soz.

when i told my sister in law (mother of 3) that i was pregnant with my secnd she said 'and now you get to find out how annoying first timers are'. i think i replied that i actually felt sorry for them because it was so all consuming and just endless the first time around. so its a universal issue

the point which does relate to you is that she is taking you being pregnant personally. for her own reasons. she shouldnt have time to be reacting like that, if its all SO SHIT