It's started already?! polite ways to say FUCK OFF

[GingerRodgers]

Arrrgh!!

I'm way over sensitive about my weight at the best of times but being pregnant magnifies these feelings and I am aware of this.

Two weeks ago people were commenting how you could barely tell I was pg, how tiny bump was etc.

Today, neighbour shouts over the fence "look at that bump, you sure there's not two in there?"

Har har hardy FUCK OFF!!

22 weeks and bump popped out about a week ago but ffs, I'm meant to have a bump right?! The baby is (from what I've read) nearly a foot long head to toe so where the buggery am I meant to hide it?

Just need to rant. Hate this part of pregnancy and I know people talk before they think but it really upsets me and I didn't think it would start so soon with this one.

Off to cry into some chocolate

I think penguins has put it perfectly. I'm only 12 weeks but am not looking forward to the weight comments/bump stroking/competitive pregnancy/birth stories! My MIL asked me at 7 weeks how much weight I'd gained so far

Penguins and Vaseline have hit the nail on the head. OP, I am also heartily sick of this. I've had so many 'ooh you're very small / neat' comments that I started to panic the baby wasn't growing properly (it's my first so no point of comparison) and had to get the midwife to reassure me. It's really not helpful!

MrsWolowitz, is it a non issue if it genuinely upsets me? I'd love to have a thick skin and not be so sensitive about comments like this but I don't so it does hurt.
I just genuinely do not know why people need to comment on my weight or size especially when it's not a positive comment?
And no, I wouldn't cope having twins.

I'm not even particularly sensitive. I couldn't give a fuck what people think. But it angers me. I don't think you're unreasonable or overly sensitive to be upset.

With DS4 I had extra fluid and the amount of people who came up to me and said "you're definitely having twins" was insane. This time I've had "ooh, I bet you're hoping for another early one, aren't you?" Because the month DS4 spent in NICU/SCBU was so much fun .

Thank you penguins
Ellie, that's just awful

I don't think these 'stop being oversensitive' comments are useful. You can't just turn it off can you.
I feel for you Gingers - I currently feel as though I don't exist as a person, but a baby carrier. All comments are directed towards baby (and the size of my bump) so I know where you are coming from.
No wise words though...I was hoping to pick some up off here too

No you can't turn it off Cumbrian. I don't mind talking about the baby but there's not much to say yet really seeing as it's not born yet!
I wouldn't dream of mentioning someone's weight gain or if they had a massive arse or pretty much anything about their appearance other than positives - nice haircut, lovely outfit. I just don't think it's nice. Why can't we be nicer to each other?

My best friend text me to remind me that "eating for two is a myth"...thanks for that, a more subtle way of saying I'm looking fat!