I've had enough :(

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Im nearly 15 weeks pregnant and still feeling really unwell, I've been sick nearly everyday and I keep getting severe headaches, I'm constantly tired. Etc.

On top of that my son is severely disabilled and requires around the clock care we are meant to have night nurses in 7 nights a week so we can sleep but its just not happening I've now got to sleep in he's room constantly waking up for 4 nights in a row, he has loads of hospital appointments etc and I'm finding it really hard keeping up with it all now I'm pregnant.

I literally feel like I'm going to have a break down today.

He's early support team and Commuinty nurses never do anything about it. I really have had enough :(

Really sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I have a disabled DS too and am 15 weeks. My DS doesn't need round the clock care though, so I can only imagine how hard things are for you.

I've felt lost and hopeless and like I've made a massive mistake having another baby. We get no respite and I'm exhausted and have forgotten what it feels like to have an independent thought. I'm trapped in the house and professionals don't care either, I asked the autism specialist worker for help in dealing with DS when he has a violent meltdown and she told me it wasn't in her job description and that i should ask my health visitor!!

Do you ever post on the SN Children board? people there are really nice and never judge when you need to vent and you've had enough. They are really supportive. they are also good at pointing you in the right direction legally and when you are dealing with useless professionals.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat or rant.

Hi no I didn't no there was one I will have a look, I no it's hard isn't it I'm starting to feel guilty now I'm pregnant that I can't look after him properly. We get a little respite 3 hours every 2 weeks and that's provided by our local hospice.

I'm just fed up of the "professionals" they haven't a clue what it's actually like caring for a child with special needs. We are always in to, my partner and I have both had to give up our jobs to look after him as we are just not getting the help we need, which obviously then leads to finical issues but to be honest that's the least of our worries.

Thanks for replying :) xx

Sorry to hear you are struggling. There is medication available which is safe to take in pregnancy for the sickness and nausea. Speak to your gp about it and to get a prescription. Come visit us on the Hyperemesis Support thread for more advice and there are links to NICE guidelines and support sites.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2063618-Hyperemesis-Support

Then hopefully you will have more strength at least to do battle with SS and NHS to get the correct care for your ds.

Thankyou that's a good idea, I will def go this week and hopefully they will prescribe something.

I will click on the link.

Thankyou x

Hello, I have a profoundly disabled daughter (cerebral palsy) who is 4 as well as a neuro typical DD2, I'm 11 weeks pregnant with DC3. This pregnancy has been so hard! I've been really sick too and the lifting and handling has been exhausting and I've been in bed by 8 most nights. I can only say though that having DD2 and I'm sure will be the same with this baby, has been the best thing for our whole family, brought some balance and a bit of 'normal life' for us. Take care x x x

Yes, definitely a good idea to go and get some anti sickness meds. I have had to take them in this pregnancy and they have helped a lot. I was hospitalised for hyperemesis when preg with DS2, no way I could do that now with DS1 out of school.

Last night DS1 woke up just as I was getting DS2 settled and pooed everywhere, all over himself and the bathroom. This led to a massive meltdown and he wouldn't let me clean him up for ages, by which time it was dried on! So the upshot was I was up until 3 cleaning poo and settling DS1. Seriously worrying how I would have managed it with three kids.

But I always wanted 3 kids and it feels right for us, I think I would have regretted it if we hadn't gone for it. Plus it's really nice to have something to look forward to after so much struggle and fighting for DS1.

Hope you had a good night and are feeling a bit more refreshed this morning.