first time pregnancy- anxiety hell!

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I wondered if anyone is on the anxiety rollercoaster.

I have polycycstic ovaries , and have been trying for this baby for 3 years. Finally got there using accupuncture and chinese herbal medicine ( at least that's what we think did it! ) We were totally overjoyed but it is beginning to turn into something quite dark - and it makes me so sad to admit that! I'm just over 6 weeks pregnant with 1st baby and every twinge is sending me to states of major stress. I mentioned to our school nurse the other day that I was getting period like cramps in the lower middle and she packed me off to my doctor straight away. Dr. did a scan and saw gestational sac and egg yolk, put me on progesterone and sent me on my merry way.
My DH thinks I'm an absolute pyscho - but I seem to need a ridiculous amount of reassurance that everything is alright. I am still cramping and I cannot stop thinking the worse. Does anyone here have an tips or advice on how they got through this stage? Driving myself nuts here!

Some little pains are normal it can be stretching and growing pains

If you are worried by a pain always get checked out

You have clearly been through a lot to get this baby so it's understandable for you to worry

I suffered period cramping from early on with DS and he's now a very energetic 9mo! cramping is very normal and will continue for some time!

I'd suggest maybe getting a pregnancy app which tells you what's happening at which week, and what sensations you can expect - that way you'll know what's normal!

Also, don't be afraid to go back to Drs as they can offer extra scans I think. After the 12wk scan you'll be able to relax a lot more!

oh I like to hear those stories LCS! 3Dcandme- I have always heard about the uterus growing etc, and had been ignoring the pains but apparently these should only be at the side of the uterus - not period-y and in the lower belly. Thankfully there is no spotting or bleeding, so in reality I don't have anything other than the cramps to go on.
I went to my accupuncturist last night, and sobbed on the table for half an hour. It was so embarrassing as I hegged my way through the whole thing!

I was terrified too until my 12 week scan yesterday. I had spotting a couple of times and everything was fine :)

I remember the anxiety so well. It will get better, and then it might get worse again... I always found something new to fret over. It was 'just' worry though - the six month old snoozing next to me is proof of that.

I found pregnancy yoga to be a real saviour (classes let you in after 12 weeks). I took the breathing exercises to get me through insomnia-based worry. The breathing exercises were also great for early labour.

Cry if you need to. This is a baby you've been trying so hard for, and your want to protect it is natural. You've also no idea what to expect. Be kind to yourself! It's a long haul, but you'll get there.

I am awfully anxious following repeat losses before (so far so good) now.

It's awful and worrying, but quite natural.

If it's any reassurance, with this so-far-so-good 20 week lively baby I have had cramps, light spotting, insomnia, loose stools, constipation and crrraaazy emotions.
The baby doesn't care. She just rocks out if I give her munch up loads of chocolate or avocado!

It is an anxious time, because you don't know what's normal or not and you can't check yourself if the baby is fine.

I had various pains in the first weeks, from sharp one-sided pains to cramping, lower down in the central region. It is all fine. With pains, unless they are very severe and unless you get bleeding it should be ok.

I got spotting though, which worried me more than the pains. Luckily the doctors and midwifes are very helpful and in my case I have had two scans in early pregnancy. These scans are reassuring, but you can't have them every day! Therefore you just have to remind yourself that the chances are that everything will be fine.

Ah yes. how could I forget the spotting! I had spotting at 11wks which scared the shit out of me! Obviously all fine though I can't remember where the cramping pains were, but I do remember describing them as period type pains.

Unfortunately the first 12 weeks are probably the most worrying I'd say! Try not to worry too much though (easier said than done I realise!)

Totally understand your anxiety you have been on such a long journey to get where you are. Cramping is totally normal I felt like I was due on my period for most of the first trimester. I am 16 weeks now and still have stretching pains in the lower part of my tummy it feels like I've done too many sit ups, also I frequently feel like I've pulled something when I sneeze! :)

I've had pains the whole way through all over the place, I'm 18 weeks now and its all healthy! But if your are worried do go back to the dr's!

Another one who had lots of period type cramping in the first trimester as well as the odd one sided sharp pain. 29 weeks and just had a growth scan today (due to issues in a past pregnancy) and all is hunky dory.

Almost 18 weeks, and cramps almost every day apart from the fortnight I was on holiday in Thailand. I wonder therefore if it's actually digestion related, since I ate quite differently on holiday. Consider that before you panic too much! Also, I spoke to a midwife and a consultant yesterday, and even if it IS cramps of the uterus type area, then they said not to worry.