Does anyone feel like their pregnancy isn't really happening to them?

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I'm 25 weeks pregnant and can feel baby move etc. was planned, it was what we wanted, cant wait etc.
I just keep forgetting I'm pregnant, like when I look online and search sterilisers for example, I forget that I'm doing it for me. I have all this stuff at home for baby and it's like it's not clicked or sunk in that it's for me. It's so weird. It's still hard to believe or picture that in the summer I'll be a mum and we'll have a baby. Is this normal? Or am I going to still feel like this when the baby is here? Will it sink in eventually?

I know exactly what you mean, I'm 20 weeks and although I know I'm pregnant, bump starting to show, and started getting a few bits for the baby, it doesn't seem real yet. I think that the reason it takes nine months to grow a baby, is that mentally you need that time to prepare! I'm hoping it will start to sink in soon! x

I'm so glad someone has replied and feels the same!
I'm just frightened that the baby will come and I won't feel like it's mine or that the situation isn't happening to me and won't bond with the baby.

I have a 15mo and am 25w pregnant.. And it still hasent sunk in that I'm pregnant!

With my dd it didn't sink in until I had gone to the hospital at 40+1 with light bleeding and was told I wasn't going home without a baby... I was hysterical for about an hour, I honestly hadent considered or comprehended for my entire pregnancy I was going to have to take a baby home at the end of it, and you know what? I've got exactly the same again with this pregnancy, just ride it out and wait for the realisation.. Nothing you can do can speed up the 'oh fuck.. I'm having a baby?!' Moment!

That makes feel better too!
I guess it is normal. It's just such a weird feeling.

its ok. im 36 weeks and im still feeling the same. I even have a date for my c section.. I go from complete omg its only 2 weeks to go to thats a mighty fine beer belly I have...

Thanks for the reassurance! X

Yeah I had this. I spent 3 years and a round of ivf getting pregnant, spent the whole pregnancy reading everything about being pregnant, buying everything, cooing over my growing baby, then when I went into hospital in labour and was told I was having the baby I thought "oh s*", I'm not ready! I don't know what to do with it!

Now 25 weeks with my second, I haven't really allowed myself to dare think I will get a baby at the end as I have had complications. I think maybe at about 28 weeks I may dare to believe number two is definately going to join us soon.

I felt like this with all 3 of mine!

I used to kind of zone in and out of it! Like id be doing something and then it would hit me. I'm pregnant! (This happened multiple times)

That is exactly what happens to me. I just suddenly think omg in pregnant, then it goes again, then a few hours later I think omg I've got baby in my belly.
And yeah every now and again I think oh god I think I know how to change a happy, I think I know how to feed a baby. What if I don't actually know? Maybe we purposely don't let it sink in otherwise we'd spend the whole time thinking about it all too much and worrying?
I'm feeling soooo much better now I know I'm not alone.

I was so frightened to ask because I thought people would say no that's not normal, you're not going to bond with your baby, you'll definitely get PND, it'll be a catastrophe. I'm thinking now that was quite irrational of me!

I'm similar. I miscarried last year (much wanted baby from first round of IVF) and this time I am not really allowing myself to believe it might just result in a baby. It doesn't seem real at all.

I felt like this but slowly started to feel a bond from about 30 week's, they were worried about his growth so I think that was a bit of a turning point. However, he is now 3 and I still get the odd realisation that he is actually mine and I'm not just playing mummies .

Don't worry all normal.

Yes I feel like this too. It's been seven years since I last had a baby - got divorced in the mean time and had come to terms with the fact I'd never have another baby. I also desperately wanted a daughter after having two sons and now I'm having a daughter it seems to good to be true!

With my second son, I did a lot of meditating/visualising to be able to bond with him. I had PND with my first and I think that was partly down to not thinking past the birth (possibly in denial?). When he was born I was literally in shock - I couldn't even remember how to shower! I think the visualising really helped with my second - I felt "ready" for him. I'd made time for him already, so when he was here it didn't feel odd.

I'm doing the same with this one, just imagining her in my tummy, closing my eyes and seeing myself holding her, putting my hands on my bump and really thinking about the fact that while I say "when she's here" she is already here, just centimetres beneath my hands and so on.

Definitely normal though, especially with a first :)

And the nappy changing and feeding and all those other things - you just learn on the job :)

I had this phase as i call it lol my mum said she had it with all 4 of us aswell and ive read somewhere it is quite common during 2nd trimester. Trust...couple of weeks youwont be saying it lol my bump has just shot out over the past couple of weeks i just had a petite round belly now its just there! So i cant forget lolx