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12 week scan reassurance

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alita7 · 18/04/2014 14:21

My last pregnancy ended in an mmc found at 13 weeks, my baby measured 9 +4.

Today I am 11 +1 and have my scan next thursday at exactly 12 weeks.

I'm very stressed and worried about it. This time I have a inkling that baby is ok (touch wood) and unlike last time I still have symptoms. I had a scan at 7 weeks which showed a heart beat, but obviously that doesn't mean something hasn't gone wrong since.

It doesn't help that my uncles funeral is the day before, I am going with my parents and am staying the night the night before, dp isn't going as he has dsd to look after and hadn't met this uncle as I didn't see him very often. My anxiety is added to by the fact that I am very worried we will get back late and my Dad (uncle was mums brother) won't want to drive me home as although I have explained the importance of it to him, he is the sort who refuses to be any more reassuring than well we will try... I live in the next town, where the hospital my scan is at is and I have to be there quite early in the morning so even though my mum is coming to my scan, I want to be in the right town, with dp, because I will need him the night before when I'm freaking out and my mum is notorious for being late and there may be bad traffic on the motorway during rush hour- so I just need to be in the right town... But equally I don't want to be all selfish and egocentric when this my uncles funeral, not just a family get together that we are going to! I am just extremely lucky that they didn't arrange the funeral for my scan day as I don't know how difficult it would be to rearrange without much notice!

I need some reassurance to calm me down a bit as I'm getting a bit worked up!

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alita7 · 18/04/2014 14:22

(just to add the funeral is about 2 hours from home)

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cookielove · 18/04/2014 15:20

I was exactly the same at 12 week scan suffered a mmc last year. Had 12 week scan 5 weeks ago, i was fine up until the morning of and then I started panicking. However nothing I could have done would change the outcome, so although it was scary I kept myself busy and took lots of deep breathes.

There's not much you can do about the funeral, but fx your mum realises how important this is!

Bails2014 · 18/04/2014 17:48

This is my first pregnancy, my mum suffered a lot of miscarriages so I had worked myself up into what can only be described as a frenzy, totally convinced that I wasn't pregnant.

Had our scan on Wednesday and we saw a beautiful bouncy baby.

By the time we got to the hospital I was so desperate for a wee after drinking a litre of water I didn't worry, trying not to wet yourself really focuses the mind!

You will be fine xx

Funkyfairy2004 · 18/04/2014 18:38

I know exactly how you feel, I had a mmc in January and got pregnant straight away, we had an early scan at 8 weeks where I sobbed before we went in and sobbed when they found the heart beat. It didn't reassure me at all. However in Wednesday we had our 12week scan. Yet again I was a state going in for the scan but after seeing our baby bouncing around on the screen I felt so much better and for the last few days I have actually got excited which I really never though was possible.
Good luck, you may find that the funeral will keep you from panicking about the scan.
Xxx

Snook99 · 19/04/2014 23:48

I'm feeling exactly the same had mc last pregnancy and got my 12 week scan on Thursday too! Looking forward to it but dreading it too :( I hope the funeral isn't too stressful and please let me know how you get on x

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