Kind things people have said when you're pregnant!

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In contrast to the awful things. What kind, considerate things have people said that gave you a little boost?

Mine:
From a colleague upon finding out: "what a lucky baby, you'll be a brilliant mum!"
From my mum I know she has to say these things "I can come and babysit or bring dinner or push a hoover round when you feel low. Just ask. We've all been there." and "You look like most of the women in our family at this stage, not too big or too small. Healthy!"

My midwife has been really sweet with me this time causw she knows i had depression last time and she's said i can text her every day if i need to instead of bottling it all up. Little things like that make a massive difference

A bit different but when I was heavily pregnant, I was out shopping in Primark of all places and I felt dizzy and had to sit down on the floor a minute, a lovely lady came and looked after me gave me a drink of water, then went and found a manager and made him take me to the front of the queue to pay.
I often think of how lovely she was, real kindness of a stranger. This was in Kingston in 2010 and she was with her mum who was Spanish, if you are a mums netter, thank you!

Not so much said, as written.

When I was pregnant with DD1 I was the first (by a long shot) of my close group of friends to get pregnant, and it caused a minor stir (not married, long distance relationship, small town Ireland). A girl who I had known but not been particularly good friends with (she was older, dated the friend of the guys myself and my friends were seeing, that sort of thing) sent me a really lovely card, telling me she thought I'd a great Mum, that she'd just been through it all having her first child, so if I needed anything or just to talk I could call her any time.

Outside of my family and a couple of friends, it was the first truly positive reaction to my pregnancy.

She followed it up by being truly lovely after I had DD1, and she and another girl from that extended group roped me into an informal coffee group they had. I class them, and the others I met through those coffees and chats as my closest friends now.

I see this thread has very few posts. Three in an hour.

Interesting, eh?

Bit sad too.

I think the kindest thing everyone did for me was to ignore my bump completely and not comment at all, so I could crack on with work, without interruptions, and be able to think of myself as "me", and not some kind of measurable, inflated incubus in their eyes.

My ten year old brother: "I hate it when people make jokes about pregnant women being fat - they're not fat, they've got a baby inside them!"
Couldn't agree more!

I was a heffalump with dd1 at over full term and one of my friends said 'you can hardly tell you're pregnant from the back' it wasn't true, but it made me feel better. Other than that, I honestly can't remember although when dd has been tantrumming, I can remember all the kind people that ever said a nice word or gave me a kind smile!

I've been very lucky that everyone has been thrilled when I announced both pregnancies - but our friends and families have been aware that we had real trouble conceiving, 5 years for DS and 2 years for this one.

My mum cried (with joy) both times.

Some lovely stories here :)

Recently at 37 weeks waiting for a bus with dd, bus driver got out told me he had seen me queuing and had reserved at seat for me And dd. I was so grateful as im suffering with spd I cant stand for long!

My husband brings me a cup of tea every morning and keeps my son from coming in and crawling all over me until about 8am... i think it's really sweet considering i'm normally the early riser

What a lovely thread
The thing I've appreciated most was a lady on the tube who gave me her seat then started chatting and asked how old I was. When I told her Im 25 she said 'oh thats just the perfect age, you'll have so much energy'. This was in such stark contrast to all the people who have reacted with 'but you're sooooo young!' that it really made my day.

Patchwork I've had a lovely comment from the receptionist (who full well knew my age) to that effect, then feigned surprise that I'm in my 30s. Bless her, playing to my vanity!

Everyone telling me how fantastic I look, and how pregnancy suits me. I'm an old first-timer, and it really has boosted my self-esteem to be told how great I look - nobody ever says that to me in rl!

People telling me that DH and I are going to be amazing parents and our baby is so lucky to have us.

My young nephew and nieces hopping about with excitement at the thought of meeting their cousin. Their excitement is so much they can't keep still - its amazing that my baby is having such a great impact on them.

by rl - I mean when Im not pregnant still thinking this pregnancy is all a big old dream

had so many lovely comments it's a shame it's the nasty or inappropriate ones that stick.

my manager at work told me I made her day when I told her (which I was nervous about for some reason)!

This time (pg with dc3) my consultant who has been with me for dd1 and dd2 as I have a blood disorder was genuinely really happy to see me, please for me and wanted to hear about the other two. Best hospital appointment ever!

oh and both dds like to kiss my little bump and say (shout) 'hello baby!' at it at regular intervals. I like that!

In the supermarket car park must have been looking like death after packing the shopping in my car, a lovely lady came over and took my trolley to the trolley bit for me. Really made my day :)

Pregnant with DS I was walking round Boots and started feeling a bit faint, so I sat in a chair near the Pharmacy counter. The lady behind the desk came out and asked if I was ok, got me a glass of water and then carried my basket to the till for me when I was feeling ok to leave. She stayed with me for about 10 minutes until I felt better! That was lovely.

My MIL of all people saying I was the picture of health, had really lovely hair and skin

My mum saying I was born to be a mum.

Folk suddenly 'noticing' I look well when we announced our pregnancy, despite the fact I havent slept properly in weeks and look properly ill! (I know from the things people who don't know I'm pg say!)

Aww this is lovely! I love that people have said I have a nice round bump and it suits me. My husband is always telling me I look beautiful and it helps me to feel it, especially as I've started to get uncomfortable.

People are genuinely happy and interested, in general, and the reactions we got from family, friends and acquaintances were great, as we were trying for 2 years and this is so special :-)

I actually feel a bit teary writing this.... In a good way!!

The reaction of the kids I teach in a secondary school, even the ones who don't normally like me!
A lot of them are almost as excited as my family, it's the first grandchild. Been at the school a long time, so I think most of them, like me I must say, probably assumed it was never going to happen to me, but are constantly asking questions and making sure I'm ok.

Also the reaction of some of my colleagues who knew the problems I had conceiving. Felt like I was personally giving them a good day with their reactions, and in a tough year for a lot of us it has always been a bright point to change discussions.

Definitely something that bring out the best (and unfortunately for some the worst too) in people, so really appreciating the lovely attitude I come across every day.

Whilst in the queue for the ladies, the lady at the front said 'you go first' that meant a lot. She understood.

Waiting my boss told me he was "really, genuinely" happy for me the other day. He's normally quite logical etc, it was really nice.