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Romantic holiday planned - Cloudy with a chance of cocktails, but want to start trying to conceive again??

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Hez2401 · 07/04/2014 10:31

My husband and I have a short overseas holiday planned for Easter to Anzac weekend (18/04/2014 to 27/04/2014) before we start trying again to conceive.

We recently lost our unborn child at 18 weeks last October due to complications, and after genetic testing, we were given the 99% "all clear" that both my husband and I didnt carry any hidden genetic abnormalities ourselves, and it was unfortunately one of those random occurances that could have happened to anyone and will most likely not occur again.

We have been given the green light by our GP and geneticist to go ahead and try again with the assurance that everything, fingers crossed, should proceed better next time round.

Bad news (in a way) is that this good news came sooner than expected and we already had our holiday booked, but are eager to get the 'TTC' ball rolling.

According to my fertility app, having started my period this month on 05/04/14, my fertile days are estimated as 18/04/14 to 22/04/14 (the 21st being noted as most likely day to ovulate) ie I will be ovulating right in the midst of our holiday (Not sure how accurate this is?)

My plan from the start of the year was to stop drinking all together AFTER this short break when we would start trying again, and focus on improving our fertility (not that it was an issue first time around - I conceived on my first cycle off the pill), but I'm now feeling like I dont want to miss this opportunity this month of possibly conceiving while away on this romantic getaway as we will obviously have plenty of time to "practice" and the timings would be perfect!

Obviously, after our previous loss, we will be fairly anxious about trying to do all the right things and take any risk factors out of the equation right from the beginning, this included drinking.

This leads on to my worry that I also planned to have a few cocktails by the pool, wine with dinner etc. I'm not normally a huge drinker anyway, but was concerned how much this possibly could affect our "embryo" in these very early days, even though conception would have occured but implantation wouldnt occur until we returned home and I would be "alcohol-free / non-drinker".

In saying this though, Ive been told "to relax, unwind, everyone gets pregnant on their honeymoons; we conceived by drunken sex; have a few cocktails, do the deed and just see what happens - a few drink wont hurt; just let nature take its course - youre body will tell you if you cant handle the alcohol; "youre protected till 6 weeks anyway", "bubs not on maternal blood supply yet", "drink till its pink", etc etc..

I dont want to be too overcautious with undue anxiety, but I also dont want a repeat of last pregnancy!

Is there a safer side of which I can drink and period when I should avoid?? eg pre vs post ovulation, this many days after, this many days before??

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Dazedconfused · 07/04/2014 10:47

I am so sorry for your loss, poor you.

I wouldn't worry too much about a few cocktails etc whilst trying to conceive. We had been trying for five months and nothing(had been very good no drinking etc) so in December I said ach lets just have a holiday month and enjoy Xmas time etc. Then it turned out that is when I conceived whilst eating and drinking my fill of naughty things. (I'm not saying there is a link just that in reality things will happen when they happen).

Dazedconfused · 07/04/2014 10:48

Sorry I don't really answer your questions at all...I don't know the answers but hopefully someone will

kjh5 · 07/04/2014 11:01

I'd say enjoy your holiday to the fullest and don't even think about feeling guilty about the odd cocktail and few glasses of wine with dinner.

I'm 38wks pg after a miscarriage last July. After we lost the baby, I was so desperate to fall pregnant again straight away and was paranoid about everything I ate or drank incase it could affect conceiving again. In the end DH convinced me to relax and stop worrying as the stress was probably doing more harm than good.

We didn't go away on holiday but planned lots of romantic dinners out with copious amounts of wine and I had a few fabulous nights out on the town with lots of cocktails. I fell pg again pretty quickly with no problems. Obviously I stopped drinking as soon as I found out I was pg (5weeks in - so three weeks post ovulation) and I have just been reassured by the doc that any day now I'm going to give birth to a big, healthy bouncing baby boy!

DH and I used to have an active social life and that has changed a lot over the past 8 months and will do so even more dramatically once this baby is here! I'm excited to meet our LO but I really treasure the memories I have of those carefree nights out and the quality time we spent together, we'll never have that with just the two of us again.

So I'd say, have a fabulous holiday, enjoy every cocktail and every glass of wine and treasure every minute you and your partner have alone together. Those memories will be all the more special when you are looking forward to meeting your baby xxx

hubbahubster · 07/04/2014 11:06

So sorry for your loss.

You're right, there are SO many stories of people letting their hair down and getting pregnant, I'm sure you'll be inundated with them. I know lots of people – myself included – who cut drinking completely while TTC and then miscarried anyway. It really can be just one of those things and it's great that you've got the all-clear following your late loss.

I can't see that having a few drinks WHEN you conceive will do any harm. The sperm and egg are already produced, IYSWIM, and it's just the coming together of those two things at that stage.

And to chuck in my experience, we were trying for four months this time before we got lucky. In that time we had our 10th wedding anniversary and both mine and DH's birthdays, I'd have had a much duller time if I hadn't enjoyed cocktails and naughty food! I actually found out I was pregnant three days after DH's birthday, when I'd had a yummy rare steak, beers and cocktails. Baby is doing just fine (I'm 32 weeks).

mrsnec · 07/04/2014 11:09

Hi, I don't know the answer either but I will share my experience, last year I gor pg after about 5 years of trying and lost it at 13 weeks I did drink a nit early on in that pregnancy.I got pg again 3 months later and am about 14 weeks now. I was cutting down on booze but still wanted to enjoy xmas and my birthday (same amount as you). That was the week before Xmas. My last period started on Xmas day. Gave up drinking on new years day, think I ovulated about the 14th Jan. Not sure if that means anything at all. I can understand your concerns.good luck!

mrsnec · 07/04/2014 11:11

Sorry drinking a bit not a nit!

plokett1 · 07/04/2014 12:29

I completely agree to fully enjoy your holiday, i can understand you worry but and have also been in ur situation after a mmc at 13wks and mc at 9 weeks after doing all the 'right' things! Then fell pregnant again last july whilst on a mini break doing all of the 'wrong' things.....drinking lots, lots of seafood and non recommended activies and am now 39 +1 wks pregnant! Im now a firm believer of what will be will be....try and relax and enjoy yourselves and if possible not even think about it and you'll be surprised at how refreshed you feel! Good luck! Xx

plokett1 · 07/04/2014 12:32

I completely agree to fully enjoy your holiday, i can understand you worry but and have also been in ur situation after a mmc at 13wks and mc at 9 weeks after doing all the 'right' things! Then fell pregnant again last july whilst on a mini break doing all of the 'wrong' things.....drinking lots, lots of seafood and non recommended activies and am now 39 +1 wks pregnant! Im now a firm believer of what will be will be....try and relax and enjoy yourselves and if possible not even think about it and you'll be surprised at how refreshed you feel! Good luck! Xx

plokett1 · 07/04/2014 12:34

Sorry i didnt mean to post that twice!

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