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bluehearted · 07/04/2014 10:30

I'm 18+4 weeks pregnant with dc2. Dc1s labour was horrific and ended with severe pelvic damage which meant I've been having weekly physio since he was born (he is 14months).

Due to the damage from dc1 I have had SPD almost from the moment I got pregnant again (that's how I guessed I was pregnant) and it's making me so low at the minute. I am in constant pain, can't walk for long without my back going into spasm and the pain is just getting worse. My physio is brilliant but I know there's very little they can do to help. I have a body support but that doesn't seem to help.
My dh is wonderful and is so supportive and does so much for me and DS but I worry about how the SPD will affect our relationship because I am so miserable most of the time and just want to cry (which I do 3/4 times a day). My mum stayed with us recently and was shocked to see how much pain I'm in on a day to day basis.

I don't know why I'm posting really. I guess because there's no one I can talk to about this in real life, no one really understands. The chances are I'll be in a wheelchair before 25 weeks. I am having a c section this time, that has already been confirmed.

Sorry for the long post, just needed to have a rant somewhere!!

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Bumbershoot · 07/04/2014 10:46

I don't have anything useful to say but didn't want to read and run. I totally sympathise. I had SPD in my last pregnancy and had a toddler running around and it was just awful - and mine wasn't anywhere near as severe as yours sounds. I'm sorry you're having such a tough time Thanks

bluehearted · 07/04/2014 10:47

Thank you Bumbershoot, sometimes it's just nice to rant and moan somewhere safe! There aren't many people I can talk to about this!

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HandragsNGladbags · 07/04/2014 10:50

Oh you poor poor thing Sad

Pregnancy is such a tough time even without added extras like SPD.

Maybe worth starting a specific SPD support thread if there isn't one already? Do you have your DS in childcare, could you up his hours?

bluehearted · 07/04/2014 10:53

My DS isn't in child care, generally it's ok with him, I don't pick him up from the floor unless I have to, generally he'll get on my lap, I'll stand him on the sofa (holding him) as I stand up then pick him up, that's easier and less pressure on my back. He's been walking since 10 months which helps because he can entertain himself more!

I'm not sure about the SPD support thread but yes, maybe I should start one!!

Despite this, I love being pregnant!!

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