Hormones and dates put me at nearly 7 weeks but I've been dated at 5w5days...I don't get it

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So pregnant again after 3 mc. Lmp was 14/02/14. Due to my history was sent for scan on on 26th march...I should've been 5w3d. All they saw was GS no yolk, and said couldn't be more than 4-4.5wks. Hcg on 26/03 was 8000, 2 days later on 28/03 hcg increased to 18000. Second scan on 02/04 showed yolk sac and embryo development 1mm and sonographer said I was c5-6wks. So today (05/04) i went to Mums (a pregnancy clinic in Solihull) and they dated me at 5w5days and showed fetal HB at 90bpm and measured 3mm. I've been here before where I should've been 7 weeks and measured at 4 wks and fetus just didn't develop. Ended up mmc. Im so scared. My EDD based on lmp dates had me at 21/11 but actual size has me EDD at 01/12, basically fetal growth is 10 days behind. Am I being unnecessarily paranoid? I just can't go through the heartache again and again! Please if there are any good stories out there having been where I am please share with me. I would really appreciate it.

Oh dear hugs Hun, how awful is the waiting game.
I've had a MMC before and understand the weeks and weeks of gong for a scan and the roller coaster you are on gong through that, then when they confirm its MMC is just awful.
I've had something similar this time and had an early scan too at what I thought was 6-7 wks, they told me 5, we saw a sac and yolk. I went back 2 wks later at by dates 8-9 wks and they said 7 wks, saw yolk sac and foetus with heartbeat ( they didn't tell me how fast) and discharged me saying it was viable and only go back if I have lots of unmanageable pain or heavy bleeding and not to worry otherwise!!!!
It sounds like you are in a similar place to me right now, and I'm just clinging on to each day that I don't have any bleeding or severe pain in the hope that's a good sign. They said don't worry so I'm trying not to (almost impossible but I keep giving myself a talking to when I start freaking out and feel sure I've had another MMC)
I try to keep thinking though that this time is different to when I had the MMC, it took me to 8 wks by dates to even see an empty sac, and my hormones were not even doubling by the minimum requirement of 66% last time. They've not tested my HCG levels this Time as we saw something on the first scan, and we've also definitely seen a teeny tiny person in there this time who has a teeny tinier heartbeat but last time we didn't even get a yolk sac...
What I'm trying to say (in a long winded way!) is that it sounds pretty positive from what you've said. Each pregnancy is different and please try to remember that, which is easier said than done i know! You're hormones are sky high, you've got a little foetal pole in there which is brilliant, it could be perhaps that fertilization took a bit longer than you had expected or maybe ovulation t,ing was slightly different tha expected? That's what I was told anyway. And I think the actual level of your HCG isn't necessarily indicative of how far along you are, it's more to do with the difference in the number each time they measure it (again that's what I was told last time)
so as the phrase goes that I have learned from the ladies positivfrikentivity thread (who are preg but had MC/MMC before) 'TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT!' Which is just the best saying ever and I've found myself repeating it in my head to myself when I've been freaking out!!
I've not really got any wisdom to add but thought might be useful to know there are lots of others who share your panic in these early weeks. If you've not been to that thread I'd hop on over there, it's really helped me in the last week since someone recommended it to me!
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Mammysam thank you for writing to me! Yes you're right today I am pregnant and I should enjoy it. I keep getting told not to worry, but I just can't help it. I've had 2 chemicals and 1 mmc. Just so stressed by it. I kinda wish I hadnt gone for these early scans, that way I'd think everything was ok. I'm real sorry you've been going through this. I know there's so many women like us but it just seems so unfair doesn't it? I really hope your bean sticks. Keeping my fingers crossed. I've been in that thread you suggested. A number I've communicated with before on other chats. Will have a look. Really need a positivity boost!

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP. I was in a similar situation a couple of months ago - went for a scan at what should have been almost 8 weeks but was dated at just over 6 weeks. Despite being sure of my dates, because there's was a heartbeat my concerns were dismissed and I was sent on my merry way. Two weeks later I had another private scan that confirmed I'd had a mmc, the baby must have died shortly after the first scan.

It is awful being in limbo, but there really is nothing you can do now but wait and maybe go back in another week to see if baby is still growing. I have read stories of ladies being behind dates and then catching up, or all being well despite the discrepancy, and I hope you will be one them. But realistically, if you're sure of your dates, I'd say it doesn't look good.

You're welcome Hun and glad you've fond the thread useful so far! Even just reading throu helps me, ESP the ones who are quite far thought their pregnancies and who had all this worry in the early weeks like we are now.
Best of uck Hun, today we are pregnant :D
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Hi mammysam sorry you feel like you are in limbo land it's such a worrying time. I just wanted to share my experiences with you, I've been where you are ive had 4mc 2 of those were mmc but we didn't find out until slightly later on. My current pregnancy I went for an early scan due to my history at what I thought was almost 7 weeks they dated me at 5 weeks 1 day as you can imagine I was terrified it had happened again but they were confident things were ok, I went for my next scan and the embryo had grown the correct amount in the time span, eventually my dates and the scan dates evened out a bit I went from being 11 days out to 3 days and that's how it's stayed im now 27 weeks. What I'm trying to say is you never know, it's hard to be positive when it's happened to you before but if your numbers are rising and the growth is consistent things just might be ok, good luck keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Mammysam yes today we are pregnant! I hope you're doing ok. Butterfly good to hear your story. Metalhead I've been where you were. It's such an awful experience. But need to stay positive. Mammy is right, we have to stay positive. Otherwise we're just going to end up on a downward spiral...and that can't be good