Hands off!

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Had a family gathering today, I'm 28 weeks pregnant. I don't mind, and actually really like DS and DH touching/rubbing my bump but at one point, without asking or prior warning I had Mother, Grandmother and aunt crowded round me all prodding/feeling my belly at the same time trying to get baby to move!
Baby of course wouldn't perform on demand so they got the hump!
Of course now it's almost half ten and I want to go to sleep baby is wiggling all over the place and my bump is visibly moving loads!
I was so close to yelling "get your hands off my bump!!" but restrained myself as I realise they are just excited.
Please tell me I'm not the only one who has to put up with this!

Me too lol only i domt really get as frustrated i dont mind :) everytime i go to my parents for bit my brother bless him comes down wigglin my belly to wake him up :p he hardly moves when i go round i dunno what it is, hel be wriggling loads on the way there and in the morning, then just goes sleep i presume -.- then when im home he starts :) ive found that when im doing my cross stitch or keeping active hes very active and when i have a relaxed day hes lazy! Until the night comes that is. Im loving every minute of feeling his movements as i know hes ok in there and keeps me from worrying. He did stretch out sideways last time i was at my parents and i said to my mum omg look at my belly as it was a weird oblong shape 0.o and my mum got to feel his wriggle bumming :) im 26wks...only 14 more to go :D cant wait hehe x

Boogles I wasn't cross with them really, it was just really overwhelming having the 3 of them crowded round prodding!
I do love feeling the baby wiggling, had a rough road early in the pregnancy so find it reassuring to feel her move each day.
I think I'll have to video my belly moving and send it to Mother/Grandmother/Aunt as just because she didn't kick on demand they seem to think she doesn't move at all now!
Of course now we are away from all the family and it's bedtime the little monkey just won't stop moving and let me go to sleep!

Lool bless yas :) im tryna catch my belly going wild aswell :p i love having baths cus it wakes our lil man up and i can relax whilst waching him change the shape :) i think they know where there home is already and so choose to be awake when they are home :D i know how you feel bout the complications i have had some too :/ i understand though the ojverwhelming feeling...makes you think jesus i am here aswell not just a wriggling bump lol a trick indo is put my mobile on my tummy and watch him kick it off :) do that and record it lol x

I'm going to try putting a paper plate or something on my belly and video her kicking it off. But I know as soon as I hit 'record' she will go still! My 6 year old DS thinks it's hilarious how his little sister is "so cheeky"!
Hope everything is going ok for you now after the complications.
Pregnancy is such a worrying / confusing but amazing time and I feel so grateful to be carrying our baby

I had this last night. I was forced into drinking loads of cold drinks and eating an ice lolly to get him to move. As hes not a performing monkey so he waited until I got into bed an hour later to have a disco dance.

Family are driving me mad!!!

I absolutely hate this. Touching my bump is DH's privildege alone, nobody else, excepting medical professionals is permitted to do so. . I'm 32 weeks and bump is massive now, plus baby is extremely active and forever poking out limbs, so perhaps, despite me putting on my most unfriendly face, this is what encourages people to touch .

It is such an invasion of personal space, people wouldn't paw at you if you weren't pregnant, so what on earth makes them think they can do it because you are I do not know. I've even had strangers in supermarkets trying to paw at me which gives me absolute rage.
The other day I had a lady (probably early 50s) go to stroke my tummy as I was looking at vegetables (baby was thrashing around and I was wearing a tight-ish shirt), I grabbed her wrist before she got a chance to touch and snarled "unwanted touching is assault, try it again and see what I do". Usually I just stick with snarling the "unwanted touching is assault" bit, but I was feeling particularly ratty that day. Needless to say she scurried off, thank God!
I have to say I am not normally a violent person but there is something about people thinking they can touch my bump that makes me want to lash out at them.

My grandmother, who I normally get on very well with, tried to touch my bump and got very very snotty and venemous when I politely told her no, she kept saying it was "her right". I saw red and told her until she could learn some damn respect for other people's wishes and until I received a profuse apology, DH, baby and I weren't having anything more to do with her.
DH was even more furious than me and made it very clear to both of our families that what I (and he obviously) say goes and that touching was not acceptable. Perhaps we react more strongly to this though as I am a survivor of sexual abuse, I am not a touch-feely person at all and I have a very strong belief that you don't touch another person without their consent. Also, DH is very protective of me and always backs me to the hilt, thankfully. People claiming that touching a pregnant woman is "their right" really shakes me up, and makes me absolutely furious. Nobody should have to endure any kind of unwanted touching just because someone else is excited, I don't care how sweet it is that they're excited, people need to learn some damn boundaries. .

I should add, I have absolutely no problem with someone asking to touch, provided they accept gracefully when I say a polite "no".

stars "her right" to touch your bump sounds very OTT. With my family I think was because my aunt first saw my husband with his hands on my belly and asked if she could feel the baby kick. My mother and grandmother then launched themselves at me as THEY wanted to be the first to feel something, hence baby not moving to spite them!!
My DS got it spot on when he said "maybe she didn't like you all crowding round", he meant the baby but that goes for me too!

Good for you Stars. A total stranger .

I am 37 weeks and the only people who have touched the bump in a non-medical capacity are DH and my daughters. To me, it is stroking my tummy, not 'the baby'. Even my mother would never suggest stroking the bump. We're not a massively tactile family though.

Yeeh everything seems to be going good so far thankyoou :) they are more worried about me at the mo as i have bad kidneys and one is blocked so im having to take a prophlactic antibiotic aswel as aspirin. Got hospital again on wensdayso will see what they have to say again :) lil man kicked ipad on me tummy erlier today, took me by shock a lil as its the biggest movement ive had yet 0.0 felt like he was spining for a couple of seconds lol x

I don't think I'll mind people touching when I have a proper bump. but I would have a problem if I was at a gathering and I was surrounded by touching or had a queue of people wanting a go :p I am a person and would like to be treated as me, not an incubator. It would especially bother me if these people didn't bother having a normal conversation with me.
As for anybody except dp and my dsds, no one will be allowed to touch without asking and will be in trouble if they do! especially strangers, that lady in the super market must be mental if she thinks she can just reach out and touch!!!

Boogles sounds like you are being well looked after, hope Wednesdays appointment goes well. I know what you mean about the big movements, I know some people think/have only gentle flutters but we see and feel huge rolling movements and elbows/feet kicking out all over the place!! I love it though it's a bit uncomfortable when I get a kick in the ribs!
Alita I don't mind DH & DS touching or if people ask but my mother and I are not close and to have her launch across the room (only to get one-up on everyone else and be the first to feel baby kick) was a bit much!

I'm always tempted to start stroking their tummies to see how they like it. Never had the nerve though...

I don't mind as much as I thought I would, though this baby isn't very obliging and never moves when we want it to. But I was very taken aback at one person having a right good rub of my stomach when I was about 12 weeks and not showing at all. She just launched herself at me before I knew what was happening. That annoyed me.

I mentioned it to a friend and she said "next time they launch at you and rub your bump without asking grab their tits and squeeze!!"

My mother in law keeps going for my tummy when she sees me - last time she did this I said something like "Ah, don't touch my tummy!" but then for some reason I felt a bit bad after this, because I thought it was awkward. I really wish she wouldn't. I've not had anyone else go for it though, thank god.

I think it's awful that people think it's ok to just reach out and touch someone's tummy.