Anyone going through this alone?

[GracieLoo]

I feel like I'm the only one, everywhere I look there are expectant couples. Feeling a bit low and not sure I'm going to cope.

I have been single since before finding out I was pregnant. DS now 3 months, and wonderful. I had wobbles, but it helped to think I could be completely selfish, going to bed at 7pm if I wanted, eating what I wanted, making it all about ne and the baby.

congratulations!

I'm feeling really pressured into having a termination. So much so that I'm actually considering it. I haven't had any congratulations, no one calling it a baby, no suggestion of which support I'll get it I go ahead with the pregnancy.

I know they're concerned because I've been suicidal and had lots of cmht input in the past few months, so I know I should have an abortion instead of being selfish, but I'm not sure I can. I'm scared whatever decision is made.

Gracie, on the first page you say that you want to enjoy that you are pregnant. To me that says quite clearly that an abortion is not the right choice for you.

You have a child already, so you know the reality of what a baby is. Rather than dwelling on what that stupid woman said, can you think about the practicalities. What baby stuff do you need and where will it come from, what baby groups are in the local area that you can turn to for completely unjudgemental support, and find out what if any extra help you can get because of your mh issues.

Try and break it down into bitesized chunks. If I have this baby, it will need eg. somewhere to sleep. I know I will be exhausted and being hungry will make it worse, so I will make sure I have lots of freezer meals.

Apologies if this is stupid advice, I do not know about mh problems at all, but unemotional analysis of a situation always helps me.

I just want to cry. Feeling really low.