Guess the gender! 12 weeks.

[lilviking]

Hi guys this is my first post on here :)

After 14 months of TTC, I am just over 12 weeks pregnant. I Had my scan earliest this week, and just for fun I'd like u to guess the sex :) I am useless with the 'nub' theory and the skull shape.

I was also shocked to learn that the NHS in my area does not offer a nuchal scan to check for downs syndrome and I've been trying to look for signs on my scan. It's stressing me out. I'm 29.

Thanks xx

That's true, I know it's not a diagnostic tool, still, it gives me a sense of being able to relax alittle more. Perhaps a false sense of security. I'd rather use it for fun tho. I know its not going to make a difference on the outcome of the pregnancy.

Interesting about the hair theory. I've had 3 boys and I'm now pg with no4, this time a little girl! My hair growth was ridiculous in my other pregnancies to the extent that DH called me The Yeti! This time, hair growth has been practically zero. I am due in 7wks and last had a leg wax at 18wks pg. I have not shaved under my arms for about 8wks. Bizarre! But interesting how different it was with the boys. It must be a testosterone thing.

I have no idea from your scan. The nub theory can be pretty accurate but baby needs to be flatter than in your pics. It's a disgrace that you're not offered a nuchal scan though! When will someone challenge this lack of choice legally?

And no I wouldn't rush to get checked and waste NHS resources. By the way, that sounds a little harsh of you to say I think. Any woman who feels something is wrong has every right to go get checked and shouldn't be made feel she is wasting NHS resources. I pay my taxes lol.

I think not offering the test is a good thing it saves worrying about something that cannot be cured.

The promotion of ignorance is never a good thing, SoonToBeSix!

Termination is not for me personally but I would always, without a doubt have wanted to know in order to prepare mentally for the impact of having a disabled child. Of course, many parents are still faced with this at birth but personally, if I could know beforehand to prepare both mentally and practically then I would want that option. Other women may chose to terminate and that should be their right too. Not from any moral pov but legally they should be entitled to the same choices open to other women in the UK.

Soontobe It doesn't only test for downs, but other far crueller conditions where the baby would suffer pre-term and die shortly after a (risky) birth. If those are picked up at 12 weeks, the mum can make an informed choice about whether to carry a child she knows will die or to terminate out of mercy.

I'm rather shocked, I thought testing was 100% standard.

OP if it's any comfort, being 29 (indeed even me at 35) carries a low risk if all else is well.

PS as Rexa says, Dopplers are a double edged sword. I have had 3 losses and don't want to buy one because I think not finding a HB each time would scare me more, and it can be a technique thing.

I have doppler and use it for fun. I certainly wouldn't run to the hospital if I couldn't find a heart beat with it, I would assume it was not working well enough. I have gone to the hospital in the third trimester when I couldn't feel movements for half a day and while there was nothing wrong I was glad I went and no one made me feel bad about it.

Soontobe trisomy 18 and 13 are terrible conditions that result either in a later still birth or a baby that dies within a short while of birth - people have a right to know about these conditions if they want to and the choice to terminate if they want to.

Booboo I would love to have one for fun, but cannot 'trust myself' not to get hung up, if you get what I mean.

Attached our pic of abt 16wks(hoping it works as on my phone), notice the flatter forehead? im also in Ni & been referred to early pregnancy unit 3 times with bleeds. everything is fine tho & our little man is very active now at 23/24wks

The NT scan was not an option to me when I was pregnant (baby is now 9 months) in my LHB in Wales.

I paid privately.

For me personally, I do not think I would be able to cope with all the extra help a child with downs may need. And as for the other conditions it can pick up on, I don't understand why anybody would want to continue a pregnancy knowing that the baby would not live beyond a few painful days. Seems unbareably cruel.

Congrats on your pregnancy OP, I really have nothing to say for your picture, as I was convinced I was having a boy up until we asked at 28 weeks. Such a shock!

squizit if you ever see one 'pick up' a heartbeat out of thin air and then fail to find your heartbeat much less the baby's heartbeat, you kind of resign yourself to it being a bit of fun - but I am a stresshead so I do get what you mean!