I was always worried that my DH and I, who often have different ways of approaching problems and questions (though love each other deeply), would find child-rearing a never-ending battleground. At 28 weeks pregnancy with DS1 its already started!
Things we have disagreed on, sometimes more heatedly than others:
- Keep some formula around in case BFing doesnt work well to begin with; or try to stick it out so we dont resort at the first hitch?
- Is a used car seat OK for the first two months? (his point: we rarely travel by car and we are moving in two months and it is unlikely someone would unscrupulously sell us a dud; my point: everyone says not to do that because the seller could be lying!)
- In general I am pretty low-key when it comes to technology and buying thingsnot going to buy many clothes, fancy stuff etc and trying to get some used stuffbut he is uber-low-key and wants to get pretty much everything used (even things well use a lot like the pram). I should add we arent under such constraints that this is a financial necessity.
- Hes been really busy so hasnt had the time Ive had to research things; even rather important issues like circumcision. That said, hes not willing to listen to me saying but everyone says on mumsnet! but wants to make our own logical decision. But I feel this is unknown territory and were better off listening to people whove been there.
I sense Im being a bit controlling, but also I think my views are more informed by the research Ive done. I dont see a good reason to do things in ways I feel are likely to fail. Except if keeping DH happy is supposed to be enough of a good reason!
Please advise if youve been through anything similar. Thank you :)