Pregnant and keep having contractions, very scared and confused

[weirdbird]

Hi

I am quite new here, I am 21 weeks pregnant with my second child and had my 2nd trip to the Hospital on Friday with contractions.

Had a very problematic first pregnancy, lost my DD twin at 15 weeks and went into premature labour with her at 32 weeks, was monitored very closely all the way through, gave up work and finally managed to go to term, but had very bad AND and PND and felt like I lost who I was, because every single thing I did was dictated by my having to be extra extra careful because of the baby.

This time around things seemed to be going really well, apart from a hytias hernia being diagnosed (though thank god I now have medication) and pregnancy induced motion sickness (did I mention I seem to really, really suck at being pregnant?) then on Sunday of last week I started getting contractions, went into hospital, they stopped, was warned to take things easy for a while, that my chances of premature labour with my history where higher than average and sent home.

Did nothing mon - wed, thursday I helped make the dinner and put some washing on, Friday I did a bit more and stupidly had s**, contractions started up again, much stronger and more painful, back into hospital.

I had an internal and wasnt dilated, so they let me come home again in the hope that rest would make them stop,(as until you are 24 weeks they wont give you medication to help) they seem to have stopped, havn't had one today as far as I can tell.

But am scared and confused and wondering how I am ever going to cope, my daughter is 4 and starts school in a few weeks, we where meant to be leaving on holiday tomorrow, which we have cancelled.

Am just resting as much as I can again, but my husband goes back to work next week and I dont know how we will cope if I am still on virtual bed rest. Though they dont know what is triggering them and it may be that its not even something I am doing, but am just doing as little as I can in the hope that I avoid what ever "it" is, if I am triggering it...

Everything is a big ? and I am trying to relax "ha ha"

Am very scared and confused and really dont have a clue...

I am on my third pregnancy. Number 1 DS fine. Number 2 DS bleeding all the way through, lots of pains and contractions and bed rest, similar to you. Now pregnant with number 3 and same thing - bleeding, pains, etc. So I do know exactly how you feel. Had my 5 month scan last week and they had to stop because I was contracting. Not sure what to suggest, but just wanted to offer sympathy. I know how hard it is with other children to care for (I have a 9 year old and a 2 year old). Try not to be hard on yourself and accept if you are feeling emotional. As for school, then I am sure if you explain the situation they can help out - perhaps by providing somewhere inside you can wait for her sitting down? As for Legoland, put it to one side. They are being stupid, but it isn't worth getting upset about, as stress will make it worse. Think about all the trips you will do when your new baby is here and just accept the changes you have to make for now. This time will pass - thank goodness pregnancy does not last forever, although it can feel like it!!!

i had alot of contractions during my last pregnancy too, i have had previous preterm labour too so was in a similar situation. i had an emergency stitch done at 23 weeks as i was dialating.
ask the hospital to give you a transvaginal scan to access your cervix length as the cervix starts to thin and funnel before it dialates and this can only be seen on a scan.
also a great way to stop contractions is epsom salts (magnesium sulphate) put a cup in the bath and have a soak it will relax the uterus. also keep well hydrated. good luck xxxx

Bumping for the weird feathered one!!

How are you doing today?? Any more niggles??

Praying ......

I live in uxbridge which isn't to far if you need anything.

All seems to be ok today

Damn that nesting urge, am desperate to be doing, and am literally having to sit on my hands to stop myself.

It doesnt help that in normal times I am a very hands on person and love DIY, being pregnant just increases this and makes me want to be active all the time.

We are also in the final stages of renovating our entire house and there are lots of little jobs I want to do, though have realised I can sit and sew my daughters gym badges onto her blanket without hopefully causing any issues!

Now I have told myself no more sex, its all I want to do, even had erotic dreams all night, very realistic

Will try writing to Legoland, though I think I have persuaded my hubby to chance it...

Well I feel really guilty, cause I did the washing up this morning, just couldnt face looking at it any longer!

Anyone have any suggestions of activities I can do myself and with my 4 year old that arn't reading, that don't require me moving of the sofa??

Well on the plus side, no more contractions

Unfortunately I still don't feel right and when I was trying to explain to other half what I meant.
I said that I feel short of breath all the time and feel like I cant properly open my lungs, that I feel light headed. I get tired doing this smallest amount of anything, even going on the PC.

My heart can feel like its racing and that I am going to faint.

He got my medication and it does list these as rare side affects, but I was wondering if I am having panic attacks?

What do panic attacks feel like?

Anyway have phone to try and speak to my Consultant, but the normal secretary is away and the person who answered the phone said to call again tomorrow, so hopefully will get an appt see someone.

Wierdbird - I really feel for you. My neighbour has been going through the same thing and has had to lie down the whole time since about 15 weeks. She is now 30 weeks.
She has got through it by getting friends and neigbours to entertain her ds and has put him into nursery 2 half days a week. Ask anyone and everyone oyu know if they can help you. here in Switzerland we also have a similar organisation to homestart (?) who come twice a week to help her at home. Could that be a possibility for you?

Hang in there, you can make it up to your dd in a few months time.